Growing up, we all had that crush—that guy or gal who stole our heart long before we ever knew the true meaning of love. He or she may have been a close friend or a distant acquaintance that you admired from afar, someone who you always wanted to share your feelings for but never mustered up enough courage to do so.
The all too common adage “What if?” likely became all too real as graduation came and went. If only I would have said something, we all wonder. Would that have changed anything?
You may have seen the post in the Sarah and Tobias forum titled, “Who is your CatholicMatch crush, really?”
“Now look all my CatholicMatch friends and family, we posted this thread countless times, and seldom if ever do we get anyone to fess up! Now here’s the rules if you can’t stand the heat, high tail it out of the kitchen, because if you’re going to half-heartedly participate and act coy and cowardly, kindly move on to the next thread, for you have already violated the rules of the game…So in that spirit, I shall go first. Mine as of this moment is…. Ray from Wisconsin.”
Sheila-371804 goes on to describe Ray’s uncanny resemblance to one of her favorite actors, Sir Anthony Hopkins, and goes to detail his faith, compassion and wisdom. CatholicMatcher after CatholicMatcher follows suit and identifies their CatholicMatch crush and in turn, some of those CatholicMatch crushes respond back. It’s the age old scene that unfolds on playgrounds across the nation, “I, uh, just wanted to say that I, uh, like you.”
How is it that the nerves, sweaty palms and racing hearts of our childhood can still hold us back in our adult years? Is it a lack of confidence, skepticism or just plain fear? So many factors can hold us back from the perfect relationship, yet the older I get, the more I wonder if we ourselves are the very thing that stands in the way of our happiness and the love that we all deserve.
By joining CatholicMatch, you have taken a risk. You have put your heart on display for thousands of CatholicMatchers to analyze and pick apart. So why not take the extra step and tell that CatholicMatch crush exactly how you feel?
Don’t worry about what you’ll say or how he or she will react. Instead, look ahead five or ten years down the road. Do you see yourself married? With kids? Happy? You’re going to need a starting point for that life and today might as well be the day.
You may have missed a chance or two in your teen years, but now it’s time to lay your heart on the line. Be honest, hopeful and open to the many blessings God has in store for you. It’s time.