Through Sickness & In Health


As I (April)was approaching my 30th birthday, I knew I had to find someone who I could share my life with. I am from the Philippines and being Catholic is important to me. To get married in the Catholic Church is a great blessing. I was watching EWTN when I discovered that Catholics have their own dating websites too. So, I joined Catholic Match in 2004.

I met some nice gentlemen in the site. I met a couple of them face to face while I was vacationing in the United States. So, don’t fret if you don’t meet “the one” right away. Just enjoy meeting new people who share our love for God.

It was Dec. 15, 2005 when I sent a “smile” to Mark, bachelor #110962. He responded.  It was his commitment as a volunteer that got my attention. Oh well, and his bald head too. 😉

It took us a couple of months of emails before we started chatting. And another a month or two before we really talked via internet. In March or April 2008, I asked him if he wanted to come out to the Philippines to meet. Later, Mark told me that he was waiting for another month or two to ask if he could fly out to the Philippines to meet. But he wasn’t ready to book a flight then. So we kept on emailing and chatting. One thing that got me trusting him was that when we chat, it was also via video and there would be times that I would meet his mother, his nieces, his friends.

In the summer of 2006, Mark announced that he got a great deal from an airline to travel in September. I shocked my parents when I told them I was expecting a guest. (Ok, I didn’t tell them until it was a month before he was scheduled to arrive.) Our first F2F was in Sept. 3, 2006. We spent the week talking more, going on sightseeing trips and he met a considerable number of people in my family. (That means he hasn’t met the whole town yet.) Everything was just so awkward at the first time Mark came. But my family warmed up to him eventually. A year was too long a gap for another trip to Philippines so I suggested to him that I am willing to go there and meet his family too. (Now it’s my turn.) Before that, he came to get me and spent another week in the Philippines. This time, my family was comfortable with him and he met more family and friends. And best of all, got to meet my students. (I teach piano.)

Before we went back to the U.S. together, I had the surprise of my life! Mark proposed to me. And on the beach! Of course I said yes, accompanied with all the tears.

We went to California where he had to meet my grandparents and aunts and more cousins and then to New York to meet more one more cousin and his family. My cousin and his family accompanied me to New Jersey on March 30, 2007 when I first met Mark’s family. So, for two months, I was back and forth New Jersey and New York, getting to know my future husband better and preparing for the wedding. Well, we couldn’t do much right away since I had to fix my papers to become a legal resident of the U.S. I went back home in June of 2007 and waited for my papers to be processed and then called by the U.S. Embassy in the Philippines. It took about almost six months before I heard of any progress. Talk about pressure! We were already thinking of wedding dates. But we couldn’t confirm wedding dates until I had all my medical checkups and interview done. On Feb. 4, 2008, I went for my K1 (Fiancée visa) interview. I thought it would be very difficult. But you know what? As long as you are doing it for the right thing and tell the truth, nothing will ever hinder you.

We got married as soon as soon as I arrived in the U.S. Of course, we thought we would just do the civil marriage at first and have the Church wedding in the Philippines later but it never felt right. So we ended up with two Catholic Church weddings. Our wedding in the U.S. March 29, 2008 and our Philippine wedding last Oct. 11, 2008. We were so glad to celebrate them with both sides of the family. Both weddings had its own different and unique tradition that it was all worth it.

Our daughter, Amelia, was born April 25, 2009. It was both joyous and tragic. I had a difficult delivery. I lost a lot of blood and was rushed to the ICU and my heart weakened. But after months of medication, I am now well and my heart is back to normal. Now 10 months old, my baby girl is growing up fast.

I am not going to the very details of my ordeal. Let’s just say it was difficult taking care of a baby and at the same time I was taking heart medications. Not to mention dealing with those baby blues too. What we went through, both me and husband, especially the emotional times were very stressful but he stuck by me through my most difficult moments. Through sickness and in health…..This I can say I married the right person. God was with us and still with us and I know God will watch over us the rest of our lives.



  1. April W. September 7, 2011 Reply

    I just found my story again because of my friend, Melissa who is now in Catholic Match. Thank you all for the wonderful comments and blessings you shared with us. I’m truly blessed to have a wonderful husband and family.

  2. Gianna-569105 April 29, 2010 Reply

    Who said God can't use the Internet as "sacred space" to bring two people together! Great story of working through all of the obstacles in FAITH! May He continue to bring you all of the blessings that family life has to offer!

  3. Oma-70790 April 26, 2010 Reply

    I am so happy for you – that you found the right one. The Lord be with both of you and your baby.

  4. Cleng-520911 April 26, 2010 Reply

    Wow! Your story inspires everyone here! I am also a Filipina! God is with your family as an evidence. The family that prays together stays together!
    God Bless the three of you! Hope you continue to feel better!

  5. Melissa-403370 April 25, 2010 Reply

    What a wonderful story! May God continue to bless you, Mark, and baby Amelia! Congratulations on finding true happiness!

  6. Michael-561594 April 23, 2010 Reply

    That was a beautiful, story. God Bless!

  7. Ezrah-444665 April 19, 2010 Reply

    A beautiful, love story =)!

  8. Virginia-430305 April 13, 2010 Reply

    God never fells! He has a plan for everyone of us. Congratulation! "The perfect family." God never makes mistakes. May God Bless you all and share many years together.

  9. Tim-563513 April 13, 2010 Reply

    Thank you for sharing your beautiful story!

  10. Rebecca-502526 April 12, 2010 Reply

    What an inspirating story! Congratulations in finding the love of your life! Wishing you both continued happiness together! Glad you are feeling better!

  11. Cristina-510210 April 11, 2010 Reply

    Wow, what an inspiration! You are a very lucky woman to have found such a patient and wonderful husband.

  12. Lucy-457335 April 10, 2010 Reply

    yes, GOD IS GOOD.

  13. John-539439 March 24, 2010 Reply

    What a great story! Thanks so much for sharing and may God bless you and your family. 🙂

  14. RoseMarie-41488 March 21, 2010 Reply

    How beautiful April! May God continue to bless you.

  15. Sani-470393 March 17, 2010 Reply

    congratulations! God bless you guys for ever

  16. Bernadette-505836 March 16, 2010 Reply

    Congrats. what a beautiful story thank you so much for shareing!You both m ake a beautiful couple,may God Bless you always

  17. Lillian-546692 March 14, 2010 Reply

    !My God! what a beautiful history of real love. May God always bless them

  18. Margo-556886 March 14, 2010 Reply

    Congratulations! With God all things are possible…we see this in your life story.

  19. Carlos-167015 March 14, 2010 Reply

    what a moving story. God bless your married life!

  20. Cynthia-386169 March 4, 2010 Reply

    nice one.
    To jorge, i guess she is just sharing her CM story as they both meet thru Catholic Match.

  21. Patricia-517009 March 2, 2010 Reply

    May God Blee you and your family

  22. Judith-382730 March 2, 2010 Reply

    What a beautiful journey–may God continue to bless and be with you and your family. Thanks for sharing.

  23. Kat-432523 March 1, 2010 Reply

    Great article. I'm so happy for you, April. I'm a Filipina too so I could feel you. Praise God for giving you a wonderful husband like Mark. Congratulations! God bless you both. May God continue to shower His blessing to you and your family. =)

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