A Surge In Prenups Among Ordinary Couples


Prenuptial agreements are on the rise – and not just among the rich and famous. Tribune News reported on a recent survey in which 73 percent of attorneys cited an increase in prenups, driven by a growing demand from women.

“More women are bringing assets into the marriage,” a Minneapolis lawyer told the Tribune News.

Another attorney told the Tribune News he’d draw up agreements for clients earning as little as $40,000 a year. That shouldn’t be surprising, a third lawyer said; people of modest means are in greater need of the protection.

What do you think? Is there a sound practical reason for desiring a prenup? Or does it reflect a fundamental lack of trust?



  1. John-642932 December 29, 2010 Reply

    Isn’t this just an alternative way to safeguard against the lack of trust in the pagan “civil” union and the legal gladiators that unwind them? I really think marriage should be a religious ceremony and not involve the tax collectors!

  2. Sandra-202758 December 28, 2010 Reply

    I understand that having a prenup makes a marriage null. It removed the idea of until death do we part, as it is the escape clause. I’m surprised this is on a Catholic site. Maybe MaryBeth Bonacci could weigh in on this. As Catholics, our sacramental marriage is more that what the world has to offer. A sacrament can’t be undone. It takes threw to get married. The world brings the prenup; a Catholic couple brings God.

    • Sandra-202758 December 28, 2010 Reply

      Typo fixed: it takes three to get married (Bishop Fulton Sheen). Man woman, and God. God is the best prenup. Catholic marriage presupposes that God is the foundation of the marriage. With God as the foundation there is no need for a prenup.

      • Dean-1150250 November 27, 2014 Reply

        Sandra, you left out one of the parties in the marriage, the state, which plays a far larger role in the area of assets, which is the subject of this article, then God does.

        Marriage is the first romance killer, the prenup is just a reasonable response to the corporate marriage that strongly favors women in divorce court.

        If marriage was purely spiritual and didn’t involve the state, with the threat of financial robbery in divorce court, the need for a prenup would be negligible.

  3. Brian-555299 December 26, 2010 Reply

    I would never marry someone who desired a prenup. It would send up red flags all over the place. I could just tell that they obviously do not understand the sacrament of marriage. It’s not that marriages don’t work, it’s that people don’t work out their marriages or even know what marriage is before they get married. Divorce is not like a coin toss, its not random. It happens because people make “choices” and someone makes the choice to get a lawyer and file for divorce. It just doesn’t happen accidentally. People may want to think of it as an accident so that they can escape having to take responsibility for their choices. And marriages don’t stay intact accidentally either. I know that I’m never going to divorce my wife. It would be like telling my mother that I no longer want her to be my mother. Once truly married always married. But if somehow my wife left me then she obviously has huge problems and if it makes her better to tkae revenge on me or take everything from me and leave me a naked bum on the street with nothing at all, I’ll take that as a blessing to help me grow closer to God! All that suffering might be exactly what I need to get to heaven. 🙂

  4. Geraldine-602173 December 26, 2010 Reply

    Anyone who has gone through a divorce can see the wisdom of a preuptial agreement. lets face it 50% of re-marriages will fail also. sad but true. If you cannot face up to this statistic the second time around then you are leaving yourself at risk of financial hardship as well as heartache. No one wants a marriage to fail and every one loves and trust their partner but time passes, humans are frail, imperfect, marriages can become unsustainable due to violence, drink, mental illness many things other than what a lot of people think is the problem that of fidelity, often that is the least of all problems. So it is not about lack of trust, it is about facing up to the reality of human relations.

  5. Jerry-74383 December 25, 2010 Reply

    Well, if they’re Catholic there’s a very good chance it indicates the marriage is invalid.

  6. Kwaku-654846 December 24, 2010 Reply

    In today’s world, I think there’s a sound practical reason for desiring a prenup. It is like an insurance policy; you hope never to ever need it, but it’s good to know it’s there if you should ever need it. It’s not that people don’t want their marriages to work, but even the most well-intentioned people don’t always marry for the right reasons……and even the most well-intentioned people can be prone to revenge when disappointed by divorce (and may focus on the ex’s financial ruin instead of a fair financial settlement). Hence, a prenup is a good thing to ensure that, should the unthinkable happen, there would be a fair financial settlement. A potential problem I see with prenups is that what can seem fair at today may not be fair 20 years from now……

    But the problem is, knowing human nature, once there’s such protection, people will start getting reckless and may not work as hard on their marriages. But if I have to choose between protection and none, I would choose protection….

  7. Brad-614117 December 23, 2010 Reply

    I can understand the practicality of a prenup, but having one implies that you think there’s a chance your marriage won’t work. It demonstrates a lack of trust not only in the other person, but also in you to work hard enough to make the relationship last forever. So while I understand it, it’s not for me.

    • Kwaku-654846 December 24, 2010 Reply

      There is ALWAYS a chance a marriage might not work. We live in the real world, afterall…..

      • Sandra-202758 December 28, 2010 Reply

        The Bible says that although We live in the world, we are not of the world.

        I believe there are some people who do not have what it takes to make a marriage last a lifetime. If you truly believe you need PROTECTION from the person you plan to marry, then you shouldn’t marry, period.

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