Give Your Single Friend a Gift Instead of Grief


CatholicMatch gift cardsWe arrive at my Aunt’s house for Christmas Eve dinner. The fire place is roaring, the Christmas tree is glowing and White Christmas is playing in the background. It is the perfect Christmas scene until …

“So are you dating anyone yet?”

In my mind the record needle is dragged across the White Christmas vinyl. I felt like everyone in the room stopped to hear the answer and my face burns red hot. I should be used to Aunt Carol asking me this question year after year, but I still feel the sweat running down my back.

I know many other singles will face this very question this Christmas season, so to all you Aunt Carols out there: instead of asking your friend or relative why they aren’t dating someone, give them a CatholicMatch gift card and increase their opportunity to meet someone special!

You can pick an amount that fits your budget by visiting or if you want to receive the gift card by Christmas call 888-267-8885.


And for those of you who have already met your special someone and started a family, check out our CatholicMatch store for CatholicMatch baby onesies, kid T-shirts and Mom and Dad T-shirts.



  1. Michelle-840744 December 18, 2013 Reply

    It all has to do with the intention of the person giving the gift, which we can never judge. Only God and the person giving the gift can know their ultimate intention behind it so in all charity the receiver should give the person the benefit of the doubt and gratefully receive it as coming from a pure and loving intention.

  2. Michele-989480 December 18, 2013 Reply

    I would not be offended at all if I received a gift card to CM as a present. It would spare me paying the membership fee out of my own pocket–lol!

  3. Bill-304473 December 17, 2013 Reply

    I agree with Carrie that giving a gift like credit at Target store, Panera Bread, or Best Buy is one thing. Giving a gift subscription to catholimatch is a personal matter and makes a statement about that one person. It says ‘He can use the HELP.)

  4. Bill-304473 December 17, 2013 Reply

    I understand what the giver supposedly thinks; but who is he to judge ‘what is best for you and to make you happy.’ No matter what he supposedly ‘thinks’, this is how he comes across. I’m happy with myself and don’t need some else’s assistance. Especially when what he wants is not even close to what I want. I guess it’s similar to telling a child what he wants for Christmas and giving it to him after he said he didn’t want it.

    Merry Christmas,

  5. Brian Barcaro December 17, 2013 Reply

    @Carrie well hopefully nobody gives you a CatholicMatch gift card this year. But I suspect there are many who would welcome such a gift with all the kindness and joy it intended by it. Certainly any gift card that could help result in stories like these ( is an agenda I think we need more of. Happy Advent & Merry Christmas!

  6. Carrie-529869 December 17, 2013 Reply

    Your original point was that when someone asks if you are dating someone, they are “giving you grief”.

    You explained in a very descriptive way the absolutely discomfort this causes, the distaste in the question, and by the title, called it “giving you grief.

    But then say that giving a gift card isn’t. ??? My point is that its WORSE. It’s passive aggressive and contains many hidden statements.

    A spa gift card can have many uses (everyone gets haircuts, everyone buys hair products). A catholic match gift card screams agenda.

  7. Robyn-917076 December 17, 2013 Reply

    I can understand why you feel a CatholicMatch gift card would have a hidden agenda, but the gift cards are not a meant to give the message that you need someone in your life (just like a spa gift card, is not meant to say that the recipient needs to make herself look better). CatholicMatch gift cards are just giving single Catholics an opportunity to meet someone and take full advantage of the services we offer. But more importantly, I think it is helpful to remember that when family members ask you if you are dating someone, they just want what is best for you and to make you happy. Maybe they don’t always have the best methods, but ultimately family and friends ask because they care about you.

  8. Carrie-529869 December 17, 2013 Reply

    Yea…this is pretty offensive. A gift card to a particular store, or generic bank one is something that honors the other person. A gift card to Catholic match makes a statement passive aggressively… having to do with the receivers personal life and vocation, that is NOT the givers business to judge, evaluate, or share an opinion about.

    Many things are said by this so-called “gift”.

    -“You must not know there is this avenue out there to meet someone, so now you do.”

    -“I feel sorry for you in your current state, surely you don’t like where you are in life, so here’s some help”

    -“You NEED someone in your life”

    -“You NEED someone in your life, and they should be Catholic”
    (note: I personally agree that Catholics should marry Catholics, but I don’t find a Christmas gift an appropriate way to TELL that to people).

    A gift with an agenda is not a gift.

    • Sarah-550187 December 18, 2013 Reply

      As someone who is on this site because of a gift card, I have to agree that all of the above was running though my head when I got it.

  9. Bill-304473 December 17, 2013 Reply

    Dear Robyvn,

    I agree with most of your articles; but, not this one. As for always hearing the same question, in my case it was ‘how did you get here’? Not being able to drive, I am sick of reiterating the same thing and remembering that I am so dependent. Being single, I would identify with that feeling you say you get. I’m reminded that I’m not in the mainstream. A gift card is the last thing I want. It would tell me that I have others’ sympathy and I must live their way, married. According to them, I’m dependent on a relationship, similar to the dependence of way of transpiortatiion.

    Merry Christmas,
    Bill Bruno

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