Joe’s Driving Distance Requirement Proved To Be Flexible


Joe & Kim were both young, each 26-years-old, attractive and in position to have their world at their fingertips. But that would belie the reality that when each came to CatholicMatch, they were struggling in their own way.

He was a quiet homebody and putting himself in situations to meet the right person was a challenge. Kim had been through consecutive relationships that didn’t go well and was determined to find a more faithful Catholic. Those struggles created the common ground on which they met through CatholicMatch.

When they first met online it began as friendship. Joe’s profile clearly noted that he only wanted a relationship within driving distance. Since he lived in Wisconsin, while Kim was in Ontario—a good five hundred miles apart—there was no reason to think it would be anything more.

But as they shared online communication, the connection grew deeper. The skepticism Kim felt was slowly disappearing. And then she find out that “within driving distance” is a loose term—a twelve-hour drive across the border apparently met Joe’s criteria.

Kim could see that Joe’s faith and love for family made him different from those who’d hurt her in the past.

“He told me he wanted to deactivate his CatholicMatch profile because, despite his concern about the distance,” Kim recalled. “He strongly believed that he wanted to meet in.” Ironically, as the relationship grew and Kim expressed frustration with the distance, it’s Joe that she credits with encouraging her to keep up the commitment.

Joe recognized the importance of demonstrating to Kim that he was different from those that hurt her in the past. His steady focus on faith and family shone through for her. “I knew he was a quiet, down-to-earth man whose focus was on God and the simple things in life,” she recalled.  “His family…meant the world to him.”

But in spite of his strong faith and flourishing family life, which includes an extended network of aunts, uncles and cousins, Joe wanted to build his own niche. “He was keen on finding the right woman, getting married, starting a family, and raising Catholic children,” Kim told CatholicMatch.  “And I sought the same in a man.”

Joe and Kim continued to put forth the effort the long-distance relationship entailed and on Holy Saturday 2011, he proposed and she accepted.

We’d like to say that everything went smoothly, but more obstacles lay ahead. The hoped-for wedding in November 2011 didn’t work out because longer-than-expected wait times at immigration delayed Kim’s arrival in the United States.

Nothing came easy for Joe & Kim, but now they can look forward to a lifetime together.

Then the couple had another snag at the border when a typo on Kim’s fiancée’ visa—the fault of USCIS—prevented her from crossing with Joe. Consequently they had to drive to Montreal twice in order to fix the problem.

“Joe drove a total of about 60 hours from Wisconsin, to Ontario, to Quebec, to Ontario, then back to Quebec, and he eventually made it back to Wisconsin, with me by his side,” Kim recalled.  “Talk about dedication.”

Dedication is exactly what it was and this past June, Kim arrived in America for good and the wedding took place in August. They have settled near Joe’s family in Wisconsin. He works for a bank—ironically one just acquired by a Canadian bank, and Kim is also in banking and awaiting eligibility for employment in the United States.

Joe and Kim both held to their convictions in what they wanted in a spouse and then put forth all the effort needed to make it work once they got to each other.



  1. Anne-702606 September 11, 2012 Reply

    God bless you Joe and Kim; thanks for sharing your beautiful story. Devotion and dedication is important in life we should never give up.

    • Kim K. September 12, 2012 Reply

      Thank you, Anne. You’re right, devotion and dedication are important and necessary in order to maintain any relationship, and that is why faith has to be an integral part of our lives. It teaches us so much about commitment and faithfulness. God bless you!

  2. Tara-539245 September 10, 2012 Reply

    Wow, God bless you both!

    • Kim K. September 10, 2012 Reply

      Thank you, Tara. God bless you too!

  3. CarolAnn-816776 September 9, 2012 Reply

    What a wonderful story! Nice to see that when one opens up distance limits, great things can happen! God bless.

    • Kim K. September 9, 2012 Reply

      Thank you Carol Ann! We hope you find what you are seeking on CM! God bless you! – Kim and Joe

  4. Margaret-856939 September 9, 2012 Reply

    Thank you Joe and Kim for sharing your amazing and God Blessed life together as husband and wife finally! Long distance can mean alot to many people, but as your story shows, if true love and endurance is there, God will help you to make it thru anything. May you both be blessed with many happy married years ahead! CM is a great place to finally meet the “right person that God has put on it for anyone”. God Bless you both!:)

    • Kim K. September 9, 2012 Reply

      Hi Margaret! Thank you for the well wishes. You’re right – with God anything is possible. We wish you the best in life and may God bless you too! 🙂 – Kim and Joe

  5. Meesch-691047 September 9, 2012 Reply

    Inspiring story of dedication! thanks for sharing and God bless in your new life together.

    • Kim K. September 9, 2012 Reply

      Thank you for the well wishes, Meesch. God bless you too!

  6. Diezza-862469 September 8, 2012 Reply

    Thanks for sharing your inspiring story Kim and Joe! Wishing you God’s blessings, and may He always be the heart of your married life. Indeed, love knows no distance! God bless you both! – Diezza, Philippines

    • Kim K. September 8, 2012 Reply

      Hi Diezza, thank you for your message. We were so happy to be able to share our story and hope to someday read yours. God bless. – Kim and Joe

  7. Catriona-893804 September 8, 2012 Reply

    wow just what i needed to hear Kim I hear you about previous guys !!

    • Kim K. September 8, 2012 Reply

      Hi Catriona! Don’t lose hope because of your past. Keep relying on your faith. It will help you heal. 🙂 God bless you. – Kim

  8. Ulrike-857098 September 8, 2012 Reply

    My best wishes for you Joe and Kim! Your story strengthen my belief in long-distance-relationships- a lot of thanks for it!
    Ulrike from Austria

    • Kim K. September 8, 2012 Reply

      Thank you Ulrike! It’s great to know that your faith in long-distance relationships has strengthened. God bless you – Kim and Joe

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