Member Spotlight: Ruling Out Priesthood, Awaiting A Wife


Though he has decided not to pursue priesthood, William-149730 is immensely grateful for the two years of formation he received at St. Meinard Seminary. In fact, the 33-year-old insurance agent wishes he would’ve gone to seminary sooner.

“Seminary has been the best experience I have had in my life,” William said. “Although I discerned out of priesthood, I was challenged and educated in so many ways.”

He’s hoping to apply those insights to marriage.

“I believe I’m called to marriage because I feel that is the best way to serve God with my life. Seminary was a great way for me to mature and grow past myself and think of others first. It has taught me the value of sacrifice.”

William points to another experience that may make him more wife-worthy: growing up with four sisters (and no brothers).

“I definitely learned to be a listener and to be more sensitive,” he said. “And how to match my clothes!”

These days, the Purdue grad is enjoying being back on CatholicMatch, having first tried it out before seminary, and counting on God’s perfect timing. “My trust and dependence on God have grown as I have gotten older and matured,” William said. “I’ll just keep waiting as He prepares me for my future partner in life.”



  1. Lori-492169 April 10, 2011 Reply

    Hey William,
    I have just read everyone’s response to your post and they have all said what I would like to say,that is that your note has been an inspiration! You truly do seem to have your head on straight, and I wish you the best of luck. That being said, I also want to say, “Hey, look at me! I’m a pretty good catch, if I do say so myself,” So, um, ok, your insight into the priesthood is great, but if you do decide otherwise, look me up! =) Alright, well, bye!

  2. Jennifer-688851 March 20, 2011 Reply

    I will pray for you to find your match!

  3. Krisa-665753 March 15, 2011 Reply

    I completely understanding – I spent many years believing I was meant to serve as a monastic sister. It almost broke my heart when I realized there wasn’t a place there for me. None of my friends, and few of my family understand. It’s nice to see someone else deal with letting go of the “perfect” vocation and turn the track. Blessings on you.

  4. Audrey-698327 March 10, 2011 Reply

    We can serve God in any vocation, keep His teaching to serve Him in any situations in life and all blessings shall be upon us. William you can still serve your God in married life even better. I wish you get a wise wife.

  5. Dawn-496646 March 10, 2011 Reply


    It took courage to make that decision and I’m sure God has great things planned for you. My younger brother also considered the seminary after graduating from Franciscan University but ultimately did not. He met his wife on this website years ago and they now have two beautiful daughters being raised with great love and the Catholic faith. I wish you well on your search for that right path and the right mate.


  6. MaryWairimu-507518 March 9, 2011 Reply

    I am sure William has certainly learnt a lot that will go along way to make him an exceptional husband to someone of his age group. Putting others first is a very rate character trait in Catholic Match. I have met one or two people who are considerate of others and their feelings. May God Bless Williams and the good friends that I have met here. Mary

  7. Cheryl-241425 March 9, 2011 Reply

    /I enjoyed reading your story. It has been inspirational for me. Not everyone who goes to seminary is suited for the presthood. You have had the blessing of maturity while seeking Gods’ will. These will prepare you for marriage, if the is Gods will. As one who jujmped in before looking, I wish I had waited and made mature judgement when I had married. I wish you the very best.

  8. Martha-696104 March 8, 2011 Reply

    the best thing in life is to know what our call is and listening and understand your call. I wish you all good in your whole life. merriage is the one of a greate responsiblity the same like priesthood. i love your option and decision.

  9. Lucy-613237 March 8, 2011 Reply

    William, thank you for sharing the inspiring experience. I too went to the convent, loved the life and still yearn to serve God in a special way He deserves, i believe He has been there for us and will always do of course when we learn to loving listening to His voice. I am happy that you did listen to Him and so forever will in all you do, keep smiling at each day for it unfolds new horizons for your life is beautiful! wish you luck and please lets pray for one another as i too desire for the wonderful rib of mine wherever he may be to share our lives together.

  10. Tonya-670779 March 8, 2011 Reply

    nice to meet you . although you would have made a great priest surely you will find love of a wife in the sacrament.

  11. Betty-573079 March 7, 2011 Reply

    nice story good looking young man, you will find that lucky one and hope soon.

  12. Mari-564079 March 7, 2011 Reply

    I understand what you mean by saying that the seminary was the best experience you’ve had. The most inspiring, lovable, self-giving and admirable priest I’ve met said similar words to my friends brother: “The seminary was the happiest time of my life” !
    All i can say is, thanks be to God and I’ll be praying for you. 🙂

  13. Ivy-525743 March 6, 2011 Reply

    I hope you will find what you are looking for in the grace of God.

  14. Marlainn-647375 March 6, 2011 Reply

    The Priesthood is definetly a calling. Not having been called to the Priesthood for your vocation in life and having had that opportunity of discernment through such experience formation (seminary) must be unforgetably imprinting to the soul.

  15. Nore-632026 March 6, 2011 Reply

    No, it doesn’t make sense.

  16. Elizabeth L. March 6, 2011 Reply

    I met my husband on in 2007 (we recently welcomed a baby girl), after entering a convent several years ago. It, too, was a positive experience for me. I pray God sends you the perfect mate very soon.

  17. JoAnne-438384 March 5, 2011 Reply

    wow.. your story is interesting.. i mean.. between priesthood and marriage. both of them weighs a lot! just by thinking about which to choose. but God works in mysterious ways and He has his own plans for each of us that’s out of our hands.. im happy for u. =)

    • Marg-671317 March 5, 2011 Reply

      You can always serve God as a lay person (deacon)…as a mother once told me..I prefer someone who left the seminary for my daughter over any other Catholic man -any day..I think you have found the right foundations for a happy marriage by strengthening your faith in the seminary. The prisethood and marriage both require sacrifice..but of a different type.

  18. Gary-662543 March 5, 2011 Reply

    Thank you for writing about your story. I too felt a call to the priesthood as a young adult, but I flat out told God no, I wanted a wife. After struggling for several years with depression, and then getting married and divorcing after 15 years, it finally dawned on me that wanting a wife and expecting a marriage relationship to “make me happy” was totally wrong. I’m a slow learner.

    Thank God for his mercy and grace because I am indeed learning. Seek Christ first, die to self, and He does give you the desires of your heart… peace and joy. Everything else comes second, and He’s got that under control too.

    God bless you and your future wife wherever she may be.

    • Lucy-613237 March 8, 2011 Reply

      Yes, once we have self giving heart, seeking ye the Kingdom of God first the rest will definitely be added to our lives. Am happy always to hear someone yearning for what God’s voice has commanded them to do with there life.

  19. Abbey-104305 March 5, 2011 Reply

    Wishing you the blessing of marriage.

  20. Roseanna-369383 March 5, 2011 Reply

    Marriage is vocation too. I’m sure you will find the right partner because you have given the choice up to our God. I need to pray more because I did not make the right choice the first time and I had a beautiful wedding in the Church but not a blessed marriage.

  21. Tammy-492301 March 5, 2011 Reply

    What a blessing to discern the priesthood and now…. perhaps marriage one day. (: I enjoyed your story.

  22. Stephanie-561901 March 4, 2011 Reply

    Your story is inspirational in that you are truely seeking to do His Will, and in so doing He will quide you to that destination. God bless you! I wish you the very best.

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