A Long-Distance Relationship on a Budget


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Meg wasn’t in a situation where she expected a serious relationship to materialize. The 34-year-old from northeastern Pennsylvania was open to the possibility, as evidenced by her participation on CatholicMatch. But she was temporarily living in North Carolina for school and was in a situation where the budget was tight. She didn’t expect big things.

AdamMeg2“Strange travel directions are dancing lessons from God,” Meg said, recalling one of her favorite expressions. And it turned out that God’s plan would have her dancing all the way to California.

Adam was 41-years-old and living in the Golden State. It turns out that both he and Meg decided to attend last year’s National Catholic Singles Conference, held in Philadelphia this past September. Meg was volunteering at the NCSC, and it was at this conference that Adam set up his own profile. Although they didn’t connect at the conference, Meg reached out to him on CatholicMatch and the romance began.

“Through emails and Skype we began learning more of each other’s story,” Meg said. They read books together and shared CDs of their favorite Catholic talks. They got together on Google Hangouts for one online “date” to listen to webinar hosted by CatholicMatch’s own Lisa Duffy.

“Before we knew it, three month had gone by of multi-hour Skype calls each night and surprises sent to one another via mail,” Meg recalled. In the early part of this year, Adam got on a plane and came to North Carolina for a visit.

Another in-person meeting convinced Meg even more that Adam was someone special. “From being a complete gentleman, to being up for adventure, to hanging out with my family, I knew Adam was one special guy and I was blessed,” she said. Meg further likes the fact that Adam has what she terms “calming and soothing influence on me,” helping her to stay grounded.

Two months later, Meg returned the favor and flew west to visit Adam and his family. “Two weeks in California while North Carolina battled another wintry ice storm went by entirely too fast,” Meg recalled.


Adam and Meg are still discerning where God is ultimately leading them. Meg admitted the need for patience is challenging, but they have something in their immediate future to look forward to—a trip to Colorado in May to meet again.

A long-distance relationship on a shoestring budget wasn’t what Meg had planned for herself, but neither she nor Adam are complaining. “I know God’s plans are so much bigger than I can even try to dream up for my life,” she said. “I’m so incredibly grateful for what I’ve been given.”

Meg is wrapping up school and on her way to Ohio to begin the next chapter of her life, with Adam a part of it, as they look forward to sharing more of the opportunities presented to them.

One of those opportunities they’ve been given is to return to the National Catholic Singles Conference together. The 2014 event will be held in San Diego from August 8-10, just an hour’s drive from Adam’s hometown.

They’ll be there. CatholicMatch will be there. We hope to see you there too.



  1. Paul-189054 May 2, 2014 Reply

    The NCSC’s do sound fun, and I have never been to San Diego and I may try to go. If you do meet someone at a singles conference, and find you have a lot in common and are interested in each other but live far apart, I think it might be a little easier to have a long distance relationship since you have already met and know what each other is like in person. Jason Evert says in one of his talks on dating and finding your soul mate to not date online, meaning it’s fine to meet online using a good Catholic site, but don’t “date” for months through just e-mails without meeting each other, and that makes sense to me.

  2. Marcus-639827 May 1, 2014 Reply

    It can be done. My sister met her husband online (on Catholic Match) and they lived far apart. They got to know each other pretty well without very many face to face visits before getting married. And that was without Skype!

  3. Tara-1015701 May 1, 2014 Reply

    Hey Meg!!!

    You know how happy I am for you!!! I am so blessed to call you my friend!!! I know you will have a happy life together!! 🙂 THANK YOU!

  4. Pat-5351 April 30, 2014 Reply

    I myself have been to 4 NCSCs, and I was pleasantly surprised at each how MANY men there were there. I would say it’s about 60/40 women to men. I think that is pretty good myself, given that most “singles” events there are 3 women for every man.

    I also say this to say, men, this is GOLDEN opportunity for you in particular.

    I cannot encourage people enough to attend these conferences. 500 unmarried Catholics, all in one room for three days? How can you really not take that opportunity over random visits to a bar, or party, or even your own parish which is so hit or miss in finding people like you? Yes, you might meet someone not from your geographic area, but as the above story shows, you never know what can happen.

    And San Diego is gorgeous and a great place to have a mini vacation before or after the conference. I hope many of you all will attend!

  5. Mary-895491 April 30, 2014 Reply

    not enough men.

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