Be Mine, Cranky Valentine?



I’m told that Valentine’s Day is a day for us to show the ones we care about how much we love them. If Valentine’s Day is just like any other day, why does it make me feel so cranky?

There I said it.

I feel as though Valentine’s Day is a mean girl pointing at me and laughing that I’m not dating anyone again this year. Since Cupid’s arrow has missed the mark several years in a row, I would rather just skip Valentine’s Day. I don’t want to hear about the special roses sale or the fantastic new recipes that I can make for that special someone. And after reading the statistic on couples who get engaged on Valentine’s Day, I think I’ll go sulk in my room and listen to depressing music.

Why do I let this day bother me so much? Maybe it is because I feel as though everyone and their brother is dating someone—except me. This day reminds me that I would like to be married and have children—but that hasn’t happened yet.

If you feel the same way about Valentine’s Day, fight the urge to sit home and listen to sad music or watch chick flicks the whole night. Don’t torture yourself by staying at home alone this Friday. Make plans to meet up with friends or visit someone who needs to feel loved. Take advantage of this day to show love in only the way you can.

If you need ideas about how to spend this day of love, I invite you to browse our collection of Valentine’s Day articles written especially for single Catholics. You’ll find a variety of articles that are not only helpful, but practical, and spiritual too.

As for me, I have a date with Jesus this Valentine’s Day. My friends and I are going to a holy hour at a perpetual Eucharistic adoration chapel. In the quiet of that hour I will ask Jesus to reveal his plan for me—and I will be praying for all of you. I’m not sure what God has in store for me, but I am ready for the journey.

On Valentine’s Day your heart may feel lonely, but take comfort in knowing that your heart is being pursued by the King of Kings. His love is real, transforming, and will bring everlasting life.

How will you be celebrating Valentine’s Day? Be sure to leave me a comment below.



  1. Jeannie-822585 January 22, 2015 Reply

    Does anyone recognize this as a rerun article from last Valentine’s Day? Hardily agree to spend it in a way that would be uplifting, turn on some praise music because He is so faithful as well all know, and maybe get together with people who find themselves in the same circumstance do something fun together like watch a movie and have pizza and a beer and before doing that, visit the elderly in your family, maybe someone in a Nursing Home–it will bring a new perspective on your situation, remember, God won’t take away your anointing of your vocation to marriage because you spend the day without a loved one–pray for that person. Just remember, God is crazy in love with you 🙂 Happy Valentine’s Day.

  2. Robert W. February 18, 2014 Reply

    We had a good sized snowstorm in MA the day before Valentine’s Day, and it took 13-1/2 hours over 2 days to clean up from it. So I guess you can say that since I live alone in the house I own, I had a Valentine’s date and dance with my snow shovel!

  3. Michelle-989480 February 14, 2014 Reply

    I have enjoyed celebrating Valentine’s Day ever since childhood. As an adult, it doesn’t bother me if I am single or in a relationship–I still celebrate. Roses, chocolates, cards, friends, family—in our hectic times it is nice to pause and celebrate the greatest of God’s emotions and give Him extra thanks for His love in this world.

  4. Liz-609023 February 13, 2014 Reply

    You’re right. I’ll spend Valentine’s Day with Jesus, He is my beloved and I am his. I’ll read Song of Songs and play songs based on the Song of Songs. I’ll think of some more things I’m sure. Thanks for reminding me of that. Usually I ignore Valentine’s Day.

  5. Victoria-691000 February 13, 2014 Reply

    I’m having dinner with 2 friends. Next month (I think, have to double check) I finish up with CM. Thank goodness. Getting tired of leaving messages and getting no responses. Not exactly the creature From the Black Lagoon, but apparently others think so. You know what? Not ready to give up looking for Mr Right, even though I probably should, since I’m in my 50s. Maybe others think so. But I think I will find him elsewhere, thank you very much.

    • Laurelie-898130 March 16, 2016 Reply

      Tell me about it! Had one guy who instead of simply ignoring my lighthearted message made a point of indicating he did not want to communicate with me! Wow…how very “christian” of him!

  6. Jon-1060512 February 13, 2014 Reply

    I believe most singles are usually sad/cranky/depressed on Valentines day because of the society we live in. Society has convinced us that we should buy gifts, over priced flowers, chocolates (probably left over from Christmas) and cards for our significant other on Valentine’s day.

    I seen an ad for chocolate covered gourmet strawberries. Half dozen chocolate covered gourmet strawberries for $29.99. Makes me wonder; if Valentine’s day was celebrated 365 days a year with strawberries selling at that price, I don’t think we would have any drug dealers. Everyone would move into chocolate covered strawberries business.

    I hope you find your soul mate and may be get to spend your next Valentine with sometime. But until then, chin up and stay strong.

    Good luck

  7. Becky-1046657 February 13, 2014 Reply

    My single friends and I have decided to celebrate “Pal”entine’s Day and have a fun evening of just celebrating good friendship.

  8. Leanne-387609 February 13, 2014 Reply

    I’m going to my usual Young Adult Adoration group that day. We are having a Bible Study on love beforehand on First Corinthians(ie. “Love is patient, Love is kind.”) I am basically spending it with friends.

  9. Tony-705734 February 12, 2014 Reply

    I plan on posting on Facebook for all to have a Happy “Christian Martyr who is being taken advantage of by Big Business to sell candy, cards, flowers, and other stuff to make couples happy, while reminding Singles that they are SINGLE” day. Too bitter?

  10. Cathy-946377 February 12, 2014 Reply

    I celebrate Singles Awareness Day by dressing in black. Adoration on said day is a great idea. Thanks for the suggestion.

  11. Ann-69118 February 12, 2014 Reply

    I guess I’m weird Valentines day has never bothered me. I’m usually working and it’s always been more of a day to trade small gifts with family rather than a romantic love holiday.

  12. Sara-979131 February 12, 2014 Reply

    Robyn, thanks so much for the suggestion of the Holy Hour on Valentine’s Day. I have no problem watching all the flurry of activity on this special day- actually I am pretty sentimental about it all and it gives me surges of joy to see Love celebrated. But since we know there is no marrying in heaven (!), we really owe it to ourselves to renew our affections for God. He alone suffice/s.

  13. Brenda-1013607 February 12, 2014 Reply

    I love Danielle Rose’s song “Nothing Compares to You.” Taken from her CD recorded right before she entered a convent to discern a religious vocation, it reminds me that even when I am called into married life, I will always be first and foremost God’s. He will always be able to love me best, as His love is perfect.

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