As time puts distance between you and your divorce, the bad days begin to come less often and you begin to look forward and find your new place in life. Sometimes, a song, a movie, a memory will remind you of the terrible pain you are trying to leave behind and you may wonder, “Will I always feel this way? Will the pain always be there?” Well, yes and no.
Yes, because the loss of a marriage is a significant event that has deeply affected you. Most of the pain will fade away with time, but some things will remain with you. I don’t think that is a bad thing, necessarily, because the ability to feel that pain keeps your compassion for others who suffer fresh and in check.
But the further out from your divorce you are, oftentimes the pain you acutely re-experience has less to do with the failure of your marriage and more to do with the growing pains of your relationship with God. Allow your pain to be the catalyst that leads you closer to Christ. Don’t become discouraged because your challenges equal the beauty of change… the purification that brings peace and joy to your life.
I lie down and sleep; I wake again, because the Lord sustains me. I will not fear the tens of thousands drawn up against me on every side. – Psalm 3: 5-6