“One year ago, I drove to work more nervous than I had ever been in my life,” my CatholicMatch boyfriend, George, said with a laugh on the celebration of our first anniversary, only a few weeks ago.
“I brought two pairs of shoes to work that day because I couldn’t decide which ones to wear,” I countered back, smiling as I recalled that day.
As we toasted with champagne in a cozy nook of an old Victorian mansion turned restaurant, we reminisced about the first few weeks of our relationship—the carefully planned dates, the sweaty palms and the overwhelming feeling of uncertainty of what would lie ahead.
Fast forward one year later, and we’ve settled into the healthy stride of our relationship. No longer are we fretting about first impressions, first kisses and first fights. We’re approaching the holiday season as partners, committed to each other, our faith and our future, striving for the best in all aspects of our lives.
As I reflect on my CatholicMatch relationship that has evolved into a love that I never dreamed could be found on an online dating website, I am reassured that my partner is committed to becoming his best self, the man that God created him to be, and that he is just as committed to helping me becoming my best self, the woman that God created me to be.
All too often, we become too comfortable in our day-to-day experiences. We keep our jobs because it’s the safe option. We keep our friends because they were hand-selected years ago. We keep the same lifestyle because it’s easy. Change is difficult, and if you have a decent thing going, why not stick with it?
The best friendships, romantic or platonic, challenge us to be our best self in every aspect of life, and it’s up to us to accept that challenge. As we enter Advent and look to 2013, may we all step outside our comfort zones and follow the Holy Spirit’s call on each of our hearts to be the best. Not the best according to the world’s standards, but the best according to the unique call God has placed on each of our hearts.
“You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden…Let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.”