Michael Jackson’s Dating Advice: ‘Ain’t Nobody’s Business’


I am a Michael Jackson music fan. I may not agree with his lifestyle, but his music filled my house when I was growing up. At any event, when his music came on, the family went crazy (the more alcohol, the crazier). R.I.P. Jacko, and thanks for the memories.

One of my favorite Michael Jackson songs was “The Way You Make Me Feel.” When I became entranced by this song, I was in middle school, and I thought I knew everything about women.  I would sing it to whichever girl I was talking to at the time (lame, I know).

Anyway, there is line in the song when Mike sings, “Ain’t nobody’s business.” He’s referring to one of the biggest issues that destroy relationships today: other people’s opinions.

Now, I am not referring to family and friends who are offering advice to a loved one that is experiencing violence or disrespect in a relationship. I’m talking about those messy individuals who are so unhappy with their own lives that they destroy others’ happiness with their mess.

As a youth and young adult minister, I’ve had to counsel young men and women who ended relationships because they felt like they were dating their significant other as well as their friends.

As we move into our relationships, we must be careful which voices we allow to rule our judgment. We must continually pray for the gift of discernment and the sometimes neglected gift of common sense to make sure we are making the right decision.

Just like in the book of Job, our friends and family may mean well, but they might not know the whole story. So my advice is to make sure you respectfully open yourself to whomever you are dating and pray that God guides you to be open to but be wise about the opinions of others. Because sometimes it “ain’t nobody’s business but mine and my baby!”



  1. Christie-527291 October 15, 2010 Reply

    Nice article. I agree that while it is wise to seek advise, we should seek be careful about been too bothered about other people opinions..

  2. Patrick-624504 October 9, 2010 Reply

    If you want to know a good way to live listen to “On the Turning Away” and “Learning to Fly” by Pink Floyd. Brilliant poetry and prayerful hope and expectation- Rock on

  3. Alicia-583408 October 6, 2010 Reply

    Like Ansel said, you may not agree with his lifestyle but he really had talent in music. There are not a lot of musicians out there that can write words to strike a cord, so to speak. I think this is a great article regardless of who it comes from and if we can reach young and old by his music, more power to us. We do need a reminder, or courageous push, to let go of the judgemental opinions that could sabotage a good thing brought together by GOD. RIP MJ!!

  4. Kathy-555815 October 5, 2010 Reply

    Michael Jackson changed his god given appearance, was a possible pedophile, and had his own private physician that ended his life-is he a good example to use as catholics?

    • Lauren-488188 October 17, 2010 Reply

      I completely agree with Kathy. The whole article seems really inappropriate for Catholics. Music can have an effect on our souls so we should be very prudent about what we listen to.

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