A Year Of CatholicMatch Blogging: My Relationship Archive


Nearly one year ago, I began blogging for “Faith, Hope & Love,” the official blog for CatholicMatch. When I signed on for this project, I was concerned that I wouldn’t have the depth of dating experience or enough story ideas to generate six blogs a month. Surprisingly, my year as a CatholicMatch blogger has been filled with an overabundance of blog ideas, not only from the site’s 41 forums and the traditional media but my own dating life.

I wrote my recent blog “Don’t Stop Dreaming of ‘Happily Ever After’” on a day I was convinced every person I knew was getting married and leaving me behind, which, in fact, is false. (I appreciated the 10 comments!) I wrote “6 Great Summer Dates” out of the hope that I would someday be able to go on one of those dates. 

I wrote “A Lesson from Josh Groban: Don’t Hide Your Heart Away” after one of the most honest relationship conversations I have ever had.

I wrote “5 Tips on Dating in the Midst of Grief” because I, too, was attempting to talk about my family on a first date without immediately moving into emotionally messy territory. I wrote “Desert Times and Solidarity for Single Catholics” mere hours after a painful breakup. And a personal favorite – I wrote “’So, What Are We?’ – The Conversation You Have to Have” following an unexpected text from someone who I should have asked that very question to more than a year prior.

I have experienced both highs and lows in relationships over the past 365 days. I’ve cried more tears than I like to admit, but I have also developed a new depth of peace and stability than I ever have before. I have closed several doors on potential relationships and have also seen doors slammed carelessly in my face, but I no longer question the timing, the purpose or who I am in the process.

When I started blogging for CatholicMatch, I intended to help others through the messy world of dating as a Catholic 20-something.

I had no idea that my own writing and my own words of advice would instead be teaching me to trust and hope through this time in my life. What I first considered as an extra freelance gig has transformed into a personal archive of all that I experienced, which I trust is the foundation to an even better tomorrow.



Editor’s note

Award-winning writer Jessica Zimanske has contributed 58 posts to “Faith, Hope & Love” in its inaugural year. Check them out here.



  1. Elizabeth-1075962 May 21, 2014 Reply

    Being a widow of 69, (don’t like this word) really sucks. Sorry I used this word, however, last year I dated after over 20 years. What I learned was the guy was not a talker, he wanted quiet all the time. I tried that, did not work,for over 20 yrs I only had great times with my grown children, grand children & now 5 g grand children. I’m still so, so lonely and really wanting to get married again. Now its 21 yrs. The one thing out of the dating last summer is I’m realizing I want a good christian devoted husband, who thinks I’m the most important person in his life. That being said, I would treat my new guy with the same respect & devotion. I realize how much I miss the special times and little things. Yes, I have made myself busy (sometimes I need 8 or 9 days ) because I just plain run out the day. I want more, I want love, laughter, church together,cry together, romance, etc. I loved to cook for my late husband and he loved to cook, send flowers for know reason, I could go on & on. I want it all. Yes, I’m praying,, praying, praying for the right man. Not sure what a blog is, except I need advice. Blessings to all from, Elizabeth

  2. Deanna-558852 September 11, 2011 Reply

    Thanks for sharing your heart, your hope, and your stories.

  3. Maria-689654 September 7, 2011 Reply

    What a beautiful way to put your testimony into words of wisdom not just for you but for many of us here on CM. Thank you. I have posted in a few of your blogs. I have enjoyed them tremendously.

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    Catherine Perry September 2, 2011 Reply

    What a lovely testimony, Jessica. Many blessings to you!

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