Valentine’s Day Disappointment? Consider St. Monica


OK, so Valentine’s Day is over and it may not have been a super special one for you. Don’t get discouraged – it’s not the only hope for single people. But I know how disappointing that can be.
As a matter of fact, I remember sometime in the 1990s going stag to a black tie Valentine’s Day event in New York with great excitement because someone I really liked and who had indicated he liked me would be there. I had high hopes for the evening but just about died when he showed up with a date! I will never forget going home that evening and having an internal melt-down as I complained to God about it all.
Really, God? What am I doing wrong? Is there something I should change? Do differently? I know you hear my prayers so obviously you haven’t brought the right one into my life yet for some reason…
I remember being so mad that I swore off men and the idea of romance forever.
That memory always leads me to reflect on how important it is to never become discouraged in prayer. Never give up!
Take St. Monica, for example. She begged her husband to have their son, Augustine, baptized and he vehemently refused. Sad but not hopeless, she began to pray for both her husband’s conversion and her son’s future. She prayed for years, and when Augustine was of age and could make his own decision about being baptized, she asked him to go to the priest, but he flatly refused!
Monica continued to pray.
At 17, Augustine began living with a woman he was not married to and after some years, his brokenhearted mother convinced him to stop the relationship he did, but simply proceeded to move in with someone else. But Monica continued her prayer campaign full speed ahead only prayed harder for her son to find faith. Augustine did finally find religion, but it was not the answer his mother had been praying for. Augustine had become a member of a pagan cult. Can you imagine the sorrow St. Monica felt? The disappointment, the terrible sadness!
But true to her faith, she never stopped praying.
When Augustine was 32-years-old he finally became a Christian.
My point is simply this: What if St. Monica had stopped praying? What if she became so discouraged about her son’s behavior that she gave in to the feeling of hopelessness and gave up  altogether? Well, then we Catholics wouldn’t have St. Augustine, doctor of the Church! What an incredible loss that would have been for the world.
If you are wondering why God hasn’t brought someone special into your life yet, don’t get discouraged. Pray and never stop!
By the way, that guy I liked who showed up to the Valentine’s event with a date? We’re celebrating our 12th wedding anniversary in June.
Never give up!



  1. Edith-983459 July 27, 2013 Reply

    WOW, that’s amazing, and encouraging, and truly inspiring! Thank you so much for sharing! God bless you both 🙂

  2. Meesch-691047 January 31, 2013 Reply

    St. Rita is also a good one!

    • Edith-983459 July 27, 2013 Reply

      Yes, Saint Rita also had an extraordinary faith; she’s my favourite saint 🙂

  3. Anabelle-858981 May 23, 2012 Reply

    Thank you for sharing such a wonderful story. May you and your husband have more blissful years to come. Your faith and love gives me hope!

  4. Anita-471998 April 7, 2012 Reply

    Such a lovely example of hope!,

  5. Meesch-691047 February 26, 2012 Reply

    Wow! Thanks for the reminder of the power of prayer!

  6. Veronica-56352 February 26, 2012 Reply

    Great story! And good reminder!

  7. Jim-397948 February 24, 2012 Reply

    I am just getting ready for February 14, 2013!!! Still looking for my last first date!!!

  8. Hayley-796302 February 23, 2012 Reply

    Thanks for sharing your story Lisa…It sure does give me so much hope…Even though I know that God’s timing is perfect and in His time all will work out well, Its so natural and human to get disappointed and disheartened..All the same I know I must continue to pray without ceasing…

    God bless you both..

  9. Lyl-799520 February 22, 2012 Reply

    And i love the last part most…congrats!

  10. Kate-756604 February 22, 2012 Reply

    I love this post Lisa. God bless

  11. Rosa-344135 February 21, 2012 Reply

    Thank you so much for sharing this lovely true story. It gives me hope and it also tells me I just have to pray and wait patiently, not matter what or how long, but keep praying because God will answer.Blessings to all. Muchisimas gracias por compartir esta verdadera y hermosa histora de amor. Me da esperanzas y me comunica que tan solo tengo que rezar y esperar pacientemente, no importa el tiempo ni el espacio, pero tengo que seguir orando porque Dios respondera a mis suplicas. Bendiciones para todos.

  12. AdrianadelaLuz-653258 February 20, 2012 Reply

    Gracias Lisa por compartirlo, al igual que Anna dibujaste una sonrisa en mi y algunas lagrimas en mis ojos… que Dios te bendiga ! 🙂

  13. Anna-671172 February 19, 2012 Reply

    Dearest Lisa,

    Your words have always given me food for thought. This time however, theyv put a huge smile on my face and brought tears to my eyes, tears of hope and joy.

    God bless you Lisa.

  14. Iveth-708220 February 17, 2012 Reply

    Thanks for sharing it, nice history !!!!….. Love Santa Monica and St Agustin, in fact i admire her because her perseverance… just i started feeling that there is not Mr right for me, in fact Im praying for discernment about what God wants for me single or married…..

    Gof Bless you a usted y a su esposo 😉

  15. LuLu-813091 February 16, 2012 Reply

    Great story. Thank you for giving hope and reminding me to never give up on love.

  16. Stephen-725391 February 16, 2012 Reply

    Lisa, Congratulations. Stephen

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