What To Expect When Dating a Sanguine


What to expect...sanguine

This article is the second in a four-part series dealing with the dating challenges faced by those of different temperaments. It is intended as a more detailed supplement to the brief suggestions given as part of the profile matching feature.  This  piece focuses on the sanguine.

Remember Tigger from Winnie the Pooh?

“Tiggers are wonderful things! Their tops are made out of rubber; their bottoms are made out of springs! They’re bouncy, trouncy, flouncy, pouncy…..Fun, fun, fun, fun, fun!”

Tigger is a classic sanguine.

Not too long ago, my husband and I went out to eat with a sanguine friend. It was like being in the entourage of a famous athlete or politician. He knew everyone.

We weren’t waiting for two minutes before the owner of the restaurant came over to greet us and to offer us a special table. Friends called and waved from across the bar. We were introduced to several other couples. Someone bought us a drink.

This is what happens when you are in the company of a charismatic sanguine.

What to appreciate

Your sanguine date is lively, enthusiastic, and approachable. Sanguines are generous, confident, and easy to get to know. If you are naturally quiet or struggle to carry on a conversation, this can be a real blessing on a first date!

Sanguines have the natural ability to convey—and even to transmit—emotion.

Not only are they more naturally expressive, but when you listen to them, you begin to feel the same way they do! Their enthusiasm is contagious, and their personalities persuasive. They excel at sales, politics, public relations, and acting.

Sanguines are talkative, fun-loving, and optimistic. Your sanguine date (like Tigger) is always up for something new and exciting. He loves a spur-of-the-moment adventure—whether traveling to a new city, meeting new people, or discovering a new idea. Sanguines live in the present moment, and enjoy it to the fullest!

Sanguines just want to be loved (that’s why they are standing on the table wearing the lampshade!) They want to be happy, and they want you to be happy with them. If you are dating a sanguine, be sure to join in enthusiastically with his activities and ideas. Above all, don’t be a stick-in-the-mud.

Keep your sanguine partner interested by changing things up now and then. Sanguines do not do boring.

When the going gets tough, the sanguines go…shopping. Or out to eat. Their weakness is that they have short attention spans. They are enthusiastic, spontaneous, and somewhat forgetful. Out of sight, out of mind…but in a good way!

What to work on

On the down side, sanguines can be impulsive, attention-seeking, scattered and forgetful. They always prefer something new to the same old, same old (especially those boring details like office paperwork, balancing the check book or cleaning the house).

Sanguines are restless and easily bored. They crave excitement, fun, and action. If you are dating a sanguine, try not to be a wet blanket.

Your sanguine date may come up with exciting new plans and adventures, but may not have the perseverance or attention to detail to carry them out.

Sanguines will do well to practice the virtues of temperance and self-control, and they should be cautious about superficial attraction, the emotionality of the moment, and a temptation to vanity.

Your sanguine date can be demonstrative and sensual, but also can move quickly from hot to cold. He can be warm and generous, emotional and impetuous…but then, in a flash, just the opposite.

Both male and female sanguines can unintentionally mislead others with their innocently flirtatious and open manner.

But sanguines have big hearts and embrace life with gusto. They look on the bright side of life, and are always ready for an adventure. If you can keep up (and get a word in edgewise) you will enjoy dating this naturally generous, compassionate, and joyful person.





  1. Robert-834944 October 23, 2016 Reply

    Really good article. Being a melancholic introvert of sorts, I’ve always found my best dating experiences to be with sanguines since they’re usually able to get me out of my shell easier, and there always seems to be good chemistry. But you’re also right about sanguines unintentionally misleading others. I can’t tell you how many times I have been misled thinking someone was “interested” in me romantically, when in reality she was just being a sanguine. That has led to some rather awkward rejections in the past, but I’ve been getting better at recognizing it now. Or as you say, she will come up with exciting plans or adventures that I take seriously as a sign things are moving forward, but then she suddenly goes cold. Still… whenever I notice someone is a sanguine… I consider that to be a plus. Not that I’d reject anyone with a different temperament, but I have a thing for sanguines. lol.

  2. Adrienne-113113 October 23, 2016 Reply

    I love sanguines. For me it’s totally a case of opposites attract. Sanguines pull me out of my shell and take the initiative socially that I don’t. Okay, so the sanguine-loving melancholics are hanging out here waiting for the sanguines to show up. Where are you, sanguines? Haha.

  3. Virginia-1026653 October 23, 2016 Reply

    When I saw this article I was very interested to see what it said about me since I tested out as a Sanguine. That detail about unintentionally misleading others kind of hit me. When I meet people I automatically give them a smile. It could be in the grocery store just going down the aisle and I keep smiling until their face cracks one back! I see that now maybe as my need to be loved, because when I read the part that “Sanguines just want to be loved” it made me cry a little. I have to say though, that I am not even close to putting a lampshade on my head…. well… maybe in the right circumstances! I do tend to be happy and see the humor in things. I was actually told by someone here recently, that I was contagious, so I guess that remark is true. I never thought that I would be compatible to a Melancholic type because to be honest, and I know this is NOT true, that word makes it sound like the person is sad all the time! I discovered what it really meant later. I can see how I could be perceived as having a short attention span, because I die a thousand deaths to listen to people talk about meaningless unimportant and not necessary for salvation things like discussing wallpaper. I just want to move on to something more important. Not that I interrupt, but I kind of go off into dreamland or pray for mercy and then I have to start listening again before someone finds out I’ve been gone, hope I’ve been nodding appropriately and will not be required to remember any of the details. I am always looking for a segway into the exciting stuff I want to talk about.

  4. Bonnie-1357243 October 23, 2016 Reply

    Well, I commented earlier on here, but I guess I forgot to sign out as is typical of me an 83% sanguine! LOL!! I have never been compared to Tigger, however, maybe that’s why I love him so much!! Restless is right and short on patience. So much fun to be had!! Now I know why my dentist always wanted to give me something to calm me down before an appointment!! Thank God for that 17% choleric as I learned to use it more for organizing and calming down when necessary as I became an adult!!

  5. Joseph-1167946 October 23, 2016 Reply

    As a meloncholic introvert it would be nice to not have to do a lot of talking so a sanguine would be a good date. However after reading this article it’s clear the last rejection i had the lady obviously was a sanguine. Because she gave off (not intentionally I’m sure) very confusing signals that i misread so it’s definitely left a bad taste in my mouth.

  6. Jennifer-728047 October 23, 2016 Reply

    As a sanguine-choleric, I have to say….what is there is a cross to being this type as a woman because we tend to attract ‘opposites’ and it leaves us feeling dry because we are always outputting and rarely receiving. The melancholic has tendencies towards depression and the sanguine has tendencies towards anxiety. It’s also hard when like your article says that non sanguines should try to be affectionate, etc….when the “trying” is disingenuous. I’d rather them have no emotion, than fake it. That, I think is uncharitable.

  7. Jennifer-728047 October 23, 2016 Reply

    Waiting for a sanguine male who is not a player, or a melancholic who won’t put out my fire;) Oh the challenges today. Can we add, a man who is not addicted to his phone, a user of porn to ‘satisfy’ his loneliness, and who has leadership to actually ask for a number, call it, and pursue a date? 🙂 Yeeeeeah, that would be awesome. 🙂

    • Patrick-1324264 October 24, 2016 Reply

      Why does it have to be a fellow sanguine? Even as exciting as it might be to run around screaming with a fellow partier, eventually someone should balance the checkbook and make sure a reasonable level of planning actually takes place, no?

    • Otti-1143632 October 24, 2016 Reply

      So, what’s your number? Just teasing. You might end up with unlimited call number requests, and take “eternity” trying to sort them out; be ready to set up such a voice mail: “the number you have called is currently not available, please try again later, X 3.”

  8. Ann-819902 October 24, 2016 Reply

    I’m finding it interesting that the melancholics (and others) say they are attracted to the “opposite” temperament. While I have many sanguine friends, family, acquaintances, etc., I find it draining to be around them and could not imagine my spouse being the opposite. What I’ve found is that I’m happiest when with a similar melancholic temperament that understands my need for quiet and alone time without having to fill it with talk and activity, both of which eventually drain me and make me retreat into my inner shell.

  9. Alma-953915 October 24, 2016 Reply

    I think I used to be attracted to sanguines because I thought that type of person would complete me; being a melancholic. Now that I’m feeling more complete on my own, I am no longer attracted to the sanguine personality. Strange how that goes.

  10. William-675153 October 24, 2016 Reply

    I don’t put a whole lot of stock in personality types…I feel faith and maturity supersedes all types.

    • Ann-819902 October 24, 2016 Reply

      Exactly. We shouldn’t let a test define who we are or allow ourselves to make excuses for our behavior based on them. We have free will to make our decisions in life.

    • Patrick-1324264 October 24, 2016 Reply

      NOT a personality type!!!!!!!
      It’s temperament. DEEPER than personality!!!!!

    • Otti-1143632 October 24, 2016 Reply

      Great point William, sometimes it seems like Hippocratic temperaments are being taken as dogmatic foundation for a successful relationship, which is not the case at all: we should be firmly established and settled in Christ through faith and good works, not blown by every kind of wind like a feather. And the lively Sanguine shouldn’t go around waking up monsters. Cheers!

    • Adrienne-113113 October 27, 2016 Reply

      I like what you say about maturity, and speaking of that, it seems to me that as people mature they tend to balance out the extremes of their personality, some of them so much so that it’s very hard to tell if they’re naturally introverted or extraverted. Introverts learn to go outside of themselves and attend to others, extraverts learn to sit quietly with themselves/with God. I could never be with an immature extravert. They exhaust me, like Ann expressed. But I like the dynamic I have with more mature extraverts.

  11. Patrick-1324264 October 24, 2016 Reply

    The best relationship with a female sanguine is FRIENDSHIP! SANS romantic interest. They are way too jumpy. I have a sanguine friend and get all hyper with her when I see her, and I can tell you, I am soooo happy NOT to miss her terribly when we’re apart. I seriously doubt it would work. She’s nice and high energy, but that’s fun in the moment. Far from long term!

  12. Pat-5351 October 24, 2016 Reply

    My how much I dislike this series of articles. Look at all the labeling of persons made in the image and likeness of God is going down here. Rather, I would hope that everyone would recall that we are more than some flawed test, more than a label, as are all the people we encounter. Believe in grace, believe in the mutability of the human personality and human experience, believe in God’s influence and in a person’s ability to change, and adapt and improve. And please don’t not talk to someone here or anywhere based on some predetermined impression of who they are or how they behave or how they will react.

    • Ann-819902 October 24, 2016 Reply

      Exactly, Pat. As I already said, don’t allow a test to define you or use it to make excuses. We are not defined by a test, but in how we react in Christ’s love to the world and people around us.

    • Tobias-1103924 October 24, 2016 Reply

      “mutability of the human personality”

      Anyone who marries someone else expecting their personality to be mutable is setting himself or herself up for bitter disappointment.

      • Patrick-1324264 October 24, 2016 Reply

        Yep! Also, temperaments are more permanent than personality.
        It’s kinda like saying: I want someone good-looking and he’s not but bodies are always changing, maybe he will be!
        Or like saying: I need someone who can help with the bills and she’s not much of a money earner but I can ignore that because she might change!

        Yeah… RIght… Why set ourselves up? CONSIDER THE FACTORS!

    • George-1274666 October 26, 2016 Reply

      I also agree with you, Pat. For me, the article has a striking similarity to how astrology and astrological signs are viewed by their adherents. Or how some people view ethnicity (such as being hot blooded Italian, stoic German or stiff-upper-lip British). It’s amazing how millions of people (billions?) can be partitioned into a few boxes by a series of ambiguous questions. Originally it was 8 personality types, then 16, then 32, etc. I vote for a few billion unique types.

      There are reasons why people flock to these types of personality tests, and I believe it’s both due to the human desire to identify with a group as well as a desire to remove responsibility from personal actions. Whatever the reason, using the results as anything more than a lighthearted topic for talk over coffee seems to be unwarranted. Using the results to tell you anything about the true nature of a potential partner is akin to using their hair color (“Watch out for those gingers!” or “Dumb blondes”), their height (“Napoleon Complex”?) or whether they have 13 cats ( … ok, maybe that one does tell you something).

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