On Dollars & Dating: Are Finances Holding You Back?


Nearly half of Americans say they definitely or probably couldn’t come up with $2,000 in a month, according to new research the Wall Street Journal reported on yesterday.

The survey authors posed this question because the $2,000 figure “reflects the order of magnitude of the cost of an unanticipated major car repair, a large copayment on a medical expense, legal expenses or a home repair.” They said they were surprised so many “seemingly ‘middle class’ Americans” expressed financial fragility.

We recently polled CatholicMatch members to learn if finances affect their dating lives, and 59 percent said yes. One in five respondents said finances are a “major problem” when it comes to dating. Men were more likely to cite it as a problem, especially those who are 51 and older.

What do you think? Is your ability to date influenced by your bank account? How do gender expectations factor in?





  1. Rosario-867658 December 27, 2014 Reply

    I believe that 2 grownups dating should be able to talk it out, have a good time and
    share the bill. When we first start with CatholicMatch we describe ourselves as who we
    are and what we want out of life to be happy. So as we go on we make our own choices as to whom to date, whom we can afford to date and so on. God has given us so much of Himself in this world and its all out there, free for our enjoyment . Whatmore, didn’t we just celebrate His Son’s birthday? Born on a stable. Happy Birthday Baby Jesus. December 27, 2014 Rosie (Christmas)

  2. Michael-504832 February 26, 2013 Reply

    Yes I think a person will meet the right woman/man through God. Their financial state will be taken care of by God. Sure it is important to be business savy. But God will lead you to the right person for whom will respect you and your finances when the time is right. Everyone in society gets so worried about money all of the time. I think a lot of city people need to go to the country and chill out for a while.

  3. Andrew-680201 June 16, 2011 Reply

    I definitely think finances affects dating. Especially for men whom are expected to – and I agree with this expectation – to pay for dinner, outings, and take care of the majority of the expenses in the relationship. Unfortunately because of the way the system is setup, you sometimes meet someone great before you have a great job that enables you to handle these expenses. Often couples meet in high school or college and some of them work out, however it makes it difficult to pay for college, insurance, gas and dinners out when you either do not have a job since you are in school full time or have a low-paying job since you’re still in school trying to get a better job. Ideally, you’d want to meet a partner whom you can picture a great life together, but that is difficult if it’s hard to imagine even coming up with the money to buy a ring. I have always been a believer that money is not everything – and I still agree to this, but as I grow older and understand the world better – I have certainly come to accept that money is important. However if you want to look at things more closely – even more than having the money – I think it’s the steady job that is the key factor, which provides the money or the bread so to speak.

  4. Tony-296475 June 11, 2011 Reply

    What dating life?

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