Fourth Day Of Christmas: Marian Counsels Those In Crisis


For the fourth day of Christmas we’re spotlighting Marian-83994.


What were the greatest blessings of 2010?

Having had the opportunity to work with alcoholics, drug addicts and people in crisis and helping to offer hope and make a difference in their lives.

Another great blessing has been to find more depth in prayer while saying the 54-day novena with other CatholicMatchers.


How has your approach to finding a mate evolved?

I initially thought finding a mate online would be much simpler to achieve than it actually is. I now view the online and in-real-life process with a healthy skepticism because I believe that more factors must align to bring about a good fit.

I think forum involvement enhances anyone’s experience on CatholicMatch, and I recommend that. However, I’ve simplified my attitude; my approach on the forums is to enjoy myself and help others to do the same.



What’s your CatholicMatch strategy?

I check the forums daily because I enjoy the banter among members. I look up profiles about one time a week. I occasionally send an emotigram to a new member to welcome him.

My strategy is to create an atmosphere where I can talk to anyone and they can talk to me, instead of having an attitude of formality and standoffishness. I routinely invite men to the forum so they can enjoy everyone.


Why do you stay on CatholicMatch?

I stay on CatholicMatch because I have a need to be with other singles who have a common culture of beliefs, traditions, perspectives and practices. I love to learn what people are thinking.

CatholicMatch has helped me deepen my faith. I believe I’m part of an online community of committed Catholics.


What’s your favorite Christmas tradition?

Baking and cooking, caroling and songs, decorations, candles and lights, and being with family, sharing laughter.

Ukrainians have something called “Kutya,” which is wheat kernels with honey, and it is eaten on Christmas Eve. It symbolizes Jesus as the Bread of Life. Also, the Ukrainian choral piece “Carol of the Bells” is one of my favorites.



What’s your hope for 2011?

My hope for 2011 is to find rewarding and inspirational work and to get closer to reaching career and personal goals. I hope to raise my quality of life while extending myself to raise the quality of life for others.

Also, I would like to get nearer to finding a man to share many things with.


Make a prediction for 2011.

  1. I predict that two to five more women who live in the Midwest and South will become wives.
  2. The Giants will win the World Series again in 2011.



Further reading

  • The third day of Christmas featured Leon.
  • The second day of Christmas featured Dawn.
  • The first day of Christmas featured Lisa.



  1. Helaena-743478 December 16, 2011 Reply

    Congratulations, Marian. I enjoy your posts!

  2. Ray-566531 January 3, 2011 Reply

    Marian — this came as no surprise. As one who is continually in the forefront, you have contributed a great deal of wisdom and common sense to the forums. You have also displayed creativity by starting a number of your own threads on a variety of topics. Probably the most popular was the “baketress” theme where many of us not-so-handy in the kitchen received delicious goodies from the ladies. I know that you have had personal situations which could have left you with a negative attitude here, but that hasn’t been the case. Glad you were selected for the 12 Days theme. 🙂

  3. Dawn-58330 December 28, 2010 Reply

    Lady Marian, I am so glad to see you in this list. You have brought a level of femininity, tenacity and charity to CM that we all are fed by– sometimes quite literally with your cookie and baking threads. Thank you for this extra glimpse into you.You have taught me much in the few years I have known you. I am honored to call you friend.

    • Marian-83994 December 29, 2010 Reply

      Dawn, I am honored by your words saying I have taught you things here. I have learned so much here especially this year while praying these Novenas in concert with all of you! You are a Dear friend Dawn! I am so grateful to be able to get to know you!!! May God Bless us this coming New Year!!!Thank you for sharing in my various threads!

  4. Theresa-462847 December 28, 2010 Reply

    Marian, what a blessing you are to the CM community! You have such a beautiful sense of excitement and warmth of hospitality in your posts and how you address others! It has been a pleasure to get to know you through the 54 day rosary novena prayer journey, what a blessed and beneficial journey that have been! Wishing you all the best, may all your wishes come true, and may they be ones guided by the Holy Spirit. God bless.

    • Marian-83994 December 29, 2010 Reply

      Theresa, Thank you so much for everything you have done for me and for all of us in the Novena and on the forums! You add so much to the experience here! I know we all appreciate your warmth and encouragement!!! God Bless us during this New Year!

  5. Ria-570234 December 28, 2010 Reply

    Congratulations, Marian, on yet another excellent point of view. CM members have certainly chosen wisely for this very special Christmas blog. We all look forward to your continued offerings of good counsel and fun in the fora during the coming year. Best wishes for happiness and success in 2011.

    • Marian-83994 December 29, 2010 Reply

      Thank you Ria for everything you and I have shared this year! Knowing you has made my experience much better. May God Bless each CMer with blessings that only He could arrange! 🙂

  6. Leon-593843 December 28, 2010 Reply


    Congratulations on being chosen as one of the 12. Wow, I am sandwiched between you, Lisa and Dawn. Life could not be better. I admire your steadfastness and never give up attitude. The community of CM loves you.


    • Marian-83994 December 29, 2010 Reply

      Thank you Leon! I feel grateful to read your words that people love me, and grateful to be on of 12 people featured. I feel blessed to see you here and your positive and gentlemanly impact on people here!

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