5 Ways to Thrive While Being Single


It’s a Friday night. You’re fun. You’re single. You’re up for an adventure. But as you look through your contact list, you discover that many of your friends are married with kids or in a different age bracket and not up for a night out on the town.

Choices for meeting and mingling with other singles doesn’t have to be limited. Here are 5 tips to help you not only survive, but thrive as a Catholic single:

1. Resist the urge to stay in
Just because everyone on the street has already pulled the blinds at 8 p.m. on a Saturday night doesn’t mean that you can’t hop in your car and check out a hip new bar or restaurant. Don’t let your surroundings diminish your desire to stay active in the singles scene.

2. Join a group, any group
Write down your top 3 hobbies and then find a group or a club that fits your interests. Athletic? Join a summer softball league or bowling team. Book worm? Find a local book club or start your own. Encourage others to bring a friend, and you’ll be sure to meet new people on a regular basis.

3. Create your own social scene
The best hang-outs become the best hang-outs because of the crowd. Find a local spot in your neighborhood with a good atmosphere and encourage your single friends to meet there on a regular basis. You may be surrounded by couples and growing families, but chances are there are other singles like you in your area that are looking for some old-fashioned fellowship.

4. Expand your search
As a CatholicMatch member, you may be tempted to only search for future spouses within a small radius of your current location. By limiting your scope, you may be missing quality individuals who are worth the distance. Numerous CatholicMatch member stories prove that widening your search criteria could be the best choice you make for your love life.

5. Don’t lose hope
If you feel out of place in your current location, don’t lose hope! By engaging in new activities and surrounding yourself with new people, you may find unexpected opportunities. Nothing is permanent unless you let it be, so keep your eyes open for the right path.

No matter what city you call home, don’t shield yourself from other singles. Open yourself to the possibility of finding someone down the block or a few towns over. Love can be found anywhere, even while you are doing the activities that you enjoy.



  1. Brian-987904 August 11, 2013 Reply

    Great advice. Thank you.

  2. Jeremy-949636 August 7, 2013 Reply

    The only problem is going out to bars and clubs alone. I’ve met a couple of people at bars and stuff but it’s just so depressing going there alone with the hopes of meeting someone (a friend or otherwise). I’ve also searched for others on here with similar interests- guys or girls. I’ve made a couple of friends that way as well.

  3. Anthony-397426 August 6, 2013 Reply

    Plenty of good advice. I’m new to this area and I have changed the times I go to mass just incase there is someone I’m missing at a regular time. The bar scene doesn’t work for me either. I’ll join a gym and keep my walking routine, ahhhh the search continues.

  4. Cynthia-901599 August 6, 2013 Reply

    I live in a beautiful rural town of 400 that does not even have a grocery store but that is predominately German Catholic. (http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2523/3766100932_3fc87592eb.jpg) The only business is a cabinet maker, an insurance company, the fertilizer plant and my home-based online business. I can meet new coyotes here easier than meeting a single man. I am a widow of 2 years. I have zero interest in being in any city — I could not bear that lifestyle. Ah well…

    • David-634236 August 6, 2013 Reply

      Can I move to your city? Where is it…what state?

  5. Brandon-861917 August 6, 2013 Reply

    Thanks for the suggestions. I find the hardest part is finding people of the same faith. That’s the reason I hang out here. 😉 Other than at my Church there isn’t a hang out for Catholic people.

    • Brian G. August 8, 2013 Reply

      This is so true, especially in the current British climate. amongst the 70 odd people i work with there is just one other Christian.

  6. Yudi-952153 August 6, 2013 Reply

    !!! Good ideas.. I have given up the bar and club thing. Just doesn’t work for me …but I try to
    spend time w friends dinner or movies they all have their partners so at times 🙁 ….. but have fun work with what God has given U,, I love being happy !!!

  7. Jason-862068 August 6, 2013 Reply

    Girls go out with the fella when he asks you. Why resist a night out to get social rust out , dont be lame, challenge yourself to have fun.

  8. Lori-663130 August 3, 2013 Reply

    Thank you for the reminder!!!!

  9. Lori-663130 August 3, 2013 Reply

    Thank you for the reminder!

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