John & Ginny Were Young at Heart


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John and Ginny were both widowed, and with her at age 68 and him at age 80, they didn’t fit what most people would perceive as the customary demographic for online dating. But their story would prove that online dating—indeed love itself—is not simply for the young, but the young at heart.

They each heard about CatholicMatch in their respective parish bulletins, he in Colorado and her in Idaho. Ginny was the only one with any experience in online dating, and it hadn’t gone well.

“I had vowed to simply try and meet a potential partner ‘the old fashioned way’,” she said. “Well, that approach hadn’t been going so well for me. So she decided to give the online idea another try.

With no prior experience in online dating, John had no preconceived notions about what might happen, but he had made up his mind on one thing—he wanted a woman near his Colorado home. It was by a fluke that he even connected with Ginny.

“He felt a long distance relationship would probably prove to be both awkward and problematic,” Ginny recalled. But it was a search of new members that ended up showing her profile. And as luck would have it, a family graduation had him traveling to her hometown in Boise, a twelve-hour drive away.

“Knowing that he’d be coming through in the not-to-distant future, John sent me an initial email,” Ginny told CatholicMatch. “That quickly escalated to a few more emails, followed by an endless string of lengthy telephone calls.”

John and Ginny logged in some serious time getting to know each other by phone—she later said that cellphone records indicated around 140 hours. By the time he showed up in Boise, there weren’t any surprises left, and given the connection they forged, that was a good thing.

After his week in Boise, John was ready to go back home, and they had both concluded that nothing more would be gained by just talking on the phone. Ginny had a flexible living situation, and was able to just walk away for the summer and spend time with John back in Colorado.

Today, John and Ginny are engaged, and set to be married next April. “Life is simply wonderful,” Ginny said. “We were simply two people who had beaten those sadly overwhelming odds, and managed to truly fall in love over the Internet.”

Those odds become less overwhelming though, when people take chances and step out in faith. John and Ginny did so. They were young at heart.



  1. Bill-816836 July 20, 2015 Reply

    what happened to accepting God’s will , especially at such an old age, and just preparing for a holy death?
    It would be an honor to the deceased spouse to remain single the last few years of ones life. Catholics and Christians did this habitually in the past.

  2. Felix E. October 6, 2013 Reply

    Seeing such wonderful testimony gives hope for we younger one who is still finding the right special partner. Good luck to you two

  3. Anne-702606 September 18, 2013 Reply

    John and Ginny congrats!!!

    God said,” our end will be better than our beginning.” You both met on CM which is a Christian based site, note this is your time to enjoy your life…God is love in whatever age it doesn’t matter.

    The most important thing is that, you are both young at heart and you appreciate each other..

    May God bless you and protect you always.

    • Virginia-930425 September 18, 2013 Reply

      Thank you, Anne, for your kind thoughts. God has already blessed John & I…simply by bringing us together ! When you read the stories on this web-site, you quickly realize that most couples would never have “connected”…had it NOT been for CatholicMatch. Certainly, this is the case with John & I…We are so very grateful to have found each other !

  4. Michelle-1007402 September 17, 2013 Reply

    What a wonderful and hopeful story for those of us who are older. Thank you John and Ginny for sharing your love. May God bless you both abundantly.

    I was chagrined to read the unkind comments from the two young men. “Father, forgive them, they know not what they do.”

  5. Virginia-930425 September 16, 2013 Reply

    Peter…Please read what I’ve written below. Older married couples can both live life to the fullest of their capabilities AND prepare for the eventuality of death. Age has absolutely nothing to do with the need for love & companionship. Wow…You must be extremely young to be so “uninformed” !

  6. Florence-977562 September 15, 2013 Reply

    Wow, someone who went the extra miles to find their happiness.

    • Virginia-930425 September 16, 2013 Reply

      Well, what you’re looking for doesn’t always turn up right in your own back yard…LOL

  7. Debbie-514749 September 15, 2013 Reply

    To learn how to grow deeper in practicing love is the best preparation for death we can ever take on …. no matter what our age may be. We must fully develop our capacity for self giving love, or agape before we are deemed worthy occupants of Heaven. Marriage is one of the best places to work at this. God IS love. We are to copy Him…

  8. Kristina-972672 September 15, 2013 Reply

    As a hospice nurse, It is my option that seeking opportunities to love more fully should never die. New love does not preclude preparation for death, it should actually help.

    • Virginia-930425 September 16, 2013 Reply

      Thank you, Kristina…John is truly one of the most exceptional 80 yr. old men I’ve ever met ! (I’m having trouble keeping up with HIM, actually…) His own father was very much alive & still driving his own car…at 96 yrs. old. I’ve noticed that a few of the other comments have been a bit “unkind”, to say the least. They were posted by much younger people who (obviously) are showing a basic lack of understanding about the emotional needs of older widows & widowers. It ‘s OK, Guys…You’ll understand it all, one day ! No hard feelings…Everyone is free to express their opinion.

  9. Veronica-1007766 September 14, 2013 Reply

    First of all, John you look much younger than 80 🙂 Congrats to both of you!! you both make a gorgeous couple and may God bless you both!!!!

    • Virginia-930425 September 16, 2013 Reply

      Actually, most people think John is around 65-70 yrs. old ! I was very proud to have him by my side at my 50th. class reunion recently…He was one of the fittest, healthiest, youngest looking men there ! God has surely blessed me by sending John into my life.

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