Pope Francis: Complaining Is Not An Attractive Quality


Our new Holy Father’s daily sermons have been getting a lot of attention, and rightly so. He knows how to get to the heart of whatever matter he is speaking about and offers a lot for us to reflect upon.


In early April, Pope Francis’ preached a message that all of us need to consider, and is especially important for single people who are looking for a lasting relationship. He warned that complaining about others and circumstances damages the heart and takes away hope. Never enter “into this game of living on complaints,” he said.


Why is this important for single people in particular? Well, I think everyone tries to put their best foot forward when dating and here’s just one more way to make yourself attractive — by taking the Pope’s words to heart and being someone who reflects hope and has a joyful attitude, despite your difficulties.


I’ve known people before, as you probably do, who thrive on disaster or difficulty. They focus on the worst of every situation and if they can’t find something wrong then they look for ways to make the situation a negative one. It’s exhausting!


But how great is it to be with someone that can always find the upside in any situation? It’s refreshing to be with someone who is flexible, versatile, and accepts challenges with a positive attitude. Now that’s attractive, and exciting. It makes you want to be around that person and go through experiences with them.


Pope Francis illustrated his message by turning to the Gospel passage of the disciples on the Road to Emmaus and their utter dismay at the death of Jesus, the one in whom they had placed their hope. He noted how all they were doing was complaining and they couldn’t recognize the Lord, who was right there with them. Their conversations made them withdraw and become depressed, sulking in negativity.


Isn’t it so tempting, at times, to take on that same demeanor, especially when we don’t understand what God is doing? Why aren’t things happening faster? Why did God allow this to happen? I hate it when I have days like this! Having a Choleric/Melancholic temperament, myself, it’s easy for me to slip into the mode of constantly complaining.


“But at that very moment,” the Pope continued, the Lord is “close to us, but we do not recognize him.” Jesus was “patient with them,” he said, first listening, then explaining, and in the end He revealed Himself to them. Jesus “does this with us,” the Pope said, even in our darkest moments. That is the most important thing of all to remember, because knowing God is with you makes life worth living and is the motivation to get through even the toughest times.


I hope you will take this to heart and as you search for a lasting relationship, don’t forget this important message! It can help you be the kind of person everyone wants to be around!



  1. Gabby M. October 24, 2016 Reply

    Pope Francis seems to complain a lot! Interesting. …..

  2. Simon-968896 May 4, 2013 Reply

    This is true of course, yet not always the easiest! It very much depends on Ones personality, life experiences present circumstances. But I agree with the holy father. Yes We must rejoice in that revelation of Emmaus which, is for us also 🙂

  3. Danny-928754 May 1, 2013 Reply

    It’s a lovely article. I wake up every morning and say to myself, “today will be another blessed day”. Complaining feeds negative feelings and removes happiness from your life and the lives of others around you.

  4. Karen-632469 May 1, 2013 Reply

    this article will be forwarded to my single friends! it’s a great reminder for me to be hopeful always…

  5. Meesch-691047 April 30, 2013 Reply

    But it is so much fun sometimes 🙂

  6. Steve-111719 April 29, 2013 Reply

    I agree with the blogger and the Holy Father here: positivity is a much more attractive trait than negativity. I think that we as Catholic singles can forget that sometimes. It’s an easy thing to do if things aren’t moving along quite as quickly as we’d like them to. Even if we aren’t finding our soulmate right away, we might be doing some other good here at CatholicMatch. Sometimes the Lord puts us in a place where we can help others, and that can be more beneficial to the body of Christ than what we want for ourselves.

  7. Rebecca-963882 April 29, 2013 Reply

    A lovely start to a Monday morning. This has made me think differently about my outlook on life right now 🙂

  8. Mamelia-946915 April 29, 2013 Reply

    I agree with Pope Francis thought : “complaining is not an attractive quality” yes, people who are long in complaints but short in actions are discouraging and unattractive in the eyes of many.

  9. Laura-909692 April 29, 2013 Reply

    Great blog for a Monday morning! After a near death accident, my priest’s first words to me as he visited me in the hospital were that God would not put on me more than I could handle….as life went on, what I found was what Pope Francis says – that He won’t put more on you than you can handle, because you come to realize you can’t handle anything without inviting Him to handle it with you and for you. Humility is a beautiful thing!

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