Andy: ‘I’m Happy To Take A Break From Dating Women’


By Andy-246798

I haven’t been in many dating relationships, but when I have been in a relationship, it was always a struggle to balance time with my friends and time with my girlfriend.

True, this time does not have to be mutually exclusive, but we all know iron sharpens iron and watching a game while eating greasy pizza hardly qualifies as a romantic date.

This Lent I am excited to be single! While I am not going to go so far as to swear off women altogether, I am definitely not actively searching.

Being single gives me the opportunity to spend date night in prayer, donate the money that would have funded a nice dinner to the Rice Bowl, and spend Saturday volunteering or helping community members with their spring-cleaning projects.

I am going to take this Lent and, in a way, date Jesus: spent extra time in prayer with Him, share my gifts with Him and spend my extra money on Him.

I know that when I take the time in a dating relationship to do these things, they pay off ten-fold.  I also know that when I take the time to do these things in my relationship with God, they pay off 10,000-fold.

So don’t get me wrong: I don’t want to spend the rest of my Lents being single. I am truly looking forward to the day that my wife and I can draw closer to the Lord and to each other during Lent by praying and serving together.

However, that day will not be this Lent, and I’m happy to take a break from dating women to have some good ol’ quality guy time with Jesus.

Reflection question: How can you carve out some quality time with Jesus this weekend?



  1. Joy-712305 April 14, 2011 Reply

    I’m having a date with some friends this week end…we’ll go church-hopping and we’re attending some free Lent retreats next week. A silent weekend recollection at Mt.View or Mt. Tabor here in my city is very ideal. It gives me some peace and a great time to listen to Jesus while walking/jogging on a cool mountain top and enjoying the beautiful scenery overlooking the city. A great way to spend the Palm Sunday is the re-enactment of Jesus at Mt.Tabor at the CCTN chapel. I’m now excited!!!!

  2. Anneliese-663855 April 14, 2011 Reply

    I’m not entirely sure I agree with you.

  3. Paul-663898 April 11, 2011 Reply

    This is hilarious. Is it really abnormal for someone to be single during lent or any time of the year? C’mon…

  4. Nhel-711203 April 11, 2011 Reply


  5. Daniel-583375 April 11, 2011 Reply

    I hear you brother…..a season for everything!!

  6. Tami-687693 April 6, 2011 Reply

    Great attitude! I love it! I have been feeling the same nudge from the Holy Spirit. I pray for the grace to follow in your footsteps. Thanks for writing this…

  7. Rose-531146 April 5, 2011 Reply

    Thanks for sharing your article with everyone, Andy. I intend to continue to date God through Lent and keep telling myself that Jesus climbed the mount carrying a cross only to die on it. Filing for bankcruptcy and short selling my house is nothing!! Thanks again!

  8. David-663729 April 5, 2011 Reply

    This Lent, I am drawing closer to the Lord with prayer and Adoration. We all need to Humble ourself and grow closer to God during this season. Remember that all is possible with the Lord. We just have to believe and stay in faith.

  9. Helen-671345 April 2, 2011 Reply

    What a wonderful thing to do .
    I will be following your your way.

  10. Joyce-670967 March 27, 2011 Reply

    Thanks Andy for sharing your thoughts and your Lenten sacrifice with us. It was a good reminder to keep things in order and perspective and dating Jesus certainly gives us someone we can trust and depend on so how can we argue with that!

  11. Liz M. March 21, 2011 Reply

    Drew. I am happy for ya! To take away positives from each relationships is important in building the one that will last forever!!!! Sure Do! Liz

  12. Chloe-692652 March 20, 2011 Reply

    nice, sir….God bless

  13. Dawn-58330 March 19, 2011 Reply

    Andy, I like the concept of dating Jesus during Lent. I think that is what I am doing. Also, thank you for the reminder about Operation Rice Bowl. This is a practice my students and I do. I’ve committed several meals I would normally eat out to the rice bowl.

    • Kim-115090 March 20, 2011 Reply

      Andy,I enjoyed your article very much. Thanks for sharing it with us! Kim

  14. Frances-26250 March 18, 2011 Reply

    I love how you get the bridegroom and bride relationship of God and the soul. Profound.

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