So you’re doing it!
As a single Catholic, you’ve made the decision to find someone special. You’ve placed your hopes in God’s hands, and are doing your part by becoming a member of CatholicMatch. Congratulations! I know this is serious business to you. You’ve likely spent many hours carefully thinking about and wordsmithing your profile, interview, and “Favorite Things” sections of your profile. You’ve posted a photo of yourself that you like. You’ve spent a lot of time reading the profiles of potential mates, sending emotigrams and messages. Excellent! But, maybe for some reason, you aren’t getting the results you’d hoped for.
Well, I recently had the pleasure of speaking with Giles Fabris, CEO and Director of Operations for LookBetterOnline.Com, who has some advice that has benefited thousands of online daters and could very well benefit you. That is, your photo is the key that unlocks the doors for meeting the opposite sex.
“In order to get a connection,” Giles stated, “a good photo is very important. You need one that accurately represents you at your best, and just any old photo won’t do the trick. There are specific ways of taking a photo that will get you noticed.” You can see what he’s referring to when you see the before and after photos of just a few of their happy clients on their website homepage.
“If you look at online dating realistically, the website does all it can to find you the best match through it’s algorithms based upon the criteria you enter, but little of that matters when all that is returned are unattractive photos. Think about it this way; your online profile is your invitation to others to find out who you are and when they see your picture, you want them to see what life with you will be like.
Giles knows what he’s talking about. He found his fiancée through an online dating service but not without experiencing the frustration of searching through profiles with photos that did little to represent a woman’s attractiveness, and meeting women whose pictures were nothing like the real woman.
“One of my partners signed up for online dating and was very frustrated with her results. Then she found someone she really liked. He had great photos! She felt comfortable and excited about meeting him. He turned out to be a professional photographer and they eventually married. It wasn’t long before the idea to help people look better online blossomed into what it is today.”
Giles says their goal at LookBetterOnline.com is to help as many people as they can find someone special, and he believes having a great photo is key. So far, they have a 98% success rate.
What other advice does Giles offer to online daters who post photos of themselves? First and foremost, don’t hide who you are. He goes on to explain that women, in particular, are extremely critical of themselves and try to hide their figures or other attributes they feel aren’t attractive. “But,” he says, “all men don’t have the same taste in women and they’re all not looking for a runway model. Right now there are thousands of men out there looking for someone exactly like you. If you hide who you are, they’ll never find you.”
Another great piece of advice he offers to online daters looking to improve their images is to dress up for your picture. It shows others how great you look and that you take care in your presentation. Doing this can often bring out your personality in the photo shoot as you take different poses. He also suggests having photos that reveal your different looks (casual, formal, etc.) For women, he suggests wearing the same makeup for a photo shoot that you would normally wear on a date. That can eliminate a lot of disappointment for both people meeting for a date.
But one of his wisest recommendations is to replace the word “dating” in your thoughts and words to “meeting.” This alone can reduce the stress and worry of online dating through remembering what this is all about anyway…finding someone special and making friends along the way.
Giles says the hidden benefit of having a great photo is that you look at yourself and say, “I like who I am!” And he’s backing his word with a special offer for CatholicMatch members. If you decide to use LookBetterOnline.Com to upgrade your photos, just use the promo code “CatholicMatch” for $40 off.
I encourage you to take a look at LookBetterOnline.Com to see how your photo and the number of responses you get can improve.
As always, you can reach me at firstname.lastname@example.org and follow me on Twitter at @lisaduffy.