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What primarily causes you to feel lonely during Sunday Mass?

Jun 5th 2013

  • Seeing other couples and families - 25.4%
  • Not being able to share mass with a significant other - 31.3%
  • Not being able to go with a friend - 2.4%
  • Not feeling part of the parish community - 8.4%
  • I rarely feel lonely at mass - 32.6%

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March 10th, 2015 - Mary-1166733 said:

As a widow; I long to have a husband to attend Mass with. I sometimes feel lonely when I see a married couple sitting close together and he has his arm around her shoulders or they hold hands during Mass. Mary

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March 8th, 2015 - Joseph-1189103 said:

Not sharing it with a sign I can't other; though its most like after the Mass when it sinks in.

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March 2nd, 2015 - Jim-1188391 said:

Seeing couples coming in together, sitting next to each other, sharing the sign of peace. Just being alone!

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January 11th, 2015 - Janice-1159697 said:

I am lonely at mass when I see couples my age still together in church, makes me feel very alone in the world since I am alone

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January 11th, 2015 - Janice-1159697 said:

I am lonely at mass when I see couples my age still together in church, makes me feel very alone in the world since I am alone

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November 6th, 2014 - Eunice-1130193 said:

Catholics tend to be cold in the Holy Mass in the ritual of peace many times I do not have anyone to give it! Nothing to add to member Marc: TRUE! and SAD!

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October 31st, 2014 - Marc-1146985 said:

When Mass hits your heart with such joy, it's only natural to want to share that joy with someone you deeply care about....I think if you don't feel that at times, you probably need to check your pulse.

I don't agree we don't socialize at church...we hug people, we talk, we share and we congregate....what part of socializing aren't we doing?? Yeah, I know it's not a Tupperware party....but we are sharing our spiritual and social lives with one another.

I've talked to a few people who felt coldness at my church, and I see it on a regular basis....that does upset me to see some people not include others they might not approve of for one reason or another....then I think they'd be that way at any event...church or not.

Sometimes I can go to church just wanting to feel God in a deeper realm....other times I thoroughly enjoy the social aspect of friends and people I love being with...either way, it's a good thing.

I have felt the same kind of loneliness others have felt if no one says hello, greets me or I just feel outside the circle of love....who wouldn't? If I see someone looking kinda down and separated at church, I usually extend my hand or say something to let them know "I'm glad you're here"...I do believe that's something most of us would do.

It's more than just a social thing. It's also about people sharing with each other...that's what we do and how we're wired...like any culture since we discovered fire and secret handshakes....(insert humor)

We all have felt lonely at Mass at one time or another...that's normal enough.

I think if we feel lonely more often than not at church, our lives are lonely no matter where we're at....that's a human emotion, not a singular human experience at church.

For me, we go to church to connect with God and people....isn't that why we build churches in the first place?

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October 20th, 2014 - Mary-583970 said:

Hmmm, it's compounded: waking up alone, getting ready alone, fussing over my veil alone, walking in alone, standing there feeling God's presence without someone to share it with and no hand to squeeze...then sitting back down in my car alone and wondering where to go for breakfast (alone).

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Poll Demographics

Seeing other couples and families (662 votes)
Overall Response
24.9%
Men
23.9%
Women
25.6%
18-25 yr olds
22.1%
26-35 yr olds
29.8%
36-50 yr olds
30.7%
51+ yr olds
18.5%
Not being able to share mass with a significant other (839 votes)
Overall Response
31.6%
Men
35.9%
Women
28.7%
18-25 yr olds
27.6%
26-35 yr olds
28.8%
36-50 yr olds
29.6%
51+ yr olds
35.1%
Not being able to go with a friend (64 votes)
Overall Response
2.4%
Men
2.0%
Women
2.7%
18-25 yr olds
3.4%
26-35 yr olds
3.6%
36-50 yr olds
1.7%
51+ yr olds
2.2%
Not feeling part of the parish community (237 votes)
Overall Response
8.9%
Men
8.4%
Women
9.2%
18-25 yr olds
13.8%
26-35 yr olds
9.5%
36-50 yr olds
6.9%
51+ yr olds
9.4%
I rarely feel lonely at mass (854 votes)
Overall Response
32.2%
Men
29.8%
Women
33.7%
18-25 yr olds
33.1%
26-35 yr olds
28.3%
36-50 yr olds
31.1%
51+ yr olds
34.9%