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One of the hardest things to do in life is to resign your will to God’s, but it’s one of the most important and powerful decisions you can make. And resigning your will to God’s isn’t simply letting go of the control of a situation and giving it to Him to work out, it actually means taking a leap of faith and saying, “Lord, I will be happy with whatever outcome you bring about.”

Today’s gospel reading is from John 4:43-54 and it addresses this same issue. We read about the royal official who asked Jesus to come to his home to heal his dying son. Jesus did not go with him, but told him his son would live. So the official took God at his word, without proof of the claim. This is such a great reading to contemplate, especially if we find our faith is being challenged. Do you have worries and concerns that are taking over and you wonder if God is going to come through for you?

God tells us He works all things for the good of those who love Him, and He’ll do the same for you. But you’ve got to trust Him and the best way to do that is tell Him you will be happy with whatever outcome He brings about.

When I was going through the annulment process, I had many worries and concerns about the outcome. I knew that the outcome would determine whether or not I would be single for the rest of my life and I knew I had no control over that decision, so instead of driving myself insane with worry, I just prayed a simple prayer: “Lord, I will be happy with whatever you give me.” Every time I felt overwhelmed by the fear of the unknown, I said that prayer and moved forward. When my decree of nullity came through, I began a new chapter in my life with confidence because I knew it was God’s doing, not mine.

Today’s point of reflection is simply to take stock of how much you are worrying and how much you are trusting. Then, for a resolution, make the decision to do something to improve your trust in God. For example, you may want to say the same prayer I did, or maybe something like, “Lord, I believe in you, help my unbelief.”

Thank you for sharing this time with me. I hope and pray you are experiencing a fruitful Lent and look forward to the rest of the journey with you. God bless!

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13 Comments

  1. Linda-442926 March 31, 2014

    This message is very timely. I just found out last night something that I have been trying not to get me stressed; it is related to income and I am living paycheck to paycheck as it is. It’s difficult, especially when things come so unexpectedly, not to worry and doubt. Every time I have sensed it starting to get to me, I try to remind myself that God has a plan and that He will work all things for my good; I just need to trust in Him! Thank you, Lisa :) Prayers would be very much appreciated.

  2. Jacqueline-198 March 31, 2014

    Amen to that!! JESUS I TRUST IN YOU!!

  3. Carol-483674 April 1, 2014

    Thank you Lisa…need to keep hearing that over and over. Jesus you have taken me to this point….I will trust you and be happy with whatever you give me!!!

  4. Anthony-931830 April 1, 2014

    My mother has cancer and just had surgery. She is now awaiting further treatment. I think it is hard not to worry. I understand about letting go and letting God concept, but I do not think it means that we are going to stop getting upset or worried about something, especially when it is about someone’s health. If possible, I ask that people remember my mother in their prayers. Thank you.

  5. Bertha-921511 April 1, 2014

    Thank you for sharing your prayer I have to day it everyday
    Bertha

  6. Jane-814053 April 1, 2014

    Although, I get the general message that is being said here, I do not entirely agree. Resigning your will to God’s will is telling him you trust him, it doesn’t mean you have to be “happy” with the outcome. I believe resigning to God’s will is accepting his will and trusting that he knows what is best for you.

  7. Karen-1023150 April 1, 2014

    God led me to this web site. I have not signed up (pay member) to Catholic Match, but today I found this email and clicked on it. I have been divorced from a secular marriage since September of last years. The break up was 4 and half years to the final ending at least a divorce. Today I was driving back from my home in downeast maine listing to an Christian audio book on God’s work in her life and I tears started. Do not know where they came from but I turned off the CD and asked God why I am still in so much pain. I have prayed for 4 and half years to have another chance with this man and it did not happen. After three postponements, I filed for divorce and followed through. Just found out he remarried last fall and has been calling me and having coffee with me and did not tell me. Resigning to God’s will appears to be a bit hard for me. Trusting he know better is there but it still hurts in my body that this man is gone from my life. Therapy, etc. I am 65 years old and alone. No, I am not alone I have Jesus and my faith in God, but I still hurt. Why won’t God remove this man from my heart and soul as well as head.

  8. Jane-814053 April 1, 2014

    I’m sorry that you are going through much suffering and I hope and pray that time will heal your broken heart. This may have not been God’s will, but your ex-husband’s will. We all have free will and God will always respect that.

  9. John-897794 April 1, 2014

    I see how the reading from John indicates that we should trust the word of God, but I do not see what it has to say about accepting God’s will in the absence of any indication of what that is or even whether, in any particular case, there is a particular will in play.

  10. John-949164 April 2, 2014

    I really want to trust in God. My therapist says your prayers shouldn’t be a plea to God. If you beg him you are showing a lack of faith. You have to know that he will move the mountain or you are lacking in real faith. Even the faith of a mustard seed is enough that you should know that God will help and comfort you. I have been a complete failure. I try so hard but I feel like I need someone to talk to when my life gets rough. Someone to talk me through until I can stand on my own. Is there some kind of support group in Catholic Church? I couldn’t get any help from archdiocese of Boston though I called there over and over again over 20 years they referred me to marriage councilor section of yellow pages every time. Now that my marriage is failed and I am in divorce process I went to local priest for help here in York Maine and he wouldn’t even call me back. I went to chancellors office in Portland and they couldn’t help either. Feel alienated. I was married in church I go to mass every week I don’t understand. I know it’s not like this in Louisiana where I grew up. My faith in the church is strong but I need some support through process. I want to grow stronger but don’t know where to turn.

  11. Geraldine-1032218 April 2, 2014

    It sounds as if you need supportive counselling. I had this after suffering many negative experiences and it really healed me and made me feel stronger. It’s where the counsellor just listens and says supportive things back to you and suggests you positively so as to build up self esteem and this helps you to believe you Can Be Happy again. I wish you all the best, John. Priests are not usually trained at counselling although I have always found them good at being .. that’s it!.. priests that is that they can give reminders of God’s love for us and remind me that God doesn’t want me to forget that he loves me because that is His special gift for all eternity.

  12. Ed-501357 April 3, 2014

    Thanks Lisa. This was a great article and video, which was a timely one for me at that. I do agree that God has a plan for each and every one of us and knowing that we should take whatever situation that we’re in, make the best of it and it can turn into a positive experience.

    I also agree as you pointed out accurately is that one of the hardest things to do in life is to resign one’s will to God’s. In my case I do desire to meet a special lady, with whom I can share, love, cherish and respect however I should cede to God’s will and follow whatever plan he has laid out for me. This would allow me to be myself and not having to stress out about it.

    That said I have begun to be more involved in my parish serving others while remaining celibate. This in my mind would be good way to meet people and socialize while at the same time perhaps meeting my special someone as well as on CM. I believe that if it is God’s plan that he would put that person in the right place at the right time.

    Thanks again for the inspiration.

  13. Dominic-981542 April 5, 2014

    Beautifully said.

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