Why Does God Allow Divorce?


Why does God allow divorce to happen? This is a question that puzzles every Catholic that has ever been abandoned by their spouse and left to put the pieces back together again.
God allows divorce primarily because He has given us all the gift of free will and He will never revoke it or intrude upon it. This translates, of course, to the fact that humans will often choose what is wrong over what is good.
Divorce happens because someone made a terrible choice, but every time a poor choice is made, it is an opportunity for God to bring about great things, even miracles in the lives of those who are suffering. Have faith that God will bring good things out of what has happened. It’s His specialty.
And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose. Romans 8:28



  1. Gina-772792 June 9, 2012 Reply

    You have my prayers Laurianne

  2. Laurianne-160619 April 16, 2012 Reply

    I already knew God allows divorce because we all have a free wil – very simplistic answer
    I”d like to know why God doesn’t heal the spouse that has a major problem contributing to the demise of the marriage. My husband attended mass weekly, daily during Lent, worked for l5 yrs for the Knights of Columus, was a 4th degree Knight, was an altar boy till he was a senior in high school and yet behind closed doors, he was physically and verbally abusing me off and on for l8 yrs. I prayed for his healing but it never took place. We both went through Baptism int he Spirit and we both rec’d the gift of tongues, I rec’d the gift of healing and prophecy, but in the end his temper always won over.

    • Lisa Duffy Author
      Lisa Duffy April 17, 2012 Reply

      Dear Laurianne,

      What a deep hurt you’ve experienced! No doubt, your husband’s actions are puzzling, given all the graces he received.

      It’s tough to say why God didn’t heal your husband. Why did God allow St. Bernadette to find a spring that would heal millions and yet, allowed her to die of tuberculoses at a very young age? Why didn’t God stop Hitler from executing so many innocent people? Why did God allow His own innocent Son to die a humiliating death on the cross?

      God may not prevent suffering, but He uses it for our good. He uses it to draw us nearer to Him, and even in that, we must be open and willing to draw near. Much of the answer to your question still lies in the fact that God will not intrude on our freedom to choose what we want. Are there deep-seated emotional issues that cause your husband to struggle with anger and depression? Maybe, and that would play a part in explaining his behavior as well. But Christians are not exempt from suffering.

      Suffering is purification. The intense pain you feel over your marriage and divorce is changing you, hopefully for the better (you can choose to be bitter, too).The key is learning from it, offering it up for others, and using it to help others. You are a beautiful woman and I bet you have a great influence on your friends and family members. Hopefully, you can find a way to use your experience to help someone else.

      Here’s a GREAT book to read: Making Sense Out of Suffering, by Peter Kreeft.

      Count on my prayers for you! – Lisa

    • Kat-881112 September 4, 2012 Reply

      ((((Laurianne))) praying for you!!

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