I am a Michael Jackson music fan. I may not agree with his lifestyle, but his music filled my house when I was growing up. At any event, when his music came on, the family went crazy (the more alcohol, the crazier). R.I.P. Jacko, and thanks for the memories.
One of my favorite Michael Jackson songs was “The Way You Make Me Feel.” When I became entranced by this song, I was in middle school, and I thought I knew everything about women. I would sing it to whichever girl I was talking to at the time (lame, I know).
Anyway, there is line in the song when Mike sings, “Ain’t nobody’s business.” He’s referring to one of the biggest issues that destroy relationships today: other people’s opinions.
Now, I am not referring to family and friends who are offering advice to a loved one that is experiencing violence or disrespect in a relationship. I’m talking about those messy individuals who are so unhappy with their own lives that they destroy others’ happiness with their mess.
As a youth and young adult minister, I’ve had to counsel young men and women who ended relationships because they felt like they were dating their significant other as well as their friends.
As we move into our relationships, we must be careful which voices we allow to rule our judgment. We must continually pray for the gift of discernment and the sometimes neglected gift of common sense to make sure we are making the right decision.
Just like in the book of Job, our friends and family may mean well, but they might not know the whole story. So my advice is to make sure you respectfully open yourself to whomever you are dating and pray that God guides you to be open to but be wise about the opinions of others. Because sometimes it “ain’t nobody’s business but mine and my baby!”