Still Single? You Can Overcome Discouragement


Caterina L

As a single person, you may be feeling like you’re ready to throw in the towel because you have not yet found that special someone you can share the rest of your life with. I understand those sentiments because I’ve walked in your shoes and I know being single is not always easy. Oftentimes, it is tempting to let your status as a single person characterize you or take over your outlook on life; it becomes your persona when you are in the room with other couples. But being single is only part of who you are as a person. It doesn’t define who you are, and neither should become an impediment to your happiness. Don’t give in to disappointment and discouragement, be an over-comer!

There are a lot of inspirational stories out there about people who refused to accept the odds they were given. Not only were they not content to give up the fight when things got tough, but they were joyful in their struggle to overcome their difficulties. For example, you may have heard of or even seen Nick Vujicic, a Serbian man born with no limbs and only one foot with two toes. Yet, he is a motivational speaker who has a double major in Accounting and Financial Planning at 28. Oh, and he also is the director of his own non-profit corporation, Life Without Limbs. Pretty impressive.

And then, there’s Gianna Jessen, who survived an abortion and now goes around the country speaking to people about her ordeal with the hope of changing hearts with her message of protecting life from conception to natural death. The list goes on and on with people who have overcome seemingly insurmountable odds and gone on to live full and happy lives, even though for a period of time, things looked pretty bad.

With this in mind, I’d like to bring a wonderful story to your attention, that of Gwyneth Susil. Gwyneth grew up in Bethesda, MD, the daughter of Joan and George Weigel. A devout Catholic, she entered the medical profession and became a pediatrician. She married happily and gave birth to a son, but lost her husband to cancer soon after. She had to help her son and herself heal from this devastating blow. Gwyneth is an overcomer, because as the years progressed, she worked hard and didn’t allow her loss to hold her back from continuing to be a good mother to her son and live a full life.

In the fall of 2012, she met Jeffrey Spaeder through an online dating service and began a long-distance relationship. They became engaged after eight months of dating, married late last year, and are now living in North Carolina. You can read the full story here.

Recently, Catholic author and speaker, Dr. Janet Smith, posted this on Facebook:

Gwyneth Susil, daughter of George Weigel, was a student of mine at Dallas. Brilliant young woman. If this is the kind of people who can connect on the internet, I urge all of my single friends looking for spouses to use these services. What a fantastic match!

Online dating truly is a safe and effective way to meet people who are looking for a relationship. CatholicMatch has hundreds of success stories and you could be the next! If you’re feeling down about not meeting someone yet, don’t get discouraged, be an over-comer. You have a special story that will be told when the time is right. Be pro-active in your search for the right one and trust God’s providence. He never disappoints!

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  1. Michael-369664 June 17, 2014 Reply

    Thanks Marie for saying that. You can do everything right to meet or find someone and still end up with no one. After a while it’s just an endurance contest to hang on. Then desperation sets in, and finally you just stop trying. If you’re old enough, you’ve been seen, and if no responds, then what? Hang on until…?
    It becomes a vicious circle with no end in sight.

  2. Marie-575233 March 6, 2014 Reply

    I am at a point in my life where these inspirational stories do not inspire me. These are extraordinary people. All i do is give and give of myself and I get little or nothing in return. I do not the energy of these people. My emotional tank is empty.

  3. Terrence-337209 February 1, 2014 Reply

    Or perhaps, it might just be that a great many of us are called to live a single life and glorify Him in that manner. It isn’t about what “we’ want.

  4. Maria-1022025 January 28, 2014 Reply

    Thank you Lisa, loved this article!! We need more articles like this one 🙂 A little motivation and a kind reminder not to give up can really boost morale!

  5. Ruby-991269 January 27, 2014 Reply

    Sometimes we hope for a quick miracle but I do know that when the time is right, God will bring the best person who will be for keeps.

  6. Rowena-1046696 January 27, 2014 Reply

    As days past by you will wish hope he will come sooner. 🙂 but that keep me moving w/ a big smile.cause i know God give me the right guy for the right patience for waiting single’s our time well come soon.

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