The Power Of Letting Go


Lent was approaching and I couldn't figure out what I wanted to give up. So after some thought I decided that I was going give up my search for a guy. On Ash Wednesday I took my photo off and went inactive. I had serious doubts that God even wanted me on this website. In addition to giving up my search I decided that I was going to pray to see if I should keep myself on this site or delete my profile once and for all. It was Friday after Ash Wednesday that I decided I was going to put my picture back up and reactivate myself but I still wanted to lay low and no longer search profiles. I figured if someone was interested they'd contact me.

I delved into the forums. Saturday I received a smile from this cute guy who lived in Georgia. I was at the point where I was done with the whole Internet thing so I figured I had nothing to lose by responding to his smile. I sent him a smile and included a message with it. Sunday Feb. 21st I was logged on and out of the blue I got a chat invite from the same guy that sent me a smile. With a, "what have I got to lose?" attitude, I accepted his invite to chat.

He was a member for three days before coming across my profile and purchased a membership so that he could chat with me. According to him, he didn't think that I was going to respond to his smile. I remember thinking he seemed very eager. I had chatted with guys that at first seemed enthusiastic but then their interest would wane. We chatted for a few hours, mostly because the chat feature was acting up. He asked for my phone number because he knew he wouldn't be able to chat with me since he was going to be out in the field for a week (he's in the Army). I gave him my phone number not at all expecting to hear from him. As soon as we got off of the computer he sent me a text message saying good night, I must say that I was impressed.

Monday we spent all day texting each other eventually chatting online when I got home from work. It was obvious at that moment that I really liked this guy but there was no way that things could work out because he lived far away and was in the Army. I resigned myself to the that fact nothing was going to come of us. The worst part was that I really liked this guy. We were talking for about a week when I seriously considered leaving this guy alone. I was afraid to get close to someone far away because I didn't want it to end up in disappointment. After talking to some trusted friends I realized that my motivation to leave him alone was rooted in fear. (I ended up finding out later on that he was waiting for me to tell him goodbye) At that point I decided I was going to pray and let the Lord work everything out since I didn't see how on earth things were going to work out between us.

We finally talked on the phone two weeks after meeting online and our conversation went wonderfully. Shortly after that he told me that he put in for a pass to come to Cali. I was nervous and excited all at the same time. To our surprise he was granted his leave. He purchased his ticket and was scheduled to fly in late in the evening on March 18, the day before St. Joseph's feast day. As Divine Providence would have it, we both individually began a novena to St. Joseph for the same intention. He began one not knowing that St. Joseph's feast day was approaching. Well, St. Joseph came through. I was a nervous wreck at the airport. I was so scared that after everything was said and done we wouldn't get along. The moment I saw him I knew we'd get along just fine. We hugged and everything clicked! We were holding hands from the get go it felt as if I knew him for years. There was no akwardness there, everything felt natural. Even he made the comment how easy and comfortable everything felt.

I could go on and on about things, but our weekend together was absolutely wonderful. I knew after spending a day with him (St. Joseph's Feast Day) that I met my match. When I dropped him off at the airport, a month from our first chat, I knew that we'd be seeing each other again. Two weeks later he suprised me by coming back to California to spend Easter with me and my family. I couldn't have asked for a better Easter. Our relationship really grew the weekend he was here. We've got a long road a head of us, but so far our future looks bright. He's in California doing training for his upcoming deployment. In June, I'll be visiting his family then in July he gets deployed for a year. Time will tell how things will go, but so far the plan is for us to see each other as much as we can. Once he's done with his active duty he plans on moving to Cali in order to be with me. He told me he wants to marry me but is waiting for right time to ask me…so we shall see 🙂 No matter how things end up I know that I met a wonderful person and I have Catholic Match to thank for that.



  1. Marie-588453 September 5, 2010 Reply

    Let Go Let God. Have no fear. Wishing you all the best Eve.

  2. Nair-469441 August 6, 2010 Reply

    Congratulations!!! God bless you!!!

  3. Thomas-596908 June 29, 2010 Reply

    Wonderful! I Hope things work out for both of you!

  4. Mary-566663 June 22, 2010 Reply

    Good luck to you both and God Bless you. Maybe there is hope for me yet. I have always stuck with my faith. I hope to have my own story to tell some day, soon.

  5. Glynne-385398 June 22, 2010 Reply

    Yaaay. Glad to hear that things are moving so well for you two. May God continue to bless and keep you both.

  6. KarenAnn-468879 June 15, 2010 Reply

    I met a great guy here and we let the distance divide us. I trusted him and liked him alot but I too was so scared. Also–I never dated a man with a 16 year old at home and I did not know how to handle it. We are apart–I think he may have settled for someone else—and I hope he is happy. We sure had something special…thats all I can say!!

  7. Kate-571356 June 14, 2010 Reply

    This is a very nice story and it certainly give me hope that what I need to do is to let go and let God work in my life.

  8. Maria-567364 June 6, 2010 Reply

    Wow, just today, I was thinking to inactivate my account… a lot of things happened to me in the past few months… moved to Tampa, lost my Mom… feeling sometimes that the things fall apart, but I know that God has a perfect plan for us, and everything happens for some reason, by reading you I found that touch of Jesus love… God bless you both, and give you both the strength to maintain the love and the commitment.

  9. Angele-377426 June 3, 2010 Reply

    Great story. It gives hope to many of us. I know he will be back and you will have a nice future together.
    I'll keep both of you in my prayers.

  10. Guia-522598 May 31, 2010 Reply

    what a wonderful story….nakakainggit!…. GOD BLESS you both….. and GOD bless too to all Catholic Match members who are sincerely searching for GOD's gift….

  11. Rob-520896 May 31, 2010 Reply

    Wonderful story good luck to both of you!

  12. Jeffrey-406043 May 30, 2010 Reply

    Congratulations! Always have faith because anything is possible.

  13. Grace-583851 May 27, 2010 Reply

    I Hope it'd happen to me, too
    Jesus Bless You

  14. Helena-536982 May 25, 2010 Reply

    Great for you sharing! God bless you both!

  15. Robert-580022 May 23, 2010 Reply

    Amazing…good luck and God bless!

  16. Lillian-546692 May 15, 2010 Reply

    Is a wonderful history. We have to put our trust in the Lord in everything we want in life and dreams. I dream to find the right man "A good man"

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  18. Melody-528283 May 9, 2010 Reply

    So inspiring! Hope it'd happen to me, too.

  19. Erick-562324 May 9, 2010 Reply

    St Joseph did it again!!! Congratulations to both of you. 🙂

  20. Anne-424446 May 7, 2010 Reply

    So pleased to see everything is going so well for you Eve. I have been praying for you & Patrick for awhile now. Continued prayers for you both. God Bless, Anne

  21. Bill-175649 May 6, 2010 Reply

    With God everything is possible! I'm happy for you! As for me, I'm 44 y/o and at the end of my rope!!! I feel I have no chance of ever getting married, however my faith and daily prayers are a ll that I have left!

  22. Kathy-129254 May 5, 2010 Reply

    Thanks for the your story. I'm starting to think that I was not meant for marriage. Who knows?? Inspiring story.

  23. Melinda-536794 May 3, 2010 Reply

    Wow, such a beautiful story–Joy's right! Let God work things out!

  24. Joy-447534 May 3, 2010 Reply

    It inspires me…letting go…letting God:-} Congrats for both of you…your in my prayers.

  25. Julie-163745 May 2, 2010 Reply

    Thanks for the goosebumps! :O) Truly awesome story, appreciate your sharing. You guys are in my prayers.

  26. RoseMarie-41488 May 2, 2010 Reply

    beautiful Eve!!! So happy for you!

  27. Anthony-497204 May 1, 2010 Reply

    Wow best wishes Eve your a great girl! 😉

  28. Carolyn-534764 May 1, 2010 Reply

    How cute! Best of luck to you both!

  29. Kathy-353715 May 1, 2010 Reply

    Wow! That was really a great story. Best of wishes to you both!

  30. Tiffany-66114 May 1, 2010 Reply

    I"ve found that when you're not looking, good things happen (in my experience). Congrats and God bless.

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