What Does God Want Me to Do With My Life?


On the day we were baptized, our parents were given a candle that was lit from the Paschal candle.

The Paschal candle was blessed and lit with a flame from a blessed fire on the night of the Easter Vigil. The candle is then processed into a pitch-dark church and the intonation “Christ our Light,” or “Lumen Christi” is chanted.

This is repeated three times as the Paschal candle is processed into the church. Slowly, the darkness begins to dissipate while those who are baptized begin to spread the light from the Paschal candle throughout the church. 

Easter is the day we renew our baptismal promises. Those promises, which were made on our behalf at our baptism, we profess and renew each year.

On the day we were baptized, our parents were entrusted with a gift and a sacred task. The celebrant of the baptism says, “Receive the light of Christ.”

Once the candle is lit from the Paschal Candle the celebrant continues, “Parents and godparents, this light is entrusted to you to be kept burning brightly. This child of yours has been enlightened by Christ. May he (she) keep the flame of faith alive in his (her) heart. When the Lord comes, may he (she) go out to meet him with all the saints in the heavenly kingdom.”

Is the lit candle that was handed to the father or godfather what is to be protected? No. The lit candle is a symbol of the reality that was taken place in the soul of the newly baptized.

The Most Holy Trinity came to dwell within the soul of that child. Parents and godparents are entrusted with the supreme responsibility of protecting the very life of God that has been poured into their child’s soul in the Sacrament of Baptism. Sanctifying Grace dwells in the soul of the baptized that is in friendship with God. 

Blessed Mother Teresa of Calcutta once said that the most tragic thing in the world that could possibly happen to us is not a sudden physical death, but a spiritual death. In other words, losing the state of Sanctifying Grace in our souls, losing friendship with God. 

Parents have the sacred duty of helping their children to come to know, love and serve the Lord. They have the privilege and the difficult task of helping their child to grow in virtue and ultimately to help them to get to blessedness in Heaven. This is no easy task. This all takes Grace. We can accomplish nothing on our own.

Deep down, hopefully all of us are asking the question: What does God want me to do with my life? The first answer is God wants you to be holy. Holiness is charity. We are all called to live a life of charity after the example of Jesus Christ. 

Blessed Pope John Paul II’s constant penchant was man only comes to know who he is by making a gift of himself to others. As Christians striving for holiness, our lives must become a gift for others. In doing so, our particular vocation will become clear to us.

God has given each of us particular gifts or charisms to be shared with the life of the Church. Charisms were thought of as only for the extraordinary, those who had reached an intense level of holiness.

The Second Vatican Council affirmed that charisms are not extraordinary, but for the ordinary. Charisms are gifts from God that are freely given and meant for the building up of the Christian community. Charisms are never meant for oneself alone.

Our primary vocation, our primary mission in life is holiness. We need to keep that candle burning brightly! Not simply the candle of our baptism, but the life of God dwelling within us in Sanctifying Grace.

Before the coming of Jesus Christ, man was walking in darkness. Christ came into the world to dispel the darkness of sin and to make us children of light.

We walk in the midst of the world as the continuation, a prolongation of the light of Christ. Don’t let your light get extinguished. The world desperately needs witnesses of the Gospel to bring the light of Christ into what may seem to be the darkest of situations.

Keep your flame burning brightly and Christ will light the path that he desires you to take.


Rev. Br. John Paul Mary is a member of the Franciscan Missionaries of the Eternal Word in Irondale, Alabama. His blog post is a part of a vocation series celebrating World Day Prayer for Vocations.



  1. Grace-1088854 June 1, 2015 Reply

    God does NOT bless ANY and EVERY path that an individual decides to take. He ONLY BLESSES the path HE WILLS you to take on yourself. How do I know? Because I know most of us have felt the affects of our own divorces. Why are most of us divorced? Did we seek God’s Will concerning the mariage that failed (before it was to be)? I think that the true and down right honest answer from all the divorcees that exam our hearts fully, is no, we did not either seek His Will as to marry that partner, or we did not listen to God’s Answer. so, original premise marrying the one God wants you to marry is truly blessed(by God). Premarital sex is not blessed by God!

  2. Rachel-1164616 January 7, 2015 Reply

    I once heard a priest counsel someone discerning vocation to religious life to “ask God for a sign.” I can’t be certain but I think the reason he said this is that he had done it himself.

  3. John-834125 October 21, 2013 Reply

    I have known priests who are so incredibly effective and gifted as manifested
    in their expression of Sacramental Priesthood that perhaps that is their specific calling. However, God offers many life choices where we live lives as gifts to
    others and He blesses them all.

  4. Maggie-900710 April 21, 2013 Reply

    Not knowing what God is asking of us to do; making wrong decision in our lives, going against our “better-selves” all of these are natural to our human nature. My opinion to the comments above is that if we are live our life close to God by prayers, showing and giving charity/love to others we will be filled with the grace of God through the holy spirit. Man alone cannot do things. Therefore, we need to pray so the Holy Spirit can help us know what God is asking of us and to make the “best” decisions to help us in our earthly lives.

  5. Audrey-964855 April 20, 2013 Reply

    I believe It’s the grace or the Holy Spirit in us that helps us make decisions, but it takes a lot of listening to hear its prompting. Sometimes we go against our own ‘better selves’ and make dodgy decisions, but that’s life, we make mistakes – we just need get up and start again. How do we know what path God is calling us to take in the first place? The article answers this by quoting Pope John Paul II: make your life a gift to others. How? I’m thinking that the way we ‘give’ takes many different forms.

  6. Andy-516957 April 20, 2013 Reply

    There is what Marita said above, and there is this: what if you are wrong? As in, you are sure of something, but you were wrong.
    Of course, this leads to starting over. But many people make decisions and choices and take one path or another.
    I can see great benefit in for a young man or woman choosing a vocation first.
    After all, if its wrong it won’t leave you with debt.
    God Bless all the discrerners out there! My only advice: either choose a Christian college/university or fortify yourself against the storm of negativity towards faith and the faithful.
    In Christ

    • Michael B. September 20, 2013 Reply


      I’d be careful about the “decision” not leaving you with debt. I am a former college seminarian and in my diocese if a man discerns that he is not called to priesthood then any student loans that he had to apply for (because my diocese didn’t pay for everything) become his responsibility. However, I’m a true believer in that each of us has a God pre-determined vocation so we have to make prudent decisions when discerning.

  7. Marita-847688 April 19, 2013 Reply

    What if the path God wants you to take is not the same as the one you want to take? And how would you know what path God is calling you to take in the first place?

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