A Lenten Reflection for Singles


God led the Israelites out of slavery and into the desert. There, they complained and grumbled: we would rather die in Egypt with our fleshpots, than starve out here in the desert!

Sometimes, we would rather die than truly, genuinely, extend ourselves to another. We have to leave the comfortable—yet isolated—land of the self. The process is so painful. We risk embarrassment and rejection.

Pope Benedict says that everyone has to undergo his own Exodus. “The path we follow toward genuine loving leads by way of losing oneself and through all the affliction of an Exodus” (Joseph Cardinal Ratzinger, God and Love)

As we prepare for another Lent, we should take a hard look at the ways we avoid the Exodus journey. How many opportunities for love have we lost, simply because we didn’t want to go outside our comfort zone?

What is your Egypt, your zone of selfishness? Do you have a list of attributes that your future partner must fulfill, or you won’t give him a chance? Do you hide behind your introversion? Do you push others away by the force of your personality? Do you wield your faith like a club? Are you so fearful of rejection that you never take the first step? Is your Ideal spouse an impossible dream?

Loving another means transcending ourselves, coming out of our isolation and selfishness. This doesn’t happen just once in our life, when we “fall in love,” but instead is a rather painful process of letting go of ourselves. We are on this journey throughout our entire life. Every day that we are alive should bring more opportunities to love.

Let’s begin today.



  1. Leah-246793 February 16, 2013 Reply

    Thank you! I am so thankful having read this. It is so timely for me now that I really am ready to take on the journey of hoping to find my lifetime partner. It really is difficult to make yourself vulnerable, risking embarrassment and rejection but then all the pain and hurt in the process must be worth it all if the the price is ‘the greatest of which is love’.

  2. Keith-942277 February 14, 2013 Reply

    As we enter into (and try to remain in) the desert, the devil will attack in ways we don’t often experience in our day to day lives outside of the desert.

    It’s during these times of forcing ourselves out of our comfort zone when our faith becomes a very practical “tool”. We can always ask for assistance in the tough times, but so often we forget that we are on this mission, and forget to ask for the help that He want’s to give us.

    Keep your guard up, and leave the radar on!

    Happy lent everyone!
    God bless,

  3. Carol-737878 February 13, 2013 Reply

    Just had my heart bruised so at this moment going through this Lenten journey. But I’ve come through worse with a divorce & job loss, so with God’s help, I can walk through the desert once again! Please keep me in your prayers if you would. Thanks.

  4. Sue-906387 February 13, 2013 Reply

    Wow…Excellent article, beautifully, and wonderfully explained and reasoned. May we all integrate the message and live by it. Happy Lent!

  5. Lori-379338 February 13, 2013 Reply

    I agree that we need to come out of our comfort zone and reach out in love to others. It is very hard because many times our hearts get stomped on. Wasn’t God shown much worse rejection time and time again but continued to show Love ? How can we not do as he has asked us? We just have to remember God loves us unconditionally and will be there to carry us when we are in our darkest times. It is my Lenten promise to myself to just love as God wants us to. Wishing many blessings on all during this Lenten season!!

  6. Sherrill-anne-13557 February 13, 2013 Reply

    Thanks for sharing this with us.This is the second article I have read in a few days, for single Catholics that have called us to come out of our comfort zone,in this case make our” Exodus”journey.He’s really knocking at our doors. We often put up barriers and excuses not to reach out in love to others.
    Hopefully as part of our Lenten journey we may make the important move to make ourselves vulnerable to others.
    May the Lord remove the barriers in our hearts.

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