How Do Singles Show Love on Valentine’s Day?


I have a love/hate relationship with Valentine’s Day: when I am dating someone I love it, when I am single I hate it.

Sometimes I think it is just another way for the flower and card industry to make a buck (and more than 200 CatholicMatch members agree with me, according to this Valentine’s Day poll).

Although I’m single (again) this year, I do have a special place in my heart for St. Valentine’s Day because of the way my parents show their love on this special day.

Growing up, my Dad would bring home a box of chocolates for my mom on Valentine’s Day.

Every year, the same box of chocolates.

Sometimes he would even bring home a little box of chocolates for his daughters (it had to be little because he had six daughters!)

Even today my Dad is still bringing home that same box of chocolates for my mom and I think it is so sweet (no pun intended).

My dad brings home gifts, but my mom shows her love in a different way.

Every year she hosts a St. Valentine’s Day dinner at her house. She decorates the table with hearts and lace, gives a special gift to each person, and even has a few Valentine’s Day games.

All the guests bring Valentines to hand out. Last year I got a cut-out heart with my name written on it (from my 5-year-old nephew), a Spider-man “be mine” valentine, and some good ol’ loving from the Hulk.

My cousin, (the teacher) gave out Ring Pops and it was a big hit!

I think I can count on one hand the times I’ve been dating someone when Valentine’s Day came around. When I was in a relationship, I didn’t have any big expectations, but admitted that I would like to be acknowledged. Isn’t that what most of us want? To be appreciated and loved for who we are?

If being single on Valentine’s Day is getting you down, I invite you to browse our collection of Valentine’s Day articles especially for single Catholics. You’ll find a variety of articles that are not only helpful, but funny, practical, and spiritual too. 

What are your thoughts about St. Valentine’s Day? Do you think it is blown out of proportion or a special day to show our love? Go ahead and take our Valentine’s Day poll and feel free to leave me a comment about how you will be celebrating Valentine’s Day this year.



  1. Josephine-1128329 February 10, 2015 Reply

    We need to be grateful for the people that are present in our lives NOW, and show them love this Valentine’s Day! I am mindful of the people in this world who have absolutely no one to share love with, and make it a point to reach out to someone who needs some care this Valentine’s Day!

  2. Steven-212654 February 6, 2013 Reply

    Given all of the comercialization and sexual overbearing, I go to the Big Bang Theory for my attitude:
    Sheldon: Given that Saint Valentine was a third century Roman priest who was stoned and beheaded, wouldn’t a more appropriate celebration of the evening be taking one’s steady gal to witness a brutal murder?

  3. Erin-419365 February 6, 2013 Reply

    I agree with all the comments that refer to making St. Valentine’s Day about someone else! I think we get in a rut if we focus on ourselves….so I look at is as an excuse to have a party for someone else! Who doesn’t love parties!

  4. Veronica-56352 February 5, 2013 Reply

    I make Valentine’s Day, about the other person. I give my family and those I work with, chocolates. I love the smile it brings to those who do not have a Valentine and they are happy that they received something on Valentine’s Day. It’s a day to show love to those that are important in your life!

  5. Jonathan-612626 January 27, 2013 Reply

    I try to focus on St. Valentine himself the priest martyr who gave the “greatest love” to Christ the sacrifice of his own life. I possibly try to attend Holy Mass.

  6. Lea-938919 January 26, 2013 Reply

    Valentines Day is a day of L-O-V-E…. a special day to show more love to everyone (i,e, family, relatives, spouse, partner, friends, neighbors, coworkers, people in need etc.) Also a special day to give back more love and devotion to our dear God Almighty Father and Lord Jesus Christ the Son for all the love, graces and blessings given to us by obeying His commandments and putting them into action. May God bless us all <3

  7. Patsy-932553 January 26, 2013 Reply

    ….a day that starts as unique a day as every other. I observe that expectations cause stressful situations on this day. It is, however, a great opportunity to bring joy to someone else. On Valentine’s Day, winter is heavy upon us but then again, Spring is just around the corner.

    I’ll share a tradition I have…I take the lead and treat myself to something or somewhere special….like an entire day at the museum, or a great movie with my favorite ice cream. My all time favorite thing is to make cards with my nieces. They love crafts and their Mom and Dad get to enjoy an unexpected “date night”. If you treat yourself to the love you want, you can give love more freely to someone else.

    I’m sorry for those who can’t look at it as a day to make someone else’s day happy. It could actually backfire and turn into ‘their’ best day ever. Try it! You may be surprised at how well your gift or act is received. It is nice to receive but, is is just as nice to give.

    ……and how can anyone not just looooove red and pepto pink????

    Happy Valentine’s Day!!!!

  8. Cat-795260 January 26, 2013 Reply

    valentines day is Friendship day in Latin American countries and other parts of the world. sooo i love Valentines day…who doesnt have atleast one good friend to show some gratitude for or buy something nice for : kinda like friendship B-day 🙂 …if one has a very special friend they happen to be dating that’s just a bonus/ cherry on top…too bad for North American belief /and the marketting traditions tended to follow with “festive” days …by the way one can always make ones own card and chocos lol etc etc bla bla bla…Try being a FRiend perhaps that will make V-day special no matter your single/taken status 😀

  9. Mike-646924 January 25, 2013 Reply

    I agree with Jim’s comment (above) Just another Day to me!! Mike “peace”!!

  10. Candace-587406 January 25, 2013 Reply

    You have a better track record than me. I have never been in a relationship on or around Valentine’s Day. 🙁 However, I love hearing stories of how other people have met their partners. I can be happy for them, and their stories can inspire me to believe in love. A lot of times in the past, I have done special things for myself, such as buying beautiful roses to display on my counter, or chocolates to enjoy.

  11. Jim-397948 January 25, 2013 Reply

    Move onto February 15th

  12. Jacqueline-198 January 25, 2013 Reply

    I can count the times I’ve had a significant other on Valentine’s Day on one hand, but it doesn’t get me down. In the past I used to baby sit my friends’ twins so they could enjoy a date night, and I’d always receive a special gift from my girls, my girlfriends and I used to go out to dinner and a movie as well. The most fun I’ve had celebrating Valentine’s Day has been while working at a school system, the kids were so sweet and loving, and I received several Valentine’s Day gifts. I like to believe that when the Lord brings me that mate I will have all the Valentine’s Day I’ll ever want!!

  13. Meesch-691047 January 25, 2013 Reply

    I like the party/valentine day exchange idea!

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