The Perfect Pair: Lessons In Shoe Hunting & Man Hunting


Every woman understands the importance of high heels. They’re crucial to our femininity and serve as a symbol of power, beauty and old-fashioned girl power. It is on a pair of heels that we stand confidently in a boardroom or enter a restaurant on a first date.

Let’s face it – they’re important.

This past weekend, I enlisted the help of several girlfriends to hunt for a new pair of classic, black heels. We marched from store to store, peering inside shoe boxes, analyzing prices and comparing fit, style and sheen. After several hours, it became apparent that my current pair may have to suffice for a while longer, as my ideal closed-toe, black high heel was yet to be found.

It was in the final store that I finally found The Shoe. I had journeyed to the back of the store to browse the clearance racks in hopes of finding a deal when The Shoe appeared. While I was searching for a classic, black high heel, The Shoe was exactly the opposite: nude, shiny patent leather, two-inch heel with a slightly rounded toe. I walked the entire store in The Shoe with my head held high and hours after completing my purchase, I still paraded The Shoe proudly around my apartment as I made dinner.

My shoe hunt, like my current hunt for Mr. Right, was more complicated than I expected. A simple black heel should be easy to find, much like a nice, caring gentleman, right? In my man hunt, I never planned to extend my search for Mr. Right on an online dating site like CatholicMatch, but then I never planned to discover The Shoe in a picked-apart clearance section either. The Shoe sure looked a lot different than I had planned, too, which makes me wonder if Mr. Right will be anything like the man I have conjured in my head through my dating years.

So for now, I’m going to enjoy my time breaking in The Shoe and remind myself that Cinderella lost one of her shoes, only to find herself married to Prince Charming because of it. Perhaps shoe hunting and man hunting are more alike than one would think.

Happy shopping.



  1. Myriam-344031 November 3, 2011 Reply

    Hi ladies,
    Jessica thanks for posting this analogy I love it!
    It’s good to remind us that we need to keep an open mind aobut finding the right man to marry.
    I love shoes too!

  2. Leanne-726176 November 3, 2011 Reply

    Cute Article! Also, that shoe looks exactly like a pair I have at home! ^_^

  3. Candace-587406 November 3, 2011 Reply

    Cute story! I agree with you. Who would think that it would be hard to find a simple black heel?! I was on the search a month ago for a family gathering, and I could not find it, even after glancing at numerous shoes at a show wearhouse store! I also agree that our Mr. Right may possibly be someone that we never pictured, but it’s good to have an open attitude, as long as you don’t compromise or settle. 🙂

  4. Maria-689654 October 27, 2011 Reply

    First of all, I love shoes, I am after all a Filipina…not saying all filipinas love shoes but a high number of us do! Does this mean I love my men? It is a resounding yes~ if ever and whenever I find one! It is so difficult to find shoes for my feet. You ask why? I have 8.5 to 9 W–I–D–E plus I am short in stature and I also like very tall men. What a dilemma-so I do like high heels!! But very few stores carry WIDE widths. I always tease about their discrimination of people with wide feet (lol). So, I have the same dilemma when it comes to the gentlemen. I’m sure they see my height as 4′ 11″; they run for the hills thinking I’m one of the little people( no offense to the little people). When it comes to shoes and men, I am definitely Cinderella; I am one of the step sisters. But one who is wonderfully kind, gentle, and kind; just wanting to love and be loved.
    Thank you.

  5. Dolores-722124 October 27, 2011 Reply

    How true! Shopping for shoes is fun and finding the right pair hidden away is a joy. What a great analogy to dating and finding just the right man that is comfortable, and a great fit! Thanks for this terrific reminder!

  6. Maria-670306 October 25, 2011 Reply

    Loved this! It’s very true.

  7. Kelly-762270 October 25, 2011 Reply

    feeling like this is a PERFECT analogy!! i spent many years looking for the perfect one , only to find out my taste had changed. strange how that happens…

    • Cher-708688 October 25, 2011 Reply

      Have you ever heard the song ‘men are like shoes’ Shania Twain says it all. It really is a close comparison. Funny article. Thanks for posting this.

  8. Kathy-779804 October 24, 2011 Reply

    What I know about high heels is that life is nicer without them! I am always on the lookout for comfortable but dressy flats! Who need aching feet!

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