Love, Literature & Faith: The Story Of Jill & Ted


When it’s time to study for a test most people will do anything to put it off. Some clean up their living quarters, others watch TV. Jill, attending graduate school in Minnesota, tried something else. She set up a profile on CatholicMatch.

Joining CatholicMatch was something Jill had given prior thought to. “I was feeling down that it was so hard to meet men with good moral values who went to church of their volition,” she said. After spending a little time with her new CatholicMatch profile, looking through her matches and sending emotigrams, she found she felt safe in this online environment. And just two weeks later she found something else—Ted.

Historians will debate which made the first contact. “I contend that it was I who sent an emoticon his way,” Jill recalled. “He claims he did.” What they are in agreement on is that Ted sent the first message with an eye-catching subject line—“You have a sweet smile.”

Jill thought Ted was handsome, but there was something else that was even more attractive to here—depth, both spiritually and intellectually. Ted was reading The Confessions of St. Augustine, showing that he shared Jill’s love for both Catholicism and literature.

They stuck with correspondence for the first month, and Ted told Jill that his “lightening bolt” movement was when he asked her who her favorite authors were. When her list included Thomas Hardy, a favorite of his, he knew this was someone serious about literature.

The first date proved to be worth the wait. “Ted made me laugh so much that my cheeks were sore by the end of the night,” Jill recalled. Shortly after, she took a vacation for three weeks in Ecuador. “Ted had given me a gift of a book he loved before I left,” Jill told CatholicMatch. “As I read…I felt myself growing in respect and affection for this thoughtful intelligent man.”

Jill and Ted had always attended the same parish, but going to different Masses, they never realized it. When she returned from vacation, one of their regular dates was Mass and breakfast. After a few months, Jill was convinced she’d found her husband. “Ted knew much earlier, but kept it under wraps so not to scare me off,” she confided. “I’m a bit cautious.”

It was December that Ted unveiled his creative talents in proposing. He took Jill on a holiday lights tour in a limo, a hunt for clues down a snowy street and finally an evergreen tree that lit up and had the ring hanging from its branches.

The wedding is now just a month out. “Ted and I…spent years alone thinking perhaps we would never find that special person we loved enough to want to spend our lives with,” Jill said. “Now in hindsight, I can see God’s plan for both of us. And all the years of waiting were so worth it!”



  1. Sofie-726208 May 22, 2011 Reply

    This is a good story. …. Any type of Business needs to profit, end of the story !

    CatholicMatch Staff, keep publishing all the success stories. Sourgraping is just part of the devil’s work… We all need to support each other as Catholics, being the Body Of Our Lord Jesus Christ.

    PEACE, everyone in the real sense of the word !

  2. Frances-26250 May 20, 2011 Reply

    What an awesome love story. Thanks for sharing this! And much happiness to this literary duo.

  3. Gege-703352 May 17, 2011 Reply

    Really great! I believe it’s really God’s plan. This is something that make me trust CatholicMatch website, I realised that people truly wish to build their marital life on Christian values. May God’s plan for all of us who are still looking for their divine partners come true. God bless you Jill and Ted. Pray for us at your wedding’s mass, so that we may receive the same blessing.

  4. Christa-609893 May 16, 2011 Reply

    This is unbelievably RARE, to meet someone who actually attends the same parish, so it makes dating a heck of a lot easier than 99.999% of the cases here on Another misleading, one-in-a-million story.

    • Brian-278516 May 16, 2011 Reply

      @Christa How is this misleading? We simply published their story as they told it. How is it one in a million? We actually receive between 30-50 success stories a month and we only publish the ones that we have enough information to publish the story. We know that the majority of people do not notify us when they meet their future spouse.

      While I agree it is rare that you will meet someone from your own parish on CatholicMatch for marriage it is not rare that you will find other people in your parish also using CatholicMatch.

      • Christa-609893 May 17, 2011 Reply

        It’s “one-in-a-million” because, as I said in my original post, it is rare to meet someone who actually attends your own parish–and I live in the metropolitan Chicago area. It is misleading because you make it sound like it is the most natural thing in the world to bump into someone from your own parish on this site. That’s just not the typical case. You prey on people’s emotions with these “success stories,” and the critical user needs to keep in mind that this is a marketing ploy and that you are using people’s “success stories” in a very superficial manner and without telling the full story. Real life is far more complicated. Your “success stories” come off as very simplistic.

        • Brian-278516 May 17, 2011 Reply

          @Christa you are accusing us of a lot things that simply are not true and that is unfortunate. We publish what people write to us. It is that simple. We did not state that such meetings (at same parish) happen all the time or even on a regular basis. We just published a story of how two people met on our site.

          There is no “ploy.” We simply operate a business that does it’s best to provide single Catholics and opportunity to meet. We work hard to give singles a better chance to meet someone then just randomly out in the world, be it a bar, event, party etc. We also provide a community where Catholics can find other singles of faith who can share their struggles of living as a single Catholic.
          We also spend a lot of resources on providing material through our blog and other media to help single Catholics.

          Do we want to make a profit? Yes, we are a business that is how we survive. Do we want to help as many single Catholics as possible? ABSOLUTELY. Some we will help by allowing them to find their spouse, others because of the community we offer and yet others because they were looking for some hope and searching in their faith.

          Obviously we have not been able to satisfy your needs. If you wish I will be happy to notify our customer service staff to refund your subscription and remove your account. I wish we could have better served you and wish you all the best.

      • Christa-609893 May 17, 2011 Reply

        And by the way, in your profile, when you write, “Emails to this account will not be responded too,” what you mean to write is, “to,” as “too” means also. Unbelievable. This is basic English grammar.

  5. Liza-523080 May 15, 2011 Reply

    Great story!!!! Good luck and may He guide you and bless you both towards His next plan in your lives together……Liza

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