May 18th, 2010 - Robert-3483 said:
The Gentleman Saint, St. Francis de Sales, has lots to say about this issue in the "Introduction to the Devout Life" or "Vida Devota". As a Doctor of the Church, he speaks with strong authority on the topic of male/female relations. I recommend finding the small sections on friendship and also the section on society and solitude. As laypeople, we *require* holy friendships to survive in the world, and Jesus had many friends, including women. The friendships we choose will impact our lives and the lives of others, especially when through the grace of Our Lord, Jesus Christ.
May 3rd, 2010 - Anne-575204 said:
I feel so out of touch. I don't know how to begin again.... all I know is that I would love to have a close relationship/ companion, friend, and partner to travel with through the rest of this life path. Just need to know where to begin/ chatting and getting to know someone is a challenge after being married for 20 years and now being alone. The world has changed so much. Anyway I am here, hoping this may bring a start to something wonderful... Anyone have ane suggestions?
May 2nd, 2010 - Elisabeth-296513 said:
Men are often afraid of me because I look them in the eye, say what's on my mind, argue my point, and am pretty well-educated. But, I think I'm starting to figure out that it's okay if I scare them initially as long as I am myself and I let them be themselves. They have a right to be where they are in life, and so do I. If it's meant to be, we'll meet somewhere in the middle and figure it out. If it's not, we'll meet somewhere in the middle and become friends. No big deal. I've been able to relax around guys a lot more since I've figured this out.
April 17th, 2010 - Carmen-460986 said:
Hi to michael..... I was wondering why are you so shy? With your looks you could do anything your heart desires including that of talking to women. Just saying Hi could lead you to being friends. Try it and with prayers... you could overcome your shyness.
April 10th, 2010 - John-362098 said:
My experience with dating women is that dating involves risk, you just have to decide what risks have small danger and what risks truly are dangerous. most people we date we are going to break up with. You can't be afraid to get hurt anymore than when you play football. No risk, no reward. Trust your instincts if something seems wrong, but try to give people a chance at the begining, until they prove they aren't worthy of your trust. Too many women start out scared and suspicious, and as a result, their hesitancy to get to know guys wears the guy's patience out. When women write about "players" "serial daters" and getting hurt, or they want to e-mail instead of calling for more than a week, it comes across as unwelcoming and many times immature. Follow the Golden Rule- Do unto others as you would have then do unto you-treat men in a pleasant welcome way, unless your sense of danger comes on. Good luck with the process-it's long, but each person we get to know brings us one step closer to our destination.
March 28th, 2010 - Paul-398305 said:
I feel, that since all of the people on this site, have been in a long term relationmship already. It would be helpful to ask someone for help to restart a personal relationship. Business and professional relationships are different than these and are not as deep and intimate as these.
March 11th, 2010 - Robert-3483 said:
Gentleman Saint and Church Doctor, Francis de Sales gives really good advice for male-female relationships (biblically known as friendship). In the book "Introduction to the Devout Life", read the small sections on true friendship, false friendship, and in particular the section called "Society and Solitude". The practice of virtues is required and requires God's grace: prudence, temperance, fortitude, justice, faith, hope, and love. -- http://catholic-lifetime-reading-plan.blogspot.com/2008/08/introduction-to-devout-life-by-st.html