The Apology of a Married Country Star


This just in from the music world: country singer Jason Aldean has issued a public apology for “acting inappropriately” after photos surfaced of the very married Aldean making out with former American Idol contestant Brittany Kerr at a bar in Las Vegas.

I started listening to country music about three years ago, partly because I found that many of the artists’ lyrics reflected my values more than other music formats.  That’s “many,” not all.

Aldean is definitely one of the exceptions.

He has a few good songs, but I have found that many of his lyrics objectify women.  Take, for example, his hit “My Kind of Party.” In it, he’s talking to a girl (“a little tan-legged Georgia dream”) who he’s inviting to a party with him.

He essentially goes on to tell her that she can go get drunk (“Well if you wanna drink, go baby just do your thing; but give up your keys, hell why drive when you can stay with me?”) while he’s checking out other women (“You can find me, in the back of a jacked-up tailgate; sittin’ round watching all these pretty things, get down in that Georgia clay.”)

Later she can catch up with him for a one-night stand. (“Baby if you’re in the mood and you can settle for a one night rodeo; you can be my tan legged Juliet, I’ll be your redneck Romeo.”)

Wow, what a charmer.

I know there are far worse lyrics in the world today, but that’s my point. This is one of those songs that seems pretty inoffensive until you actually stop to think about it. There are many, many more like it, including pretty much every Jason Aldean song I can think of that makes reference to a woman. They aren’t about the woman herself, just about her “tan-legged” parts or her hotness or how attracted he is to her.

That kind of thing may seem flattering to immature women who crave male attention, but upon closer examination, it’s just insulting. If you question that, go back to the lyrics above and imagine that you’re a woman being asked out on that particular date.

I don’t know the first thing about Aldean’s wife or his marriage, except that it’s got to be pretty rough for his high school sweetheart to see pictures of the man she married to making out with a reality-show hottie in a bar. 

But given the mentality we hear in her husband’s songs, how can we be particularly surprised? If women are primarily objects to be ogled and randomly fondled, why wouldn’t he? If sex is an meaningless as a “one-night rodeo,” what possible reason would he have to limit it to his marriage? Why would it even matter?

I think this mentality can subtly—or not so subtly—infiltrate our thinking. When we’re listening—uncritically—to lyrics like this all day, it can start to change us. They get stuck in our heads. They push their way into our decision making, or our lack thereof.

I’m not saying we need to stop listening to music. I don’t plan to, but I’ve found that it pays to ask a few questions as we’re listening. Is this song about loving, or using? Does it reflect seeing the other as a valuable human person, or as a commodity to be enjoyed?

And maybe, just maybe, if you can push the right ideas deeper into your psyche than the wrong ones, you can save yourself a lot of heartache—and perhaps a lot of embarrassment next time you’re in a bar in Las Vegas.



  1. Afoma-1114230 June 17, 2015 Reply

    It seems the world is going crazy in most aspects of life. But we can still do the right thing with good advice like this.

  2. Steve-730930 October 30, 2012 Reply

    Cut the radios off & enjoy silence in your cars. Turn on gregorian chant. Turn on classical music. If you want to listen to music then listen to good music since the society is a big sewer of filth & you are just listening to that filth. When you do your morning offering, esp to Our Lady, you are making her listen to that stuff. None of this well help you get to heaven. I have personally burnt all our cds we had b/c they were not good for us. Do the same. Turn the trash off. Clean up your radio

  3. Nance M. October 30, 2012 Reply

    Sadly, as inappropriate he may have behaved and as uncomfortable we would think his wife would be…I’ll bet she’s happy to have the millions he is making and gladly puts up with this type of behavior…because its probably nothing new. A man that will not consider his wife after becoming a success, never considered her at all. Oh and we only can assume the wife’s uncomfortable position, because her actions/behaviors and words are not publicized as his are….for all we know, she could care less or behaves just as badly. Marriage requires respect, love and understanding from BOTH involved. And just a side note, I don’t think there are many country artists that write their own material…they just sing what they are told to sing…doesn’t make it better, just makes it more about the desire of some for the money and fame, no matter the cost to their soul.

  4. Maria-846262 October 29, 2012 Reply

    I agree with Ben. This is “nothing new under the sun” (Ecclesiastes 1:9).
    And certainly a flippant “I’m sorry, you can go do it too” doesn’t excuse his behavior. It’s abhorrent conduct and his wife should feel betrayed and outraged.
    But, Ben is right, all those nice guys of yesteryear, e.g., Johnny Cash, who relentlessly pursued June Carter, while their were each married to others, is nothing new.

  5. Ben-885706 October 29, 2012 Reply

    To be honest, this is typical of a lot of country artists, but there are still quite a few who seem to be good guys. However, this is nothing new. Heck country stars have always had problems with booze and women even 60 years ago. I think it goes with anything in pop culture.

  6. Mike-639276 October 29, 2012 Reply

    Hi Mary,
    I understand what you’re saying. I agree with the way that sleazy standards promoted as glamorous can and do infiltrate our’s and potentially our children’s outlook. I question your focus on Aldean alone. Aldean’s just one more pop culture icon in a sea of ’em. Are you saying he’s unique? Equal time Mary, “let’s hear it for the girls…” Your focus on Aldean (male) suggests there’s no female pop culture icons who don’t suggest in their lyrics and public personna that they are and want to be “…objects to be ogled and randomly fondled…” and more. You don’t think there’s a lot of easily led females out there perking themselves up to be “Juliet objects” for Aldean and all his pop culture clones?
    Life imitates pop culture “art” more than we want to admit – perhaps especially for those who may lack a spiritual center in their life. My point to you Mary, is this is true whether you’re a guy or gal . I’m a bit tired of one sided focus on the “big bad wolves” behavior, Don’t tell me their aren’t plenty of Aldean’s female counterparts in pop culture. Let’s give our readers the whole picture – thanks for your consideration in this and future posts.

  7. Beth-913697 October 29, 2012 Reply

    there is healthy and unhealthy to everything, it’s up to us to choose which we want.

  8. Caris-883069 October 29, 2012 Reply

    His 8 inch deep V-neck kinda says it all. Oh wait, but he has a cross on the inside so that makes it ok…

    You make a very good point I think.

    • Bob-59786 October 29, 2012 Reply

      A Cross can be a clue to a moral person, but not always.

  9. Bob-59786 October 29, 2012 Reply

    His most recent song was a Number One about taking a little ride with you. His song about “stay a little while with me” promoted sexual activity, As stated perhaps those lyrics explain his making-out behavior. Problem is, I wonder how many others have behaved similarly after believing in the songs’ lyrics?

    It is true that Country Music includes moral lyrics. Lookup a song from the late 1970s by Tammy Wynette “They Can It Making Love”. There are MANY others including Lady Antebellum’s “Just A Kiss”.

    Keep living the Faith.

  10. Jim-141704 October 28, 2012 Reply

    Ive listened to country all my life and usally the songs came from a break up that has gone bad but now all they want to sing about is how they can go out and have fun break up a marriage and score on one anothers spouses or girlfriend and move on to the next one and it does sell big

  11. Maria-846262 October 28, 2012 Reply

    What you don’t understand is that they’re main focus is on what sells. And, that garbage is going to sell too.

  12. Maria-846262 October 28, 2012 Reply

    What a poor excuse for a man.

    • Amanda-818043 November 18, 2012 Reply

      It`s not uncommon for guys these days to be totally selfish and view women as objects ready to be there for their own personal amusement or entertainment. They fail to realize that women have feelings, and we aren`t just there for your own sexual desires. Being totally honest though, no woman isn`t going to be flattered by male attention, such as if someone makes a comment about you being attractive or “hot”. I don`t personally use the term myself to talk about who I find attractive. I just tend to say “cute” instead. I don`t think it`s the compliments or attention about your body build or your attractiveness, is what to be insulted by, I think the woman should be insulted by the fact that a one night stand or friends with benefits thing is being suggested to them. That`s totally disgusting and degrading. Especially of course if the guy is already married or has a girlfriend. When guys approach me (I work in a hotel) I do my best to basically not be rude but laugh in my head thinking to myself, “Wow, what an arrogant individual, who does not deserve to be with any woman, let alone myself, who was raised right and in a religious household…”Umm thanks, for the compliment about the way I look, but I don`t think so. So it all comes down to, you need to shut people like that down. To respond to the actual article itself and about this guys behavior, there`s no excuse. I`m a guy, I can`t help it, seriously, that`s getting old. You`re not an animal, you`re a human being with a brain and a conscience, and if you don`t choose to act the right way, you`re going to get yours one way or another, by having public embarrasment, a wife/girlfriend that has zero trust and respect for you, or possibly the woman straight up leaving you. In the end, you`re selfish ways will lead you to be an old man in a rocking chair, alone. That`s the key word, when you do whatever you feel like doing, alone, because no woman is going to continue to put up with that behavior. You`re marriage and family will fail. The guy needs to realize this, either that or the same deal with a woman that is being unfaithful as well. Really think before you do something you`re going to regret.

  13. Joseph-841276 October 28, 2012 Reply

    It too bad that country music also going into the rubbish bin. What started with Jazz (I think) Meaning I have heard Jazz lyrics from the 1920s that were extremely rude, and of course rock and roll, Is now in country music. Strangely the baby bloomers seem to escape to the older music saying it was not so offensive. But what was very bad back then like “Lets spend the night together” by the Stones. Now comes on those happy lite rock stations.

  14. Tessa-694373 October 28, 2012 Reply

    Good Points!

  15. Charles-512043 October 28, 2012 Reply

    This is part of the reason that I don’t listen to mainstream country music anymore. There’s so little creativity anymore, but instead there are countless of these typical trashy party songs. There’s much more substantive and artistically-pleasing music in the alternative country scene.

  16. Lesley-158563 October 28, 2012 Reply

    Well done! Time to call singers and the music industry out on this garbage!

    • Jeanette-914113 October 30, 2012 Reply

      my sentiments exactly leslie!!!

    • Victor-544727 October 30, 2012 Reply

      Why do we need to call them out? What’s wrong with taking a little personal responsibility with the choices we make in what we watch, read, and listen to? Just because they’re there doesn’t pardon us for making the choice to ingest them.

  17. John-29879 October 28, 2012 Reply

    Well said Mary Beth. Lyrics to songs can become subliminal suggestions as much as that “Drink Coke” add subtly placed in the scene of a movie. The type of shows or movies we watch will also shape our thinking if left unchecked. We need to view and listen to things that are presented as art with the filter of our faith. God bless.

    • Victor-544727 October 30, 2012 Reply

      Yeah, just like subliminal messages in heavy metal music made kids suicidal in the 80’s, and rap music lyrics made kids into perverts back in the 90’s. Why accept personal responsibility when we can pass those responsibilities off on subliminal messages that were planted into our minds? Please! If people are that weak-minded, their problems go far beyond lyrics in a country music song, or a Coke ad in a movie.

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