All The Single Ladies: 5 Ways To Survive Valentine’s Day


The numbers are staggering: 198 million roses, 190 million cards, 8 billion candy hearts, more than $1 billion worth of chocolate. Valentine’s Day is a cultural spectacle with thousands of couples partaking in the festivities.

The thought of spending another Valentine’s Day as a single person can be discouraging and downright frustrating. It’s easy to mock the cheap stuffed animals, expensive boxes of chocolate and overpriced dinner dates, but deep down, most of us want our own stake in the lovey-dovey silliness.

I’ve spent the vast majority of my Valentine’s Days as a single woman, so I have had to make the conscious decision to find my own joy and peace with this holiday. While it’s tempting to hunker down on the couch with a heaping bowl of ice cream and a Nicholas Sparks movie, I have found that making the deliberate decision to acknowledge the wealth of love in my life – with or without a significant other – is key to surviving this overly-commercialized day.

If you’re a proud single lady this Valentine’s Day, here are some tips for embracing Feb. 14:


1.   Host a girl’s night

Nothing takes your mind off a tough holiday better than playing host to your favorite girlfriends. Find a recipe online for delectable appetizers or festive chocolate martinis before popping in your favorite chick-flick or just catching up with your girls. Schedules are difficult to coordinate between busy, on-the-go women, so take this opportunity to show some love to the friends who support you throughout the year.


2.   Give back with love

While it may seem like you’re the only one without extravagant Valentine’s Day plans, that’s not the case. Hundreds of people across the country will spend Feb. 14 at a homeless shelter or in the hospital. Reach out to non-profits in your area to see how you could spread Christ’s love to those in need on Feb. 14, honoring the saint behind the holiday. It could be as simple as sending a homemade Valentine’s Day card to a nearby senior home or organizing a group of friends to serve meals at the soup kitchen. You never know how one act of love could change a person’s outlook on life.


3.   Embark on an adventure

Test your limits this Valentine’s Day by doing something out of the ordinary. Try sushi for the first time. Go cross country skiing in a local park. Take the day off from work and take a scenic drive. Sign up for a singles event through an organization like Events and Adventures. Just because you’re single doesn’t mean you have to waste away the day, so challenge yourself to step outside your comfort zone!


4.   Take time for you

Just because you don’t have a special someone to spoil you on Feb. 14 doesn’t mean that you can’t spoil yourself! Schedule that mani and pedi you’ve been putting off or treat yourself to a relaxing massage. Make a hair appointment or shop for a special item you’ve had your eye on. You deserve to feel beautiful every day, and Valentine’s Day is no exception.


5.   Focus on true love

While many have high expectations for this commercialized holiday, there is only One who can meet all of those longings:

“Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart…” Psalm 37:4

Delight in your one-of-kind relationship with God on this day – go to Mass, find peace in the sacrament of Reconciliation or read 1 Corinthians 13. The truest form of love is found in Christ our Savior, so what better day to celebrate this love than Valentine’s Day?


No matter how you decide to spend Valentine’s Day this year, be realistic. While special in many ways, Feb. 14 is just another day. Within 24 hours, the chocolate will be eaten, the wine will be consumed, the checking accounts will be lighter and you will be one day closer to finding the person, God-willing, who will make next year’s Valentine’s Day even more special.



  1. Marie-575233 February 22, 2011 Reply

    On Valentine’s Day,we celebrated each other at work.We ate together ,food prepared by us.We did things for each other to make us feel special.Clients voiced appreciation for help received. In addition,I received a dozen roses from someone who cares about me very much. Valentine’s Day can be celebrated various ways.

  2. Lidia-111336 February 15, 2011 Reply

    A good idea is to give up any unrealistic expectations. There are 365 days in a year and only one is my birthday. During other 364 days I do not expect anyone to wish me happy birthday and give presents. The Independence Day in the US is in Jul 4th, while in my country it’s Aug, 24. Logically, I do not expect any fireworks and parades here on Jul 4th. Feb 14th is the day of those who are in love. Noone is in love with me. Consiquently, I do not expect any chocolates, hearts and special nights out and it doesn’t bother me. Although, I’m happy for those who have reason to celebrate and wish them true and happy love with all my heart.

  3. Peter-44842 February 15, 2011 Reply

    Woman with the baseball bat is cute. She single?

  4. Stephanie-609661 February 14, 2011 Reply

    I always celebrate Valentine’s Day with my family. Pretty awesome. When I have a special someone, great, but for now, family works!

  5. Erin-466489 February 14, 2011 Reply

    I agree with Terese… this is just what I needed today. I think I will go to mass this evening!

  6. Sherrill-anne-13557 February 13, 2011 Reply

    Thank you for sharing your ideas.Thanking God for all the love he showers upon us.
    Happy Valentines day all.

  7. Norma-3966 February 13, 2011 Reply

    I like #2 – And this year I did just that. This weekend, I went to several Assisted Living/ Nursing Homes, where I volunteer, and passed out Valentines to each person, compliments of my parish – St. Ann’s Catholic Church. The smile on their face that someone remembered them on Valentine’s Day – filled my heart with joy! This small gesture, along with spending it with my daughter, made my Happy Valentine’s Day!!


  8. Teresa-311462 February 13, 2011 Reply

    I liked the article. It was just what I needed today.

  9. Camille-682578 February 11, 2011 Reply

    I like #2, it’s true that just because you aren’t receiving the kind of love you want, doesn’t mean that you should feel self pity, but rather reaching out to others is a blessing in return. Another point I’d like to make is, spend time with your family. I’m 18 (and not in a relationship) and have younger siblings so we have fun sharing goodies and lots of love! Cherish the day!

  10. Charles-683007 February 10, 2011 Reply

    Remember St. Valentine was espousing love of God.

    • Marie-575233 February 22, 2011 Reply

      Kudos Charles.You hit the nail on the head. God’s love is what should be celebrated.

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