Just Across The Freeway


They lived right in each other’s backyards. Perhaps not literally, but almost. Ray and Marianne were right in each other’s circles. They were in the same church, they had a lot of the same friends and they lived right across the freeway from each other in Nevada. They weren’t the likeliest couple to need the Internet to find each other. And they weren’t the likeliest to even choose online dating. But it happened and it happened right here on Catholic Match.

Marianne was reluctant about online dating. “I heard the horror stories”, she recalled, and just didn’t feel like it was a place to meet high quality men. She had lost her husband and was participating in a Grief Support Group. It was there a few of her friends brought up the idea and one of them recommended a Catholic-based site. She checked out CM and the experience was quickly positive. She didn’t meet “the one” right out of the starting gate, but she met some men, and while they weren’t the one, she unhesitatingly said she found them to be of high moral caliber. And in the bigger picture, her concerns about online dating were eased.

After a divorce thirteen years ago, Ray had experience in online dating, but wasn’t fully invested in the process. He had a couple dates, but nothing further came of it. It was after reading a Dear Abby column that he decided to give Catholic Match a full effort.

Their meeting came about via a match. Ironically, given how close they lived, Ray was traveling on the East Coast when their online contact began. It was roughly this time last year, mid-September that the story began. They had their first phone call while he was in New York and quickly made arrangements to meet in person when he was back home.

Thus began a fulfilling year that has led them to engagement. But this isn’t to say there weren’t some interesting moments. Both Ray and Marianne had children from their previous marriages and the first time they all got together, there was a little accident. Or a not-so-little one. Both had kids driving BMWs and a collision took place. “My son’s BMW took out his son’s BMW”, Marianne recalled. Ray recalled telling his son that it would all turn it okay. He suspects his son didn’t believe him, but it did indeed work out for everyone in the end.

And Ray and Marianne worked out together in the end too. “After I lost my husband, I didn’t think I would ever want to be with anyone else. I thought finding someone would never happen”, Marianne said. “But Ray and I share so many things that this was just right.”

Ray and Marianne will be married in the Catholic Church next year, perhaps as early as spring. They stand as a visible testimony that online dating works for everyone in all situations—even if you’re skeptical about going online, and even if your special someone is right next door.



  1. Lillian-546692 February 27, 2010 Reply

    Beautiful story. God bless their love.

  2. Cynthia-386169 February 12, 2010 Reply

    Very nice story. Theirs is just across the freeway while others is halfway across the globe. Sounds wonderful.

  3. Norman-536801 February 8, 2010 Reply


  4. Jolly-359478 February 3, 2010 Reply

    Great! God bless both of you! 🙂

  5. Rebecca-502526 January 31, 2010 Reply

    What a lovely story! I wish them the best!

  6. Colleen-473983 January 23, 2010 Reply

    You 2 are so fortunate to have found each other, I'm still looking….

  7. Maureen-363450 January 18, 2010 Reply

    As you move closer to one another in marriage may God be always the centre of your lives. Congratulations.
    Maureen from Canada

  8. Miranda-472476 January 11, 2010 Reply

    What a wonderful story, it's good when this happens wished it happened more than less.

  9. Jeanne-445476 January 10, 2010 Reply

    God bless Ray&Marriane. WIshing them a happyly ever after marriage.

  10. Farid-526180 January 2, 2010 Reply


  11. Lisa-436333 December 29, 2009 Reply

    God does, indeed, work in mysterious and wonderful ways. All the best!

  12. Anna-514018 December 27, 2009 Reply

    This is nice ending of your relationship,God blessings for many years to come,congratulations,Anna

  13. Christa-516737 December 22, 2009 Reply


  14. Clara-520254 December 18, 2009 Reply

    This is a great story. I am wishing you many happy years together and many blessings…

  15. Josie-517640 December 12, 2009 Reply

    Great story! congratulations!

  16. Nancy-402729 November 29, 2009 Reply

    It's good to see each of you having kids to have something in common.. I take it Ray's divorce was annulled?

  17. Frances-489561 November 10, 2009 Reply

    What a wonderful life lesson. You just never know what love God has in store for each of us. You give me HOPE. Congrats and all of life's best!

  18. John-485905 November 9, 2009 Reply

    Lovely story. Good luck to each of you!

  19. Xiomara-271849 October 18, 2009 Reply

    Congratulations. God bless both of you.

  20. Walter-446639 October 7, 2009 Reply

    What an awesome and inspiring story. Another example of the gifts of love, hope and faith from God. Congratulations and God's blessings to both of you.

  21. Patricia-451336 October 1, 2009 Reply

    Congratulations and the best to the two of you. 🙂

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