Molly Mesnick: How I Knew Jason Was The One


The moment I stepped into the wedding dress that I would ultimately call my own, I immediately knew. It was one of those movie moments when the clouds part and the angels sing. I wouldn’t try on even one more dress because this was the one.

Oh, if only the signs were that loud and clear when choosing a spouse, right?

Here’s how it worked for me.

Was I expecting to find my husband when I went on ABC’s “The Bachelor”? Definitely not. After meeting Jason and spending time with him on the show, did I know right away that he was the one? Definitely not. Did I truly want Jason to propose to me that last day of filming? Definitely not. Did I want Jason to dump me that last day of filming? Definitely not.

Did I simply want to start dating in the real world – without cameras? Definitely.

I’m not going to pretend that I didn’t get wrapped up in “The Bachelor” bubble while filming. I told Jason that I loved him, wanted to marry him, and live happily ever after…all in a matter of six weeks.


Well, that is an entirely different blog post. For the sake of time and honesty, I’ll say that I did know I liked Jason enough to want to explore a relationship with him after the show. And as much as I did get carried away in the roses and romance, I also knew I needed to see the real Jason – without cameras – before making any major life decisions.

Sometimes when we’re younger we think about what kind of person we want to marry. We often list things like looks, interests, and financial success.

On paper Jason was exactly this. He was my perfect guy: handsome, successful, and kind hearted. While all of those things are great, they weren’t the reasons that made Jason the one for me.

It wasn’t until after we finished filming “The Bachelor” that I learned what Jason was really about. I got an up-close-and-personal look at what an incredible father he is. I realized Jason would give the shirt off his back for someone in need and he has a passion for life that I had never seen in a person before.

As time went on, as in any relationship, I learned more and more about Jason. Most notably, I recognized that we are incredibly different! He is easy going, where I am a stress case! He loves to get out and be active, where I would rather chill out on the couch. I am all things girly and he is all things sports.

It is because of our differences, however, that we work so well together. Jason challenges me, and we pull each other in the right direction. He adds value to my life and he makes me a better person every single day.

The circumstances of how Jason and I started dating are certainly one for the books, but that, in no way, had an impact on our decision to get married. We didn’t get married because America wanted us to and we didn’t get married because it was the next natural step. The bond that Jason and I share is unique – unlike anything I have ever experienced. There is a sense of oneness and a feeling of strength with him.

I know that together, with Jason, I can be everything I was meant to be. I know that whatever gifts are given to both of us, we are meant to use them together for some greater purpose.

We have a unity that can’t adequately be explained, only felt – and this is what makes Jason the one for me.



  1. Teri-216847 October 17, 2010 Reply

    I’m going with Jerry on this one.

    • Mary-551508 October 21, 2010 Reply

      I have hardly been active on CM. Last log in was a month ago. Then I stumble on this “Bachelor” story. Wow! It doesn’t seem like any Catholics I knew who would go on a tv show where women are paraded like cuts of meat.
      I feel like I’ve been living under a rock. But it’s probably that I just don’t believe in the media as an honest forum. Watching tv shows or writing blogs like this is a very poor substitute for real conversation and connection with people.
      Does anyone have a suggestion how to meet a “bachelor” without going on tv?

  2. Dave-104327 October 16, 2010 Reply

    BS is what it is.

  3. Aristhene-625207 October 10, 2010 Reply

    This is real. When GOD want something no one can stop it. At this moment people do not know the true love; they prefer beauty and interest leading them to the dead zone. Thank you Jason and Molly for your stories, touch so many lives. Good luck.

  4. Robert-3483 October 7, 2010 Reply

    The comments here are enough. It would be embarrassing for anyone to realize specific aspects of church teaching for the first time. Pray for the grace that the situation is handled with conversion of hearts. We have enough catholics that flaunt public opposition to the church’s own beliefs. Perhaps this foray into catholicmatch will offer opportunity and grace for all affected by it.

    Most catholics are unaware of the official teachings of the church in relation to marriage, reducing the culpability of such actions. This may be an opportunity for grace to abound.

  5. Jerry-74383 October 6, 2010 Reply

    Did People magazine buy Catholic Match while I wasn’t looking?

    Where is the _Catholic_ message here? Prayer? Discernment? Renouncing the scandal arising from the television show?

    The Mesnicks may be wonderful people, and I certainly wish them a holy and happy life together. However, up to this point they have not been good role models for Catholics and I don’t believe it is appropriate for a Catholic site to be providing her with a forum to prolong her 15 minutes of fame — and most certainly should not be promoting The Batechelor(ette) television programs, even if only by the frequent references.

    • Tiffany-66114 October 7, 2010 Reply

      Jerry- I agree. What in the heck is this doing on CM? I’m giggling to myself… pretty funny, actually.

    • Phil-347749 October 7, 2010 Reply

      LOL! Jerry, That’s a great line about People Magazine! This blog would be more appropriate there(or just plain old I too am puzzled as to why this blog is on CM. The only real connection is that it’s by a semi-famous person who also happens to be Catholic. Maybe it’s just CM’s way to try to attract new members. I don’t see much discussion about God or her faith in this post though, except for one vague sentence about greater purpose. Add to that the fact that their marriage probably isn’t even valid in the church since Jason Mesnick was already divorced(unless he got an anullment from that marriage or it wasn’t recognized as valid by the church for some reason). I know that I’ve pointed this out before in the comments of this blog, but it needs to be repeated. This website is just about building good relationships, but building good Catholic relationships. At least that’s what I come here for. I just don’t think that this woman’s blog adds anything good to this site.

    • Olivia-111035 October 8, 2010 Reply

      Jerry, spot on! I don’t get it either. Why is this here?

    • Theresa-123031 October 20, 2010 Reply

      Good for you, Jerry. This story reflects so well how the world does and views things including relationships. As Christians, we are called to be the salt of the earth and to separate ourselves from the world. I don’t see how the hand of my Almighty Creator God is evident in this story. I agree with another comment — this feature article might have been more appropriate for a dating website such as I hope that Catholic Match will stop promoting these articles because they are hardly edifying to the soul. God bless.

  6. Shannon M. October 5, 2010 Reply

    This is so sweet. I am such a huge fan of you both and I always knew you were ment to be together. I am so glad that I was able to follow you guys throught out your journey. You both are such an inspiration and role models to others. You show that true love can conquer all. Thank you so much for sharing your blogs and i look foward to more to come. 🙂

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