What Is There To Lose?


What Is There To Lose?

When John and I met we had both just gotten out of very toxic relationships. He signed up for Catholic Match at the urging of a family friend and I signed up as a last resort after having no success finding a "good man" any other way. I actually didn't sign up as a full member in the very beginning. I wasn't sure that I wanted to jump right in and go searching, I just wanted to get my feet wet and see if there were any guys that piqued my interest.

On the second day of my membership I received an email from John. John and I both laugh about it now because I have no idea why I wanted to know more about him. His profile picture was this scary picture of him that he took his first day in Pharmacy school- no smile, his head tilted back, his best friend jokes that you see "nothing but neck." I opened up his profile and the first line in his profile read: "I am looking for a woman to be a good wife and mother to my children. I like to work on tractors." Like I said, we laugh about it now but at the time I didn't know what to think! I checked out the rest of his profile and saw that he accepted all seven of the Church's teachings under the faith/doctrine section. He also happened to have a few other photos posted and I saw he was actually very attractive when he smiled!

So I gave in. I wanted to know what his e-mail said! I decided to sign up for a one month subscription. I figured that if I didn't like what he had to say, it was the next step in potentially finding "Mr. Right." I don't even remember what he wrote to me but I wrote back and we finally exchanged phone numbers. The very first time he called me I didn't answer the phone! I was too nervous to answer but after a few hours I finally called him back that night. We talked non-stop for over and hour! It was a great conversation and I felt like we were on the same page in so many different aspects of life! It was so refreshing! I called my mom right after getting off the phone and said, "Mom I don't want to jinx this but this guy, he's different! I think he's the one!"

We decided to meet up the next week. With John still in Pharmacy school his schedule was pretty full but we found some time to get together on November 4, 2009. Election day. We met in Royal Oak, MI and walked around the city just talking and getting to know each other. We grabbed a bite to eat and then decided to go meet up with some of his family at a restaurant where there was an election party going on. Unfortunately this was no victory party, but that night I met three of his wonderful sisters, his brother-in-law, and his best friend! They were so wonderful and John got along with them so well it was hard for me not to fall in love with all of them immediately. It's funny because when John and I talk now he tells me that he thought I had no interest in his whatsoever! I remember before I met up with him I promised myself I was going to "play hard to get" and not get attached too quickly! I guess it almost backfired! After a couple hours we decided to part ways. He walked me to my car and gave me a hug. He tells me he figured that he would never see me again! Little did he know how happy I was and excited to see him again.

In his own words, "as a last effort" John texted me a little while later to make sure I got home okay and I surprised him by texting back "so when do we get to hang out again?" We have been seeing each other ever since.

Just shy of a year later on October 21, 2009, John stopped by my apartment after work with an engagement ring. He got down on one knee and asked me to be his wife. He had set up a surprise celebration at his sister's house for later that night and we went over there for Chinese food, champagne, and a "show off the ring" party. We will be getting married on October 22, 2010. I waited 25 years to meet this man. He is everything I prayed for and more! We always joke with our friends that when God wants something He will make it happen no matter what. Despite the crazy scary profile or the playing too hard to get.. we ended up together. We are so excited to spend the rest of our lives together and can thank Catholic match for being the portal God used to bring us together.



  1. Joy-447534 March 19, 2010 Reply

    Indeed a match made in heaven…Yes, let go and let God…I wish you both all the best.

  2. Lillian-546692 March 17, 2010 Reply

    Is a wonderful story ,we have to trust God in everything. Let go and let God. May the lord Jesus and Maria be with you always.

  3. Tamara-552082 March 13, 2010 Reply

    This is a beautiful story. I only pray I am as lucky.

  4. Maclean-483042 February 21, 2010 Reply

    What a Great God we serve! this is a beautiful story and I am so touched can't wait for my turn. Wishing you both God's blessings in your marriage!

  5. Mary-489897 February 20, 2010 Reply

    God works in strange ways… he will send us someone when we are ready to receive love.

  6. Philip-484944 February 20, 2010 Reply

    Thank you for sharing your wonderful story. Congratulations and may the Lord remain and reign always in your relationship.

  7. Eleana-536296 February 17, 2010 Reply

    Your testimony gives me so much hope. Thank you for sharing. God does indeed know how to make things happen better then we can ever imagine.

  8. Katelyn-496759 February 11, 2010 Reply

    What a beautiful story! Gives me some encouragement–if you are meant to be together, you will be, despite any obstacles, presumptions, or misunderstandings.

  9. Helena-536982 February 7, 2010 Reply

    Wonderful story! May God bless you both.

  10. Jacqueline-198 February 6, 2010 Reply

    Blessings to both of you, thanks for sharing your story!

  11. Isabell-201048 February 6, 2010 Reply

    that is a beautiful story, it gives us hope.

  12. Andrea-368415 February 1, 2010 Reply

    What a wonderful story, John and Erin! Thank you for sharing! It is a great comfort to see how God plans things…especially for me, since I am constantly worrying that I will ignore the right person or be too fastidious when first meeting people, etc. God bless you both!

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