Lent Day 7: ‘Waiting For Our Lives To Begin’


By Tina-401203

Because we’re single, most people assume our lives are fun, ambitious, and rather self centered. I can attest that that is not true for many of us, who can rarely find a minute to breath.

Living the single life is a daily challenge, even for those of us embracing it again. Lent is a penitential time of prayerful sacrifice, giving, and fasting. As I explained this wonderful liturgical season to my junior high religious education class, I began to recognize what an impact it can have on our lives – no matter what our age.

Prayerful sacrifice as a single person can be difficult because often we feel as if we’re waiting for our lives to begin, so what can I sacrifice?

What about our egos? The Litany of Humility is one of the simplest but most difficult prayers I have ever uttered. It asks us to set aside our wants and pray that others receive the blessings we desire.

One of our priests recently gave his homily on forgiveness, which is what Lent is all about. The first step to find peace through forgiveness is to identify with whom you need to find peace. Make a list of those people. Then identify all your personal prayer intentions, and finally, pray for those listed people, that they may receive all that you want for yourself.

Now that’s a challenging approach, but when I explain to my students all that Jesus humbled Himself to do for us, this task seems so miniscule in comparison.

So take a moment this Lent to release yourself of your desires – whether it’s for a partner, a friend, or just a greater sense of community – and humbly pray that others receive it. If we all pray for each other without regard for our own wants, then miracles will happen.

Reflection question: How can you take a step toward forgiveness today?



  1. Claudia-652197 April 11, 2011 Reply

    Wonderful thoughts and practical ideas for these last 2 weeks of Lent. Thank you for sharing in my journey of hope and praise.

  2. Paul-663898 April 11, 2011 Reply

    Being single is not a daily challenge. Can we please stop with the articles that imply being single is a lesser state of existence.

  3. Betsie-705621 April 5, 2011 Reply

    Thank you so much for speaking for those of us who are single. This is very, very profound what you stated and extremely heartfelt. Blessings in His name to you always!

  4. Eileen-706109 March 27, 2011 Reply

    I hope somebody out there can empathize with me i am in passaic n.j.07055

    • Eileen-706109 March 27, 2011 Reply

      i hope i get an answer from somebody to relate to i am in passaic n.j.

  5. Kathy-555815 March 27, 2011 Reply

    Thanks for the advice. I seem to pray for myself and family. I think i need to change and pray for others

  6. Dawn-701763 March 27, 2011 Reply

    AMEN! I truly loved your writing and it made me cry. But sadly, I’m not ready to forgive an x-husband for all the pain he has brought to my family and continues to do inflict on me and our children.

  7. Morris-506195 March 21, 2011 Reply

    great post…” asks us to set aside our wants and pray that others receive the blessings we desire…” I need to let go of my desire to have my annulment done already… maybe God is directing me in another direction this lent…to pray more… again great post…

  8. Robert-671572 March 18, 2011 Reply

    Thank you for sharing that Tina.

  9. Nancy-591885 March 17, 2011 Reply

    Thank you for sharing. I have always been taught this. It is amazing when you pray for others or do deeds for others, putting your needs to the side, God ends up fulfilling needs for all. Another thing to keep in mind, it is not so much what you want, as it is what you need. I believe all of us on here want, desire a spouse, but it is finding the right spouse that is the need. 🙂

  10. Steven-408478 March 17, 2011 Reply


    I would recommend that we embrace the Sacrament of Reconciliation. Go Monthly…Work always the Five Weeks of Our Lady at Fatima. Never stopping.


    • Steven-408478 March 17, 2011 Reply


      My mistake the Five Months of Our Lady at Fatima.


  11. Frances-26250 March 17, 2011 Reply

    Amen, sister.

  12. Dawn-58330 March 17, 2011 Reply

    Tina, I too am a junior high religion teacher. And you are right… in sharing Lent with my students I’ve discovered that there is no aspect of my life not affected by it. Thank you for sharing the Litany of Humility. I recently was introduced to it in the CatholicMatch fora, and I am finding it is teaching me quite a bit.

  13. Erica-696600 March 16, 2011 Reply

    Beautiful! I will do just that. Thank you for sharing this Tina.

  14. Jeanne-648636 March 16, 2011 Reply

    These are profound words, Tina. Truly challenging and yet full of promise! Thanks for sharing.

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