Eleventh Day of Christmas: Ray Is Taking Dance Lessons


On the 11th day of Christmas, we bring you Ray-566531.


What were the greatest blessings of 2010?

Belonging to a Church Outreach Committee (Human Concerns), participating in new and existing programs that met with success – the blessing is in seeing more people receiving needed help.

Making new friends, the benefits of which are obvious. My mother, surviving ailments that most people normally wouldn’t. She’s still with us!


How has your approach to finding a mate evolved?

A more patient approach, realizing the complexities of a new and permanent relationship at my age. Trying to re-invent myself by participating in more social activities, including taking dance lessons (a slow process).

Trying to ensure that any future serious relationship will be genuine by being more open myself and to appreciate the qualities of a potential mate, while at the same time examining how differences can be complementary.



What’s your CatholicMatch strategy?

Essentially, it’s flying by the seat of my pants, with no specific strategy in mind. Somehow the Good Lord has opened some paths (another blessing, too). I pay close attention to the “viewed me” ladies and emotigrams, trying to respond to each of them…eventually.

The forums have been quite enjoyable, coming to appreciate different viewpoints. The topics cover such a range of subjects it’s difficult to not find something of interest. This has also sparked a great deal of personal contact with ladies across the country, and in some cases, regular messaging. CatholicMatch members can receive an unbelievable amount of support and knowledge in the forums.


Why do you stay on CatholicMatch?

Friendship, at least. The forums have opened up a lot of on-going communication with various members. The next new “match” or “viewed me” woman could just be the ideal mate.


What’s your favorite Christmas tradition?

Getting together with family is tops. Our lives lead us down different paths, but we come together at Christmas (and other holidays) to share our family bonds.

Another enjoyable tradition is setting up a simple but heavy stable with fairly large Nativity statues. Several years ago I became dismayed at the overabundance of secular decorations. As elaborate and enjoyable as many of them are, they do not portray the true meaning of Christmas.


What’s your hope for 2011?

My hope is that all of the CatholicMatch members come to experience true love.

On a broader scale, my hope is that common sense will prevail and peace will be restored, especially in the Middle East.

A listing of all my personal hopes would be lengthy, but I would wish for an increased consciousness of practicing our Christianity by being charitable to those in need. This can be done on an individual basis or by participating in organized programs. Even an hour a week can accomplish wonders.


Make a prediction for 2011.

There will be an increased level of spirituality in the world because of the present turmoil in many areas. An increased awareness of the culture of life in all stages – from the unborn to the elderly.



Further reading

  • The tenth day of Christmas featured David.
  • The ninth day of Christmas featured Michael.
  • The eighth day of Christmas featured Theresa.
  • The seventh day of Christmas featured Megan.
  • The sixth day of Christmas featured Bernie.
  • The fifth day of Christmas featured Mary.
  • The fourth day of Christmas featured Marian.
  • The third day of Christmas featured Leon.
  • The second day of Christmas featured Dawn.
  • The first day of Christmas featured Lisa.



  1. Helaena-743478 December 16, 2011 Reply

    Ray! You did it !

  2. Dee-576521 January 8, 2011 Reply

    Well, see you are still around…good to hear your words again.

  3. Dawn-58330 January 4, 2011 Reply

    Congratulations, Ray! You certainly are deserving of being on this list. I appreciate you being such a gentleman and wise man in the forums. Your guidance and example serve us all well. You show great leadership, a level head, compassion and clarity whenever you post. Thank you for being so supportive and helpful to me and so many other people.

    May 2011 be a year of many, many blessings! Tear up that dance floor!!

  4. Ria-570234 January 4, 2011 Reply

    Kudos to one of the more prolific, sympathetic, and knowledgeable members of CM & the fora. Not to mention that sly mastery of the puns he so often uses to bring smiles to our faces. Leave it to Ray to diffuse a potentially volatile confrontation with his witty commentaries. A good man with a big heart, and a ton of common sense. God bless you, Milwaukee Ray!

  5. Leon-593843 January 4, 2011 Reply


    Congratulations on being selected as the 11th person in the 12 Days of Christmas contest. You are a model among the men on this site. You are very respected and rightfully so.

    I wish you a wonderful 2011 and may God be your constant companion.



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