Never Underestimate the Power of a Compliment


“Look at you today in that cute outfit – just so put together. You look great.”

“You have a way of really brightening my day with your smile.”

“I really admire your dedication to attending daily Mass. Your faith is contagious.”

There’s nothing better than a compliment. Short or drawn out, specific or broad, romantic or platonic, a good compliment can be the catalyst for deeper relationships, stronger connections or at the very least, warm fuzzies.

In the dating world, compliments are a no pressure way to express your interest in someone else, whether it’s a compliment on an aspect of their online profile or an in-person compliment about a positive personality trait. Everyone enjoys a positive comment, right?

So what kinds of compliments do CatholicMatch members want to hear?

“The best compliments are the ones about qualities I really value or am trying to improve. For example, while I certainly appreciate compliments on how I look, I would much rather receive a compliment about a virtue. It not only gives me some positive reinforcement on becoming the person I want to be, but it tells me the person I’m receiving the compliment from is looking a little bit deeper.”

“You’re the best thing that ever happened to me”

“The best compliment I ever got was from my late husband a few days before he passed. He called me into the kitchen and asked me to sit at the table with him. He took my hands in his, looked me in the eyes, and proceeded to tell me that I was the strongest woman he had ever known and thanked me for being his wife.”

Read this post in the “Single Living” forum for more responses.

Many people are unsure how to compliment without sounding fake, insincere or over-the-top. Here are a few tips from a secular online dating website for making a meaningful and memorable compliment:

  • Focus on specifics: For maximum impact, make it precise and particular. Tell the person exactly what you admire, with plenty of details.
  • Say it like you mean it: It’s much more meaningful to look someone in the eye, maybe grab the person’s hand, and say, “I’ve noticed something very impressive about you…”
  • Go public: Over dinner with friends, you can say, “I thought it was awesome that Pat spent the past three weekends volunteering with Habitat for Humanity.” Or at a family gathering: “I’m sure you know about Kelly’s job promotion. Well deserved!”
  • Put it in writing: Take a few minutes to write a note — with pen and paper — saying what you value about the other person.

Every person is different, so whether it’s a new love interest or a co-worker, think about what type of compliment suits him or her the best and go for it. Even the simplest of compliments can turn anyone’s day around, and chances are, your positive compliment will put a bounce in your step, too.



  1. Marilyn-939567 February 22, 2013 Reply

    Showing consideration and kindness is one the biggest complements we can give to others in our everyday live! You might just bring on a smile to someone that might be down, as well as yourself! God Bless Us All!

  2. Heidi-843177 October 6, 2012 Reply

    My 7 year old grandson called me this week, asking if I would answer questions about my life, for his homework project. After our conversation, my daughter told me Benson picked me to interview out of all his adult relatives (he has many who live much closer and see him often). Someday, I will explain to him, what a awesome complement he gave me and how blessed I am to be grandma to him and his 3 siblings.

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  4. Maria-846262 October 3, 2012 Reply

    Saying something nice to someone on a regular basis doesn’t cost anything, but can have a wonderful impact on the person you’re saying it to. Do not hesitate to pay many compliments to all the people you come in contact with on a daily basis. People do like it and respond wonderfully to you – and you feel good about yourself and having made someone happy with so little effort.

  5. Brenda-74660 October 3, 2012 Reply

    One of the best compliment’s I have received was right about a month after my son passed away. A Newspaper reporter had “found me” and was doing the one interview I granted regarding my son’s death. When she first arrived at my house I told her I wasn’t sure I was ready to do an interview. She let me know she was with a paper not TV & just wanted to ask a few questions about what type of person my son was. We sat out on the front porch and talked for a little while. After talking for over an hour she said, “I know I shouldn’t say this but I really don’t want to leave, you have this peacefulness about you & it is such a calm place here something about being here makes me not want to leave just yet.” It is nice when someone you have just met gives such a sincere compliment.

    • Brenda-74660 October 3, 2012 Reply

      BTW I think sometimes compliments do not need to be just about getting to know someone you are interested in having a dating relationship with. :))

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