Darrell-622889: ‘Single Life, Followed By Easter Joy’


By Darrell-622889

Lent is a time for extra prayer and penance, meditation on the sufferings of Christ, and longing for the joys and glory of the resurrection.

Being single and seeking a spouse with whom to find fulfillment in my life is also a penance and something that motivates me to pray more. It is a cross to accept and even embrace, not just the celibacy required of me, but above all, the intimate friendship and companionship that a wife would bring, which I now lack.

Although Christ was never without his Father in heaven, He chose to experience in his human nature the desolation and spiritual agony of being abandoned by the Father while he was on the cross.

Like Jesus, I am sometimes tempted to say, “My God, my God, why have you abandoned me? Why have you left me alone when I feel a great longing for a good wife?”

But then my faith tells me that, indeed, God is always with me, that I should trust that He knows what is best for me, that this small Lenten sacrifice of living a single life, at least for the time allotted for me in God’s plan, is good for me. It purifies me spiritually and inspires me to pray more and trust more in divine providence.

I pray that God may grant me the grace to always embrace his holy will as Christ and Our Lady did and to trust that my Lenten penance of single life will be followed by Easter joy with that one special woman they have chosen especially for me.

Reflection question: How can you embrace God’s will today?

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  1. Paul-663898 April 11, 2011 Reply

    Ah, yes, another ‘don’t worry abnormal single person, you’ll find someone’. Would someone explain to me why being single is such a bad thing? I don’t consider being single as a ‘cross to bear’. While I would love to be in a relationship, I don’t think we should view being single as some kind of lesser state.

  2. Emily-628945 April 5, 2011 Reply

    Being a very social person and finding myself alone after a recent break up is no laughing matter…especially in Spring when all of nature “couples up”. Yet, it is precisely during this very special time of Lent, a preparation time, that Our Lord calls us to put our trust in HIM. Without the distractions of a partner, we singles are free to delve deep into Mystery and Miracles. Remembering His suffering for each of us and the greatest miracle of all-HIS RESURRECTION puts things into a better persective for me. God Bless You! 🙂

  3. Lynn L. March 31, 2011 Reply

    Wonderfully expresses the human condition, the good, the bad and the ugly, yes, that came from a Clint Eastwood movies from many years ago! One other thought, is that the “cross” part of being single is very similar to everyone’s cross. Every single person can point to something or someone and say, “if only this or that was or was not so, I’d be happy.” We say this at times when we feel our desire for the beautiful spousal relationship we know that God created for mankind, to point us to His Trinity love. May God strengthen us as we walk with Jesus.

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