Don’t Stop Dreaming Of ‘Happily Ever After’


“You know, some dreams come true, even when they are out of the realm of possibility.”

My mom was responding via e-mail to my routine slough of complaints regarding my dating life when she offered that gem of a response.

The theme song from Cinderella immediately came to mind.

“No matter how your heart is grieving
If you keep on believing
the dream that you wish will come true.”

After years of dating, the Cinderella fairy tale that so many of us believe growing up has become increasingly unreachable, if not unrealistic. After each failed relationship, the dream of finding Prince Charming (or Princess Charming) fades deeper into the background of life.

Dreams are great in theory, but many single Catholics, myself included, begin to believe that perhaps those dreams we have for ourselves may never be achieved after all.

Do I believe in love?


Do I believe in marriage?

Of course.

But while I dream of both of these things, in my lowest moments I question if these dreams are really just dreams meant to be met for everyone else. Watching others find love, exchange vows and begin their lives together reminds me that love is alive. I don’t question that. I do question if my dreams will ever be fulfilled by the One who is tasked with fulfilling the dreams of so many others.

CatholicMatchers, we may all be ambitious dreamers, but God is the greatest dreamer of them all. In fact, God promises that our dreams our His dreams. Our wishes are His wishes. Our hopes are His hopes.

How amazing is that?

The Creator of this world values the deepest desires of our hearts, which, by virtue of being on CatholicMatch, includes finding the person each of us are meant to be with.

Even if finding your future spouse seems “out of the realm of possibility,” know that it isn’t. Some dreams do come true – and that’s a promise.



  1. Diana-956573 May 4, 2013 Reply

    Thank you Jessica for the uplifting article. Cheers! I will wait for that promise. 🙂 may God bless your beautiful soul!

  2. Mary-524568 August 7, 2011 Reply

    What was most beautiful about your article, Jessica, is the reminder that God is in our pocket, caring about each of us deeply. “God promises that our dreams are His dreams. Our wishes are His wishes. Our hopes are His hopes.” Thanks! I needed that reminder.

  3. Diana-737319 August 1, 2011 Reply

    I know my ‘happily ever after’ will come when it’s time. 🙂

  4. Mary-732729 August 1, 2011 Reply

    We are all trying to do God’s will and it will happen in His time.

  5. Angel-732763 July 31, 2011 Reply

    Thanks for writing this blog, Jessica! I remain hopeful that He who “created my inmost being,
    and knit me together in my mother’s womb” is continually getting me and my “The One” ready, and that He IS writing our love story! And while I “watchfully wait”, I will keep my eyes on Him!

  6. Maisha-676347 July 29, 2011 Reply

    What you said “I question if these dreams are really just dreams meant to be met for everyone else. ” is so powerful for me. I currently find myself saying those exact words. I wonder if my dream is just that…a dream that will never come true. After several failed relationships I wonder if I’m supposed to be single but then I remember that God does not want me to be alone and I believe that he will put my prince charming in my life when He sees fit.

  7. Dawn-58330 July 26, 2011 Reply

    Jessica, thank you so much for this message of hope! I share and believe in the dream. I really do. But like you, I have my moments of great doubt that it will ever be for me. Sometimes it is hard to dare to dream. But without dreams we fall to mediocrity in so many things. So let’s hold on to our dreams and keep merging them with God’s dream for us! Hang in there, sister. Dream a little dream!

  8. Megan-749090 July 26, 2011 Reply

    For me its not about finding the magical prince charming, because he doesn’t exist or perfect can be boring. Its about finding someone strong enough to stand by you when things get tough, someone who loves you even though he sees the imperfections. The waiting is the hard part, when you see so many around you who have already found it.

  9. Eve-112836 July 25, 2011 Reply

    I had given up all hope of meeting my match online. After numerous disappointments I was convinced that I was looking in the wrong place (online) it was only after I succumbed to the wishes of my pestering father that I rejoined catholic match on Christmas day 2009. To make a long story short, in feb 2010 my now fiancé contacted me. I approached the situation utterly convinced that nothing would come of our communication but after a week of chatting and texting I knew that this guy wasn’t messing around. In two months we’re getting married and as crazy as this may sound my dreams have come true. The great thing is reality is much sweeter. Sure he’s no knight in shining armor but that’s fine by me. He’s imperfect like I am but my match in more ways than I could have imagined. When you meet the person intended for you it surpasses one’s dreams because God’s generosity can’t be out done.

  10. Jim-397948 July 24, 2011 Reply

    Whatever makes a woman happy!!!!!

  11. Marie-575233 July 23, 2011 Reply

    Waiting for a knight in shining armor is unrealistic.If one truly wants a spouse,one must do inner and outer work.Preparation and persistence is key.

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