Both of us do not believe in casual dating. We were both looking for a relationship to lead to marriage. Our values are very strong that we do not believe in sex outside of marriage. Our dating relationship was more like traditional courting. That discipline of courting (without the expectation of sex) gave us more freedom to discern whether we were right for each other.

We had both tried online dating before. We chose online dating because both of us are professionals who are in management positions so there were limited people that we would meet at work that we could date; and we weren't about to go out to bars since both of us worked in addiction services. Online dating provided a larger opportunity for a variety of people and you can screen them based on your criteria. We liked Catholic Match because it had the faith questions which were helpful to screen potential dates.

Louis joined CM end of September 2007; Karen joined late spring or early summer 2007. We met online in October 2007 starting with an emotigram that Karen sent Louis. We then exchanged a couple of emails. Louis told Karen about a position open at his agency for a manager of addiction services. She came to interview for the position and found out that Louis was the hiring manager!

She was hired and we remained in a professional relationship for the next 15 months. Both of us were wondering what God was doing to bring us together (there was chemistry from the beginning) but that we weren't able to date…Then, Louis left his position in March 2009 and we began to date (three days after he left his position).

We lived 35 miles apart and both worked full-time. We saw each other once or twice a week, but talked on the phone every night from the beginning. We went out to dinner and to theater from time to time, but our typical date was Confession, Adoration, Mass and then dinner at Louis' house. Our mutual spiritual devotion showed us that we were compatible and built a spiritual connection that was more important than any physical connection.

The manner in which we courted gave us the opportunity to know each others' values, beliefs, life stories, communication styles and each other's children and families before making a decision about whether we were right for each other.

Karen's 1st marriage had already been annulled in February 2007; Louis began his annulment process shortly after joining Catholic Match. His marriage was annulled at the end of July 2009. A couple of weeks later, he took Karen out for dinner and proposed marriage (using his godmother's engagement ring that had been just shipped to him from Texas). Karen (who is usually not at a loss for words) was literally rendered speechless for an hour before she was able to respond to his question. Having asthma didn't help as she needed to use her inhaler to catch her breath.



  1. Evabeth-440280 August 22, 2010 Reply

    Gives us hope what a lovely story, have actually given up on ever finding the right person, maybe my time has not yet come!!!:-)

  2. April-319545 August 21, 2010 Reply

    I love the fact that you really got to know each other as "cake" first (meaning that you connected spritually, mentally and emotionally) and saved the physical "icing" for the honeymoon night! How romantic! I am willing to bet that because all the "cake pieces" were properly in place that the "icing" piece was truly spectacular and only added to an already masterpiece! Well done Louis and Karen. Thank you for sharing this story. It reminds me of why I subscribe to this site!

  3. Krystal-509891 August 19, 2010 Reply

    Congratulations!!!!!!!! Brings hope back that maybe this is the place for me to be. :)Tthanks!

  4. Philomena-616650 August 16, 2010 Reply

    You are older couples and you found true love. How lovely. I hope I find someone to share my life and be very happy like you. I guess I have to pray and make a Novena.

  5. Kathleen-311531 August 16, 2010 Reply

    Lovely story! Congratulations!!!!

  6. Bonnie-305136 August 10, 2010 Reply

    Love this story. Gives me new hope that I will find the man I am looking for with the values I hold so dear.

  7. Patty-531275 August 6, 2010 Reply

    such a sweet story……god always knows what is best for us 🙂

  8. Susan-430226 August 2, 2010 Reply

    thanks for sharing your wonderful story…. wish happiness and all the best to both you!!

  9. Jacqueline-198 August 1, 2010 Reply

    Great story!

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