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When dating after an annulment, when is it appropriate to introduce children?

Jul 17th 2014

  • Right away - 14.0%
  • 1-3 months - 8.1%
  • 4-6 months - 8.1%
  • When it feels right. - 62.8%
  • After an engagement. - 1.2%
  • When my ex-spouse says that it is okay - 1.2%
  • Other (comment below) - 4.7%

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September 23rd, 2014 - Timothy-887387 said:

Well put Lissa, patrick and Esther.

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September 14th, 2014 - Esther-1130734 said:

It depends on their ages.

You don't want kids bonding with people and then having them go away. If that's not a concern anymore, than I would ask the kids when they are comfortable meeting the date, or better yet, pray about and let the Holy Spirit direct your steps

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September 1st, 2014 - Patrick-1127950 said:

How can I say this nice. A Man that cannot accept children is not a man at all and SPECIALLY not a god Catholic man. The only problem I would have with meeting the children right away is that children are easy to grow an attachment to and children may become attached to the person. Give it a while and if it seems like it will work then introduce the children but NEVER hide the fact that you have children.

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August 19th, 2014 - Lissa-956941 said:

I believe one shouldn't introduce children to a potential suitor until you, as a couple, determine that 1) you are a couple (exclusive and heading towards the road to potential marriage); 2) have worked out where you would live IF it were to blossom into an engagement/marriage; and 3) the idea has been approached with the kids first. Not suddenly dropped in their lap. I think introducing them as a friend first is always best, with no PDA until the child(ren) have time to warm up to the mate on their own terms, without any threat.

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August 8th, 2014 - Joy-1119515 said:

There are so many factors to consider.... the age of the children for instance. I would not even consider introducing a date to my children until I have dated them for quite some time, but if my children were older it wouldn't be much of an issue.

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Poll Demographics

Right away (11 votes)
Overall Response
14.5%
Men
31.8%
Women
7.4%
18-25 yr olds
16.7%
26-35 yr olds
30.0%
36-50 yr olds
8.8%
51+ yr olds
15.4%
1-3 months (6 votes)
Overall Response
7.9%
Men
4.5%
Women
9.3%
18-25 yr olds
0.0%
26-35 yr olds
10.0%
36-50 yr olds
8.8%
51+ yr olds
7.7%
4-6 months (6 votes)
Overall Response
7.9%
Men
4.5%
Women
9.3%
18-25 yr olds
50.0%
26-35 yr olds
0.0%
36-50 yr olds
5.9%
51+ yr olds
3.8%
When it feels right. (47 votes)
Overall Response
61.8%
Men
54.5%
Women
64.8%
18-25 yr olds
33.3%
26-35 yr olds
50.0%
36-50 yr olds
70.6%
51+ yr olds
61.5%
After an engagement. (1 votes)
Overall Response
1.3%
Men
0.0%
Women
1.9%
18-25 yr olds
0.0%
26-35 yr olds
0.0%
36-50 yr olds
0.0%
51+ yr olds
3.8%
When my ex-spouse says that it is okay (1 votes)
Overall Response
1.3%
Men
4.5%
Women
0.0%
18-25 yr olds
0.0%
26-35 yr olds
0.0%
36-50 yr olds
0.0%
51+ yr olds
3.8%
Other (comment below) (4 votes)
Overall Response
5.3%
Men
0.0%
Women
7.4%
18-25 yr olds
0.0%
26-35 yr olds
10.0%
36-50 yr olds
5.9%
51+ yr olds
3.8%