5 Tips Waitresses Dish Up On Dating


Former waitress Lauren Romano wrote a Yahoo article about the dating tips she acquired during her years as a waitress.

“It gave me a surprising amount of insight about dating and relationships,” she writes. “You can learn quite a bit about dating and relationships just by listening and observing.”

Her tips?



1.  Don’t monopolize the conversation

I can’t tell you how many times I watched two people on a date where one person was monopolizing the conversation and the other could barely say a single word. I would see the silent person’s face go from interested to bored to irritated and the other person didn’t seem to have a clue.

When you’re conversing with your date, ask questions and listen well. You’re also there to enjoy the food, so don’t rush to fill every bit of silence with chatter – especially when you’re chewing at the same time. Speaking of which, talking with your mouth full is not attractive.


2.  Little surprises will get you major points

One night a woman walked off to the restroom and her date frantically waved me over and asked if he could quickly have two slices of cake. As I placed them on the table, he apologized for rushing me and told me he wanted to surprise his date because it was her favorite cake and he wanted to show her he remembered that she told him about it weeks before.

She had a look of confusion and surprise as she sat down, and he presumably told her what he told me, because her face lit up and she had a big smile on her face. When you take the initiative to surprise someone you care about, it can completely make their day and earn you some major points.


3.  Beware of the cell phone

There is a good chance that your partner, at one point or another, searched through your phone when you weren’t looking and checked your texts or missed calls. I’ve seen more than enough people grab their date’s phone when the person got up from the table to use the restroom. I’ve also seen plenty of arguments over what was found. Several times, the person even had permission to use the phone for one reason or another.


4.  There’s no age limit for a new relationship

There was an older couple I was waiting on once and they looked so in love with each other it was amazing. When I put down their drinks, the older gentleman looked at me with a smile and said about his date, “Isn’t she beautiful? It’s our two-year anniversary.” Another waitress told me the couple is in their early 70s. Despite what some may think, they’re a true testament that there’s no age limit for finding a new love.


5.  Being nice to wait staff can make or break your date

When you’re on a date and you’re rude to your waitress, there’s a good chance your date is not going to be happy. A guy was once so rude to me I thought his date was going to throw her plate at him. He didn’t ask nicely for anything, he only demanded. He also threw his gum into a cloth napkin, handed it to me with the gum stuck on top of it, and told me to hurry and bring him a new one. On the way out, his date apologized for his behavior and told me she’s never seeing him again.

The nicer you are to those around you and not just to your date, the more it’s going to put you in a good light.

The best dates were always when each person had general respect for each other. They listened to their date, asked questions, and genuinely just wanted to put a smile on the person’s face.

It’s easy to be nervous when you’re out with someone you like, but the next time you’re on a date, keep in mind that the best thing you can do is be yourself, be respectful, show interest and everything else will fall into place.



CatholicMatchers, how do your jobs inform your view of dating and relationships? Do you have insights like this former waitress as a cop? A nurse? A travel guide? Having worked at a movie theater?

Share your observations in a comment!



  1. Sherrill-anne-13557 September 9, 2012 Reply

    Good advice.I would add : don’t flirt with the waitress or anyone else.

  2. Meaghan-738931 September 7, 2012 Reply

    So true! I’ve waited tables for the last 8 1/2 years, and I agree!

  3. Chris-697688 July 2, 2011 Reply

    Nice article. All of the tips seem like common sense.

    The CM member comments are even more helpful to me. I have also wondered why it is so hard to get a first date on this site? I agree with Alex’s comments that we have all been hurt at some time, but we must take a chance and put ourselves out there.
    Good luck to you all!

  4. Stacey-101742 July 1, 2011 Reply

    Thank you , what a nice article . I could always bring a manican with me to listen and share and surprise and be respectful too . Getting a date , a real guy , might be harder

  5. Helga-734689 July 1, 2011 Reply

    Wow, great tips!! Many of them are common sense but when you are on a date (especially at the beginning) people are nervous and things may not go as planned. I also loved the one about remembering and ordering something special for your date. Great tips to keep in mind! First get the date (as Joseph mentioned) and then hopefully remember the tips. =)

  6. Antonio-309296 June 29, 2011 Reply

    These tips make a lot of sense, but many are a testament of how someone is as a person. Chances are that someone who was rude to the waitress is just a rude person in general. If you’re a genuinely kind person all you need to do is be yourself and you will be naturally respectful to everyone.

    The tip I very much got the most of was the 2nd one pertaining to little surprises. Thinking about this, I kick myself now for not ever considering it in the past but I can’t see how it would ever be a mistake to do in the future. God Bless:-)

  7. Joseph-644917 June 26, 2011 Reply

    This is the best dating advice I have seen in a long time. Of course you have to get the date first.

    • Alex-285308 June 28, 2011 Reply

      Amen, Joseph! It gets pretty discouraging when you message someone, they message back and you reply in kind and never hear from them again. I’d be curious to know what everyone is so afraid of…? Christ took a chance on us, why don’t we take a chance on others?

      This is definitely good advice. My advice would just be to take a risk. We’ve all been hurt, and sure that person may be hundreds or thousands of miles away, but does it really hurt to put yourself out there? I think my answer is clear.

      Blessings all!

      • Elizabeth-605825 July 1, 2011 Reply

        I have to say it can be very heart breaking. I had been e-mailing, talking on the phone and actually seeing a gentleman for about 4 months. Then without any indication that things were going wrong he no longer answered the phone or returned calls. I guess I am a little old fashioned, but I believe at least a “good bye” e-maill or phone call is the least someone could do. Is that really to much to ask?

      • Alex, I´m agree with you. Definitively when one expresses its ideas, wait a cooment of them. When you are a genteel pleasant person, it is less than can´t be expected; an answer.
        I consider that these tips are of opportune aid for interpersonal relations.
        To be genti and to smile, does not cost anything.

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