The Attraction Factor: 6 Ways To Maximize Your Appeal


Doesn’t the prospect of finding a spouse in a world of more than 7 billion people seem a little crazy sometimes? We wander around among crowds of strangers every day, hoping to find that one, unique person to love. This is why we go to great lengths to make sure we look good; great hairstyle, nice clothes, nice place to live, nice car… these things are all important if you’re trying to attract the opposite sex. But beyond aesthetics, what else in this game do you have control of? You might be tempted to believe the rest is just a big gamble. Spin the wheel!

But there’s more you can do to become attractive in the eyes of someone who, like you, is looking for a relationship. There are things about you that will cause others to want to be around you; qualities you already possess which, if cultivated well, will make all the difference for you on the dating scene. Do you know what those qualities are?

This is why I’m hoping you will join me and hundreds of others at the upcoming National Catholic Singles Conference, September 27th-29th in Philadelphia, PA. I’m excited to be addressing the attendees that Saturday morning and filling them in on what I call The Attraction Factor. I have six excellent points any single person can hone in on that will maximize their level of attractiveness in the eyes of other singles who are also looking for their mate. I would love to share these points with you and give you some great practical tools to help in your search, because being attractive is not limited to what people perceive you to be on the outside, attractiveness is an entire package.

This aspect of being human is not intended to be simply for selfish reasons. Being attractive inside and out is not just so you can boost your ego or feel you’re better than others. Wanting to be as  attractive as you can be should primarily be about how it effects other people. In other words, it’s about effective discipleship.

Just think about Jesus during His public life and imagine him in the crowded streets and on the shores of the sea of Galilee teaching the masses. Christ was attractive and people were drawn to Him, but not because of any material things He possessed. They were attracted to Him because He loved souls. He was a phenomenon in His day because He showed people a kind of love no one had seen another human being give. And this love was the umbrella for all the other incredibly attractive traits Jesus displayed. The people He encountered were attracted to Him and surrendered their lives to Him because of His love. We need to remain focused on the fact that our desire for marriage and family life is a gift and as disciples of Christ, our lives are examples for others to notice and discover a path to come closer to Jesus.

Christ should be our example in all things and following His example as you prepare yourself for marriage should be at the top of that list. The great thing about this is, He already endowed you with everything you need to be the most attractive person you can be. You have everything you need to attract your spouse, but if you’re feeling frustrated and unsuccessful, chances are you haven’t capitalized on what God’s given you.

That’s where coming to the conference and participating in not just my talk, but all the fantastic talks given by these wonderful Catholics who are champions in the faith can help change you and start giving you an edge immediately. Although I’ve never met Fr. Thomas Loya, Emily Stimpson, Daniel Mattson and Damen Owens, their reputations for being dynamic speakers and outstanding Catholics precede them. I am just as excited as everyone else to meet them and hear their specific expertise.

So join us, won’t you? The dates are rapidly approaching so please, make your plans soon. I can’t wait to meet you all and share something I believe will transform your dating experience into something wonderful. And who knows… you just might bump into the one who’s been searching for you 🙂

Please feel free to send questions or comments to or follow me on Twitter at @lisaduffy.



  1. Elena-451452 September 17, 2013 Reply

    My thoughts exactly 🙂

  2. Jean-450782 September 11, 2013 Reply

    Ditto. I can’t afford the conference either. Hopefully you’ll release a video.

  3. Evan-851607 September 10, 2013 Reply

    This post was kind of disappointing. I thought it would be a great informational piece, but instead it was just advertisement for the conference. For those of us who weren’t able to afford the other expenses of going to the conference could you release a shortened version or even a video of the talk after it has happened? It would be much appreciated 🙂

    • Moire-630682 September 15, 2013 Reply

      I second this – I actually had signed up, but found the cost to be too much for my limited budget. I would love to see many of these speakers live, so if there’s any way it could be streamed or recorded for future use, that would be outstanding.

      • Ann-69118 May 12, 2015 Reply

        Yes it was a little misleading.
        No points given?

  4. Gary-978995 September 10, 2013 Reply

    Yeah, that’s what I want… a woman who likes me because of the car I drive or the apartment/neighborhood I live in. Sounds like a great foundation for a lasting marriage.

  5. Jacinta-1007021 September 10, 2013 Reply

    What is the cost for this event?

    • Lisa-727959 September 10, 2013 Reply

      Hi, Jacinta,

      You can visit to see the registration fee and other info. CatholicMatch had scholarships available last week… you might contact them to see if there are any left.

      – Lisa Duffy

  6. Carol-799486 September 9, 2013 Reply

    A genuine smile and a sincere friendship and love showed coupled with aesthetic feature could make a passing grade. Its like leaving an imprint or a mark in his head that will make him miss you because you were different. Because you were you 🙂 pleasing in his eyes because you are a true person. Devoid of pretenses and scheming agenda just to win his attention and every one else around.
    But of course he has to be someone who is looking for someone like you all his life for him to notice you. Because no matter how pretty or sexy or genuine you are if you are not his cup of tea then there is nothing you can do but to accept and wait for one who is dreaming of you to come into his life. Attraction is like a magnet pulling you into one direction.

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