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Many of us have heard the summer hits, “Blurred Lines” by Robin Thicke and “Same Love” by Macklemore which have many dancing to the tune of modern “love.” These tunes are catchy, but the message can leave us, as the song says, between “blurred lines.” So I’d like to draw some straight lines about love so we can clearly understand the love that we should listen to and celebrate.

Definitions of Love

The first straight line we will draw is showing how these songs miss the mark on love. These songs “Blurred Lines” and “Same Love” speak of love in a confusing way which at first appears correct, but if you look at their messages, it is clear these can’t be definitions of love.

“Blurred Lines” reduces love to an urge, not even an emotion which is a common view held by many today. It says, “I know you want it cause you’re a good girl.” According to the song, if we want a good time, to find “love,” we have to fulfill our sexual urges. In other words, the lines are blurred until we give into our desires.

Then there is the song, “Same Love” by Macklemore. He reduces love by relativizing it. He states that all love is the same, thus equal so we should support them all. Again, this can seem like a good thing, but if we look closer, we realize that this definition of love doesn’t match up with our experience or reality and reduces love to a counterfeit.

So now that we’ve looked at the blurred lines; let’s straighten them out by showing how these definitions of love are wrong. “Blurred Lines” states in the song what would happen if this songs’ definition of love is true. The song says, “If you can’t hear what I’m tryin’ to say…okay now he was close, tried to domesticate ya. But you’re an animal, baby it’s in your nature…You’re a good girl, I know you want it.” This is what’s at stake here, if we reduce love to an urge that needs to be fulfilled, we reduce ourselves to animals who “want it!”

We Are Meant for Love

The problem is, we’re not animals, but human persons; we don’t need domesticating or have our emotions control us; we need to control our emotions; we are not made for “it” (sex), but made for love (which can only be personal not impersonal)! We see this by realizing the fact that nobody’s ever died from not having sex, but many have died of a broken heart. The ability to love is what makes a “good girl” not the ability to fulfill sexual urges. We must always remember, we are meant to love and be loved, not as animals, but as human beings and this is the kind of love that God made us for.

As for Macklemore’s “Same Love;” his argument that all love is the same is also a smokescreen. We know through experience that all love is NOT the same. We do not love our siblings in the same way we love our friends. We do not love our parents in the same way we love our pets. If all love is the same; that would mean if someone loves his dog, he should be able to marry him. If someone loves her parents, she should be able to marry them. If someone loves fried chicken, he should be able to marry it. Of course, we know that this does not match up with reality.

He also misses the point that love is not just an attraction or an emotion. I, as a man, can be attracted to many women, but that does not mean that I should marry all of them.

Love is Sacrificial

The non-“Blurred line” version of love is sacrificial. It goes beyond urges, emotions, and the false notion that all love is the same. When we are willing to sacrifice even when we do not feel like doing something, that’s a showing of true love. We are made for one love, which is a true love, God’s love, but it is declared in various degrees. Pet to owner, friendship, family, and marriage can all be termed as “love,” but this does not mean they are all equal forms of it.

A pet to owner is the lowest of the four. Friendship is higher than pet to owner because all human relationships are a higher form of love. Love for family is a stronger type of love than friendship because the family helps make you into the person you are. Marriage is a specific kind of love that is not the same as the others because it embraces all the others (the human relationships) and creates an inseparable bond which is open to life! It is a complete self-giving, other oriented love, not self-centered or “me”-oriented disillusionment of it.

Let’s walk through these blurred lines. Let’s truly liberate ourselves, not to be animals or to give love a name that is trivial, but to embrace love in truth; embrace the “same love” of a love that is worth sacrificing for because it brings us fulfillment and wants what’s best for us. This love is holiness and this is the love God has made for us. So, as the song ends, “Everybody get up!” and live in true love!

(There’s a song I posted that states these truths called “Real Love” if you like musical truth).

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15 Comments

  1. Sara-329369 September 3, 2013

    Amen, brother!

  2. Kevin-674787 September 3, 2013

    nice that someone is paying attention, mindful to notice these subliminal seductions. as if our youth don’t have enough to sort out in the moral and ethical spheres.

  3. Maria-982659 September 3, 2013

    Thanks for this bro! Modern songs create a lot of confusion among the youth and it’s good you explained real, genuine love here so well.

  4. Mike-646924 September 4, 2013

    OkThe “Blurred Lines” By Robin Thicke Is VERY PROVACTIVE! To say the least; I didn’t hear the other song’s But yeah whatever “sells records/ CD’s (its money money) what else; oh yeah for entertainement reasons too! What ever happen to the Good ole classic songs that truly sang about Love and not about SEX? Mike “Peace”!!

  5. Lynea-297530 September 4, 2013

    ROBIN Thicke. I kept thinking Alan Thicke had done something sordid on live tv with Mylie Circus (or whatever her name is). Why are people listening to this stuff anyway? Or more precisely, why are CATHOLICS listening to clap trap?

    • Dominic-981542 September 9, 2013

      Hi Lynea . . I want say . .you ask why are Catholics listening to this stuff or clap trap . . . Your not understanding people live with people . . If they were alone then they would have a choice not watch Mylie Circus & it would be there choice . . its there in our faces to see . . And why not . . . if we need to teach others then first we need to know what they are exposed to . . poor Alan may have wanted company with some one who’s listening to clap trap . . . so he shared some think about and is accused of watching it . . the purpose of ratings such as mature Audience is because we can be exposed to it for sake of others where they are at in life with out judging them or any one.

  6. Joan-529855 September 4, 2013

    Interestingly enough the “Blurred Lines” version with Jimmy Kimmel and Robin Thicke came up on my FB so I clicked on it, not knowing anything about the song. I thought it was a very catchy tune, until I heard the lyrics. I was so shocked at what I was hearing that I immediately looked up the lyrics and was absolutely disgusted. The saddest thing is that this is not a “rap” song, it is a very catchy & fun tune, very easy to duplicate. Little catchy tunes seem to “stick” in your brain, the same way that porn images stick in your brain. “Blurred lines” is musical porn. I would love to take that same catchy tune used in blurred lines and change the lyrics to what love is really about; commitment and sacrifice.

  7. Alma-953915 September 4, 2013

    Thank you! I’ve been so annoyed with both of these songs. They confuse people about what true love is supposed to be. I don’t like listening to the radio, because a lot of the lyrics just absolutely disgust me.

    • GerardMarie-995015 September 7, 2013

      These lyrics can be confusing, but love must be founded on truth to lead us to happiness. Keep shining Christ!!!

  8. Robert-982030 September 4, 2013

    I’m sorry I have listened to “Same Love” and I don’t understand where your argument that my love for my pets is the same as a girlfriend/wife. If you really listen to the song it is obviously about gay rights. Even though I don’t stand for gay marriage, I feel like your argument is out of context and using just the two words “same love.” “When I was in the 3rd grade, I thought that I was gay cause I could draw, my uncle was and I kept my room straight I told my mom, tears rushing down my face she’s like, “Ben you’ve loved girls since before pre-K.” How is this have anything to do with saying my love for “fried chicken” is the same love I have for my family?

    • GerardMarie-995015 September 7, 2013

      Robert, agreed. A love for a pet is not the same as we have for a girlfriend/wife. They absolutely are not the same except they are both labeled “love”. This is the error of the song. They are not the “same” except for their label. Hope this clarifies things. God bless.

  9. Joan-679620 September 4, 2013

    I take the gist of this article to say know what you are listening to–be aware. Its up to each of us to define our value system and be discerning in what we allow our eyes to see, ears to hear, and mind to think. Unfortunately, if a song has an appealing beat, many people say the words don’t matter. Many of these songs have subliminal messages that are not helping us travel what I call the “believer’s path.” Some of the lyrics have in your face lyrics. Blurred Lines has subliminal and provocative lyrics. If you doubt it, simply google the lyrics and you might be shocked. At the end of the day, the following in a very pertinent scripture in times like these: Be not conformed to the world, but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.

  10. JoAnne-820742 September 11, 2013

    Help me out please. I have shared custody of my 11 year old daughter. She loves both of these songs. If we don’t listen them together there is no way for us to talk about them. The explanation above was even hard for me to grasp so I wondered if anyone had any ideas on how to explain this to my daughter. I remember listening to “crap” as my other called it back in the day and she would make me turn it off or turn the station so I learned how to listen at my friends house’s, in headphones, or anyway anywhere she couldn’t hear the music. My understanding is God loves gay people but he doesn’t approve of their sexual acts. So if someone is gay butt doesn’t act on it, thats okay. So how in the world do you explain that one to your child who is bombarded with messages that the LTGB community should have the same rights etc
    I really don’t want to explain gay sex and everything to my daughter. Sorry, I got off on a different topic there. The Makelmore song is unfortunately catchy and seems to have such a good message its hard to go up against it. Im not a super lberal or lax parent, I just know if I don’t listen here she will at her Dad’s house or her friends and then I lose my ability to know what’s out there and to voice my opinion.
    Thoughts? And prayers always welcome!

    • Gerard-Marie Anthony September 14, 2013

      I would bring down the truth about love, that married love is unique, down to her level. I would compare it to an activity. For example, there are many ways to have fun: water parks, games, movies, etc., but there is only one way to say “soccer” (or substitute what ever her favorite game is). If you change the way you play the game, you get a different game. For example, if we said you could use your hands while playing “soccer.” Sure, it may seem “fun” at first, but in the end, it’s not soccer. It is the same with married love. There is a certain way to participate in one of the “funnest” activities that God has blessed us with. That activity is marriage. We can’t just change the rules to marriage just like we can’t change the rules to soccer otherwise it is not the same thing. Married love is that fun soccer game that has to be played with certain rules, otherwise it loses its ability to bring joy to those who play it. I hope this helps and God bless.

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