Advice For Singles Who Need A Pick-Me-Up


I had a lot of fun during the years I was single. I lived in Branford, Conn., close to the beach and had easy travel access to Manhattan and Long Island, Philadelphia historical sites and Vermont skiing. Sunday brunch and a stroll in Central park, going boating on the Connecticut River or a having a late night dinner after seeing the Royal Philharmonic Orchestra at Carnegie Hall are some of my favorite memories of being on my own and sharing my time with friends and dates.

But there were always the times when I was alone. Some of these days on my own weren’t any big issue, they were more a sort of necessity for regrouping. But often my days spent by myself were overwhelmingly lonely. I didn’t want to make dinner for myself, I wanted a table full of noisy, hungry children. I would have preferred to lovingly pick my future husband’s socks and underwear off the floor instead of folding my own boring basket of laundry. I was 35 years-old at the time and beginning to feel like I would always be alone.

It was depressing.

However, it was in these quiet times I remember receiving distinct consolations from God almost to the point of receiving a whisper in my ear letting me know He was with me and I was never alone.

One of these incidents occurred on a highly frustrating day I experienced. From the time I woke up, my mind was consumed with financial worries, frustrations at work, feeling lonely, and ultimately getting terribly lost on my way to an appointment I was already late for. I entered the parking lot of the office where my appointment was and I broke out in tears. I remember thinking, “I need to talk to someone and just get all this off my chest. Who can I call?”

It was at that exact moment the Holy Spirit inspired me. In my mind I could see an image of the Blessed Sacrament exposed in a beautiful monstrance and heard a voice within me that said, “I am all that you need. You don’t need anything else, just Me.

Consolation flooded my heart and I knew what I heard was true. It had been some time since I had spent an hour in adoration of Jesus in the Blessed Sacrament and just had some alone time with Him. Just the thought of being in that peaceful quietness made me feel better. I calmed down and that evening, I spent time in my parish adoration chapel in thanksgiving for His consolations and left my worries at the foot of the cross.


A bridge over troubled waters  

Christ is all we need, my friends. In any circumstance and in every state of life, He is all the sustenance we need. We live in a time where so many people have no idea who Christ is. Having a good time, being wealthy and powerful seems to be all that matters anymore in society and as Christians, we need to be the leaven in the bread, the light of the world, the salt of the earth. We need to remain sharp and alert. Spending time in adoration will give you all that you need to live in this world full of temptations and distractions.

It’s important to remember that every state in life has its struggles. I remember a priest telling me that priests in general consider married life to be a much more difficult calling than the priesthood. Wow. It seems like it would be the opposite.

These days, I miss the quiet time I used to have and the ability to freely move about the country as I pleased. I miss that simple, single load of laundry compared with the six loads I currently battle. I miss enjoying the steamed veggies and other healthy dishes I like instead of hearing, “I don’t like that, Mommy!” “I’m not hungry!” “Can I have something else, please?” It’s like living with three little food critics. But I wouldn’t trade it for anything. For every state in life, there are pros and cons, wouldn’t you say?

So everyone at some point or another needs a little pick-me-up. Why not get yours at your parish adoration chapel? He is there for you to inspire you, cheer you up, console you, validate you. And He is always there, waiting for you.



  1. MaryClaire-847709 November 5, 2013 Reply

    I love this. So comforting, and you’re so right. Every stage in life has pros and cons! Also a good reminder about adoration, I tend to forget about that beautiful gift.
    Thank you for the encouraging story!

  2. Sandra-989065 August 30, 2013 Reply

    Lisa thanks for the advice and reminder of the Blessed Sacrament. I know where to go to become whole. God bless.

  3. Elizabeth-976142 August 29, 2013 Reply

    Thanks for your inspiration Lisa.
    I am fortunate to have a Parish that has an Adoration Chapel open 5 days a week, and when I spend quiet time with the Jesus I feel warmth in my heart and peace in my soul. It is truly a miraculous experience and has been a source of love, peace and joy for me in my life.

  4. LeahMae-596391 March 25, 2013 Reply

    Wooah! Truly an inspiring story!

  5. Juanita-871228 September 15, 2012 Reply

    Good reminder that all comes in God’s time not mine and tomorrow with the grace of God will be a brighter day.

  6. Jessica-556183 September 7, 2012 Reply

    Thanks for the story. I was just at adoration, today!

  7. Joy-152898 September 7, 2012 Reply

    I am 35 and have struggled as a lady in waiting for sometime all the while trying to live a full practicing Catholic faith. Loving my family and friends as best I can. Volunteering and traveling. Thank you for sharing your story.

  8. AP-876716 September 6, 2012 Reply

    Very Touching,I liked it.God Bless

  9. Meaghan-738931 September 6, 2012 Reply

    Thanks for this inspiring story! I was pretty content in the single life until someone changed that this past year. About a month ago, we decided to end the relationship and go back to “just being friends.” Although we made this decision for some solid reasons, the loneliness and hurt which I have felt in the past few weeks has been overwhelming at times. However, this experience has given me a powerful appreciation and understanding for the sorrow the Christ feels when we reject his love. While this doesn’t take away the pain, it has allowed me to offer it to Christ, and to concentrate on building my relationship with him!

    • Michael-895201 September 6, 2012 Reply

      The pain your feeling is real. But it is a reminder to us that Christ too felt pain at the Crucification. God is always with us and when your feeling alone just close your eyes real tight for a little while, you will see images that will represent angels are with you. Pray each morning like you have never prayed before. Make the words count.


      • Meaghan-738931 September 6, 2012 Reply


        Thank you for the words of encouragement! I know that God’s plan for me is way better than anything I could possibly devise for myself. It’s just hard to trust him when I can’t see any farther than the step in front of me.

        • LeahMae-596391 March 25, 2013 Reply

          Honor your pain. After which get up and move on. There someone UP there who is more than willing to carry the burden for you. You just have to call HIM!

  10. Gwen-893532 September 5, 2012 Reply

    Lisa, What a beautiful story. Thanks for the reminder, I will spend time in adoration today.
    God bless you. Gwen

  11. Jude-649754 September 5, 2012 Reply

    Great Story!! God bless!

  12. Frank-875818 September 4, 2012 Reply

    Dear Lisa,

    thank you for sharing your life story and struggles with us here on Match. It was just what I needed to hear today after a recent breakup of my 3 year relationship. God alone can make us whole. He alone truly knows what we need and can provide it.

    God Bless you in your role at caretaker and mother of 3.

  13. Luisa-885825 September 4, 2012 Reply

    Beautiful, Lisa.

    All my best,

  14. Nilda-834707 September 4, 2012 Reply

    So true, Lisa.


  15. Helen-869828 September 4, 2012 Reply

    Thanks Lisa for this meaningful and inspiring composition.

  16. Nancy-632072 September 4, 2012 Reply

    I love my hour with Jesus weekly – it does make a difference in how I live my life.

  17. Tessa-694373 September 4, 2012 Reply

    God alone suffices…

  18. Kat-881112 September 4, 2012 Reply

    Beautiful blog!

    A gentle reminder from God that He alone is Who I long for,, the One that I desire.. May I remain focused on HIM, who knows exactly what I need and has a Perfect Plan for me.

    Bless you, Lisa 🙂

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