Don’t Let Valentine’s Day Bring You Down


The cute little decorative hearts are starting to appear in the store-front windows. The card aisle all of a sudden is bright pink and red. The local Italian restaurants are advertising their dinner specials.

Yes, that’s right. Valentine’s Day is coming.

For the dating crowd, Valentine’s Day causes a lot of anxiety to provide a magical date night.

For guys, it is the stress of picking a restaurant that will wow her, sending the right flowers that will impress her coworkers and wondering what the heck he should get for a gift.

For women, we put a lot of pressure on ourselves to wear a stunning outfit, to pick a card with just the right note and to fill the night with wonderful conversations.

For us single folk, Valentine’s Day induces a different kind of stress. 

Maybe you are the type that makes really thoughtful valentines for everyone and is tickled by this special day of love. Or maybe, like me, you are irritated by the entire stupid day because it not so delicately reinforces that yes, I am indeed single. And that no, I won’t be getting any roses or gushy cards in the mail, thank you very much.

Why do we do this to ourselves?

Maybe because, no matter who you are, everyone wants to be loved.

If you are single and loathe Valentine’s Day with every ounce of your being, then it’s time to make a change. Do not let yourself be unhappy that Cupid did not strike again this year.

Do you know why kids love Valentine’s Day? Because it means Spiderman Valentine’s and a ton of candy from their friends. Who doesn’t love that? So go to the dollar store and buy those Ninja Turtle valentines and send them to every single person you know.

Wouldn’t you love to be remembered and appreciated on Valentine’s Day, even if you aren’t dating someone?

Of course. Everyone would. 

Why are you torturing yourself by staying home every Feb. 14? Now I’m not suggesting that you go out to a fancy (over-priced) restaurant and surround yourself with all the happy couples (that would just be painful), but I am suggesting that you get together with a few of your closest friends for a movie night (no chick flicks allowed) or how about a night of pool and beers? 

Now guys and gals, go plan a night of fun for Feb. 14. Nothing romantic. Just fun. Believe me, it will relieve a lot of people. Maybe add a little self deprecating humor (to take the awkwardness out of the whole night) and call it the “Lonely Hearts Night o’ Fun” or “Beating Single’s Awareness Day” or some other clever title you could think of.

I’ve got my plans for Valentine’s Day. How about you? How are you celebrating Feb. 14? 



  1. Marita-847688 August 12, 2012 Reply

    Good idea. When I get down on myself I try to remember that I have at least family members to give Valentines Day cards and gifts to. It also keeps money in my pocket. I do like the line about “Cupid not striking again”. He’s never even pointed an arrow in my direction. 🙂 I’ll try to do something fun with my single friends next Valentines Day if I am still single.

  2. Lara K. February 14, 2012 Reply

    Thanks for the tips Robyn! I will be spending this “Singles Awareness Day” as I have called it in the past. All dressed up and having fun with a bunch of friends singing karaoke. 😀

  3. Deanna-558852 February 13, 2012 Reply

    I have and will give valentine’s to my coworkers and my kids. And,usually, I’ll cook a special dinner for my kids. Valentine’s Day isn’t just for couples.

  4. Anna-825756 February 13, 2012 Reply

    Happy Valentines Day Everyone!!!

  5. Jim-397948 February 13, 2012 Reply

    I am looking forward to walking into a hallmark store on February 15th…..And by myself a card at 1/2 price!!!!

  6. Ramona-652361 February 12, 2012 Reply

    Well, I’m baking red velvet cupcakes with cream cheese frosting and taking them to work that day. My co workers will be happy. Luckily for me the next day I have class. I’ll be doing something useful that evening………….studying! Roses die and chocolates are filled with extra calories that I don’t need. (I’m still making steak and shrimp scampi for my dinner at home) I’d rather have an A in Accounting and the satisfaction of knowing that I’m closer to one of my goals. Happy Saint Valentine’s Day everyone.

  7. Stephanie-440512 February 12, 2012 Reply

    Yes, this can be a difficult holiday for us single people, however I am grateful that we are still celebrating a Catholic Feast day in the United States.

  8. Stacey-101742 February 11, 2012 Reply

    I think of Valentines day of showing kindness to those I love . I will do special things for my now grown adults kids , like sending them a message if I can’t see them saying I love you on that day and Happy Valentines day maybe with a cute quote . I like to bring balloons to my daughter or bring in candy hearts to my girl friend co-workers , to my students I like to give them cut out hearts with stickers on them , its a day to me to celebrate those we appreciate by showing it in special ways . Like extending my heart to others to make sure they feel special on that day . = )

  9. Natalia-815791 February 11, 2012 Reply

    Thanks this is true, and somebody is there for me, you and others, let´s celebrate the day like the first day of a better life. No just a day for spend more money, made for the people that don´t really believe in love.

  10. Jacqueline-198 February 10, 2012 Reply

    Great article!! Let’s show the love every day not on just ONE day on the calendar. Love God and Love one another as well, bottomline, that’s what it should be all about!!

  11. Leah C. February 7, 2012 Reply

    Very quietly…If I’m lucky I’ll get him to sit on the same couch with me while we watch the news 🙂

  12. Robyn L. February 7, 2012 Reply

    I couldn’t find any Ninja Turtles Valentine’s, so Hello Kitty will have to do!

  13. Mary W. February 7, 2012 Reply

    Right on, Robyn!

  14. Heather V. February 6, 2012 Reply

    Bravo, Robyn Lee 🙂

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