How To Become Even More Attractive


Isn’t it interesting that the secular press can’t wait to blare the accusatory horns about how antiquated, evil, and hateful the Catholic Church is, yet as soon as the recent Conclave began, the joy and pomp of the occasion became their 24/7 micro-focus? Reporters instantly abandoned their homeland posts to rush to Rome and broadcast exclusively on the very thing they claim to despise all the other weeks of the year. Interesting.


This is a glittering example of what’s wrong with society these days… a lack of authenticity. We need more people who think, act, and speak the same way in public as they do in private. People who are not duplicitous, but honest. What you see is what you get.


Being authentic is an important aspect of being ready to date and find a lasting relationship. Have you ever been involved with someone who was one person in front of you, and someone different when you were not around? That’s a terrible feeling and a great hurt when you finally find out, wouldn’t you say?


Blessed Mother Teresa said: “Honesty and transparency make you vulnerable. Be honest and transparent anyway.” Isn’t that what makes a great romantic relationship? Being able to share everything with another and being able to completely be yourself? Keeping your level of authenticity as high as possible is important for building trust between two people.


But these days, being an authentic person is so much more than just being honest. It’s downright attractive! An authentic person is first and foremost, a happy person. They have a clear conscience. They speak honestly to others and about others. They are compassionate and loving. They are inspirational to others. They are respected by their peers and can be counted on no matter what’s happening. They’re REAL, and people love real.


How would you rate your level of authenticity?


A great question to ponder. As a Catholic, you likely have cultivated your level of authenticity well over the years but it’s always a good thing to stand back from time to time and observe how you’re doing.


It’s also the perfect time to contemplate Jesus during His public life. We know that people flocked to Jesus by the thousands and followed Him from town to town. You can argue it was because they wanted something from Him, primarily a cure for their illnesses, but it was far more than that. Jesus was attractive to people because He brought them the truth. He was compassionate and treated people with dignity. Even when He was up against the hard-hearted Pharisees, He addressed their hearts and their intellect, speaking the truth without demeaning them. What an incredible example we have in Jesus to follow and build our lives on.


A modern psychiatrist said: “The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.” When you think about this in terms of all the gifts, talents, and blessings you’ve received from God, it’s hard to imagine why anyone wouldn’t want to be the best they can possibly be. A great way to raise your level of authenticity and become even more attractive to others than you already are, is to utilize your gifts to their fullest and be the best person you can be.


Count on my prayers for you as we enter Holy Week and the passion of Christ. Feel free to contact me at




  1. Bea-1048832 January 12, 2015 Reply

    I agree. Be honest and true… No need for masks… Just the brave people are honest, true, real.

  2. Pat-1115915 October 13, 2014 Reply

    Thank you. You have given me much ‘food for thought”.
    “…What an incredible example we have in Jesus to follow
    and build our lives on…” YES.
    This leads me to do some ‘soul searching’–with a smile.
    Thank you Lisa Duffy for this opportunity to grow…!

  3. Andre-906530 March 28, 2013 Reply

    Awesome article!

  4. Maricel-532080 March 27, 2013 Reply

    Great post! Thanks.

  5. Jessica-857723 March 26, 2013 Reply

    thank you

  6. Michael-504832 March 25, 2013 Reply

    This inspired me to have the best holy week ever in my life…Thank you for the great blog…

  7. Debbie-514749 March 25, 2013 Reply

    Wonderful Lisa!!! And exactly what I needed to read at this moment…

    His Peace to all…

  8. Kathy-730470 March 25, 2013 Reply

    A very nice blog and so true.

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